How to comfort the aggrieved person?

What do you do when someone around you is sad and crying? Will you comfort him? Can you comfort him effectively? Today, Bian Xiao takes you to discuss "How to comfort the sad people effectively", hoping to help you become a master who is good at inspiring others.

So how can we effectively comfort others? The following small series will teach you step by step.

First of all, you should listen to each other's ideas. You should listen carefully to what the other party said and didn't say anything, and then try to figure out the real meaning behind the other party's words in your mind. Don't rush to ask each other the ins and outs of things, and don't rush to share your own story. You should first listen to what the other person wants to express to you quietly and attentively, which is exactly where the other person's heart lies.

Then, you have to feel * * * with each other, which is simply empathy. You should express the feelings that the other person wants to say but doesn't say it, so that the other person will be completely sure that "you know him", will be more willing to listen to you and will be more able to listen to you.

Then, you should give each other appropriate comfort. However, it must be noted that giving comfort is by no means telling the other party "You should …" or "You shouldn't …". We don't need to agree or disagree with other people's feelings to express your concern for each other. The comfort that really strikes people's hearts must be: don't judge others, but also give others enough space to keep their feelings. Because everyone has the right to keep their true feelings.

Last but not least, you must allow the other person to cry. In the face of a person who loves to cry, people often say something like "Don't cry, don't be sad …". In fact, crying is a way for the human body to excrete toxins produced by bad emotions, and it is also an essential process for psychological healing. So don't rush to stop the other person from crying. You can accompany him silently and let him shed all the tears he wants comfortably. Because accepting the loss and learning to be sad is the best way to end the tragedy.