As a married man, having no sense of boundaries will be a hidden danger in marriage.

What do married men who have no sense of boundaries do to their wives?

Marriage has always been an exclusive intimate relationship, and no third person is allowed to participate, nor is any behavior beyond the boundary line allowed.

It may be the fuse to break the barrier of intimacy. "

Crossing the border:

"People who cross the line will never feel that they have crossed the line, because others will always be injured."

Remember the famous scene of the TV series "Nothing, Only Thirty"? The borderless sharing of an ice cream became the fuse of Xu Huanshan's betrayal. Although he has a capable wife, a lovely son, and a successful career, the lack of a sense of border has made him lose his dignity and ruined his marriage and family by himself.

Exclusivity of relationship: marriage has always been an exclusive intimate relationship, which occurs between two people who deeply need each other, and no third person is allowed to participate. Perhaps a vague word, a physical contact, any behavior beyond the boundary line may be the fuse to break the barrier of intimacy. Don't think I am alarmist. Think about it. How many feelings are destroyed because there is no sense of boundaries.

Many married men are reluctant to betray. In fact, he didn't want to make mistakes at first, but after long contact, he couldn't help himself. Naturally, something that shouldn't have happened happened. I thought I could control myself, but I couldn't.

Broken window effect:

"My husband often works overtime until late, so he often takes the initiative to send his female colleagues home. I have told him many times and I don't agree, and I am too sensitive. "

She was particularly uncomfortable and wondered if she was making a mountain out of a molehill, but the betrayal still happened.

Just want to tell you:

Broken window effect: when a bottom line is broken, its bottom line will always be low.

My male compatriots, especially married men, say that good cultivation means having a sense of boundaries. You should know your current state, what you should do and what you shouldn't do to avoid hurting your partner. ...

The following three boundaries can be forwarded to your partner:

Language boundary

Chatting is the hardest hit area of betrayal. Even if two strangers are in frequent contact every morning and evening, it will only take a week, and people will be dependent, and people will easily feel affection for people and things they are used to and make mistakes. If a married man often chats with the opposite sex, involving topics of privacy and ignorance, or calling each other nicknames or nicknames, it is likely to be a precursor to making mistakes.

Behavior boundary

This one, the answer has been given above. He can send his colleagues who work overtime home late, listen to others' heartfelt complaints, and live a life of self-knowledge at ordinary times ... He can understand all the hardships of others, but he can't see his wife's efforts. Shuttle chat, eating, holding hands ... tiny physical contact, step by step into private life, and then betray marriage. Everything is traceable and logical.

Psychological boundary

The disappearance of the desire to share is the beginning of a break. In intimate relationships, the desire to share is very important. Its essence is that I hope you can participate in my life, which is a proof that you want to live together. I don't care about the weather, what I eat, and I don't think it's strange to meet this ordinary person. But because of the sharing of details and the patience to listen, everything becomes beautiful. When he stops talking to you, when he cares about another person, it is obvious that his spiritual world has tried to open his heart to another person.

Loyal to each other

Tolstoy said: "Being together is marriage. Some people regard it as a joke, while others regard it as a solemn thing in the world. A marriage based on reason can be a happy marriage.

Some people say: "Married men have no sense of boundaries and no sense of guarding marriage. This is the biggest hidden danger in marriage. "

So, don't be the one who eats a bowl and watches the pot. Later, you will find that everything in the pot and bowl may not belong to you. May everyone be loyal to themselves and each other in their feelings. At present, if you are mired in marriage, you can talk about your situation, which may help you ~