How much harm did parents' life and matchmaker's words bring?

Parents' orders, matchmakers' words. What this sentence actually means is that the marriage of children should be decided by parents. As long as both parents agree, children can get married, even if they object. Moreover, in ancient times, marriage was never decided by oneself, and few people dared to resist their parents' orders.

This method actually applies to ancient times. Nowadays, it is impossible to get married in this way, especially now that young people are relatively independent, have their own ideas, and most parents will respect their children, so this situation is rare at present, and it can be said that it has almost disappeared. Next, I will talk about how much harm parents' life and matchmaker's words have brought to children.

1. Unhappy after marriage. Personally, I think that those who get married because of their parents' orders will never feel happy after marriage. This feeling is that two people live together like companions, which is different from those who come together because of love. Although it can't be said that the parents' choice is definitely not good, what parents value is definitely different from what they value. Parents may pay more attention to the economic conditions, work and personality of both sides, but pay more attention to feelings. Although we can't say how unfortunate it is to marry such a person, such a marriage really lacks some factors of love, and everyone will not feel so happy in marriage.

Second, there will be more contradictions. Another big drawback is that there may be more contradictions. Personally, I feel that most parents are anxious to get married. Otherwise, few people listen to their parents, especially in the matter of marriage. Only when they want to get married themselves will they agree. But this kind of marriage has a common problem, that is, the time spent together is short, so two people may get married before they get used to it, and there may be more contradictions after marriage.