A rural daughter-in-law bought 1,000 yuan of cosmetics and was thrown into the trash can by her mother-in-law: prodigal women are hated by people, right?

Whether before or after marriage, remember to make money well, so that you can "better" shut up those who don't want you to live a good life.

Women can spend money and treat themselves well, but there is a prerequisite that you have the ability to treat yourself well. Because when you have no ability, you have to rely on others, and when you rely on others, you have to look at other people's faces.

I have always recognized one thing: if a woman is good to herself financially, she must match her actual ability. Don't be like the woman I wrote about a few days ago. She has been "exquisitely poor" for half her life. When her parents need to support her in old age and she has difficulties, she can't even afford tens of thousands of yuan, and even has to borrow it. Water dripping chips.

When I visited rural areas, I discovered such a phenomenon. Nowadays, many rural wives like to dress up. They will buy expensive cosmetics and use beautiful makeup.

I always think this is a good phenomenon. Women should treat themselves better and dress themselves beautifully. In this way, a man looks like him, feels comfortable with himself, and feels more confident when he goes out.

But many rural mothers-in-law do not accept these pretense of women at all. Especially the kind of mothers-in-law who have been suffering all their lives and feel that they should endure hardships to save money and live for their children.

They are really sarcastic and can't stand the way they flatter their daughter-in-law. I once saw a mother-in-law scolding her daughter-in-law for dyeing her hair: "Aren't you embarrassed, do you think you are from the city? A rural woman dresses herself up all day long and doesn't know what she is thinking about all day long."

Not only does she dislike it, she also encourages her son to take care of her daughter-in-law. The mother-in-law said to her son: "You can't take care of her. She behaves like this all day long. Your mother and I are too embarrassed to go out."

The man scolded his wife on the spot, but who knew that daughter-in-law He was also very powerful. He took the eggs he just bought and threw them at the man.

The scene at that time feels a little funny when I think about it now. Zhang Li is also a very fierce rural woman. After she got married and gave birth to a child, she stopped working and took care of her children at home full time.

She talked about her difficulties: "I showed the child to my mother-in-law, but she didn't try her best at all. She only saw her work in the field. I gave the child to her, but she threw the child directly to the ground. Every time I talk to her, she says, "Can't you farm if you take care of your children? Can't you work if you take care of your children?" /p>

Zhang Li had to take care of the children by himself. But I have to take care of my children, and without one person to make money, life is a bit difficult.

Zhang Li is a girl who loves to dress up. Before she gave birth, she used about 1,000 cosmetics. She said: "Our rural girls, who are not going to college, go to work very early. They have saved some money, and it is normal to buy 1,000 yuan of cosmetics for themselves. They are richer than you student girls."< /p>

After she gave birth to the child, for about two years, she looked after the child every day. She was really unkempt and rarely dressed up. Because the child would grab her hair and put her lipstick on her little face. Zhang Li was afraid that her cosmetics would be bad for her children, so she rarely put on makeup.

But now Zhang Li's child is more than two years old and sensible. She just thought that she should dress up and dress herself up. She bought 1,000 yuan of cosmetics and placed them on the table in the living room.

When her mother-in-law saw it, she fiddled with it and asked her: "What are the things I bought, bottles and cans. How much does it cost?"

Zhang Li said: "Don't touch mine, here are these 1,000 yuan items."

Who knew that Zhang Li's mother-in-law would not be happy when she heard that these cosmetics cost 1,000 yuan. She took the cosmetics and glared at Zhang Li and said, "I can only earn 1,000 yuan from growing cotton on an acre of land. How can you spend money like this? Is it easy for my son to make money? I spent it all on you. If you keep spending like this, no one will be able to support you. If you don’t save enough money to get a wife for my grandson, you will squander it. When the time comes, my grandson won’t be able to get a wife, and he will blame you for wasting his family.”

< p>Zhang Li's mother-in-law became angrier as she talked, and finally threw all the bottles and cans into the trash can. She said: "I threw them all at you, everything.

I'll see if you want to buy it in the future, it won't be embarrassing. You buy it once and I throw it away once. When I see these things of yours, I get angry. If you don’t make a penny, you just know how to spend it. ”

Zhang Li was a shrewd person and had a quarrel with her mother-in-law. She asked her mother-in-law to pick up those things for her, but her mother-in-law not only refused to pick them up, but also threw everything in the trash can directly into the river.

Zhang Li was so angry that her mother-in-law returned home cursing. Her mother-in-law first called her son and said confidently: "Your wife spent 1,000 yuan on cosmetics. Throw it to her. Our family cannot afford to support a daughter-in-law who uses such expensive cosmetics. If she keeps doing this, just wait for your son to become someone's son-in-law. "

Zhang Li also called the man. She didn't want to scold the old man, so she scolded her man. Finally, the man said: "Anyway, the money is in your hands, you can just buy it again. . Don't let her know if you buy it again. ”

Zhang Li went to her mother-in-law’s house with her child in her arms, and bought another set of cosmetics online in front of her mother-in-law. She said to her mother-in-law: “You throw it away once, and I’ll buy it once.” Let me see if you still have more or if I bought more. Anyway, it’s your son’s money and your grandson’s money. ”

Zhang Li’s mother-in-law didn’t dare to do anything to Zhang Li. After all, she was the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law who were separated by one layer. She also called her son and scolded her son, asking him to put all the money in her hands in the future. , must not be left to Zhang Li, a prodigal daughter.

But it is too difficult to find a wife in rural areas. Zhang Li’s husband does not dare not to hand over his salary, and Zhang Li’s mother-in-law does not dare to force him. The son is divorced.

Because they know better than anyone that it is too difficult to find a wife after divorce. The battle between Zhang Li and her mother-in-law ended in Zhang Li's failure. Her mother-in-law felt that her current daughter-in-law was really too much.

After this incident, Zhang Li also felt a sense of crisis in her marriage. So much confidence. The man spent 2,000 yuan on cosmetics first. The children need to spend money, and they also need to live.

Zhang Li’s evening. At that time, she began to feel sorry for the 2,000 yuan she spent because they were really not rich. She suddenly had a strong desire to work, even if it was a part-time job.

Because she felt that she was the only one. Once you make money and have money, you will have the confidence and stability to spend money to support yourself.

Zhang Li’s mother-in-law didn’t dare to throw away the cosmetics she bought, and she used them very sparingly. She began to live her life carefully. She thought that when her child was three years old and sent to kindergarten, she would go to work immediately.

In this life, a woman can only spend her own money and feel most at ease. /p>

Advice to all mothers-in-law: No matter how much you dislike your daughter-in-law, remember, as long as your son doesn’t dislike it and as long as your son doesn’t say anything, don’t worry about anything.

My husband’s sister-in-law also likes to wear makeup and dresses herself up every day. My mother-in-law doesn’t like it because she thinks that my sister-in-law is very poor and has many children, so she doesn’t like it. She works to make money. She has no money, but she dresses up so well. My mother-in-law thinks that she is overestimating her abilities and that it is embarrassing.

She often said that to my sister-in-law. I was very worried that my sister-in-law would run out of money and her grandchildren would not be able to afford a wife in the future.

After I got married, I told my mother-in-law about this once. Say, don’t worry about so many things. You can live your life as long as your husband doesn’t mind. If you, as a mother-in-law, don’t talk about it, will you let your child be raised by her?

My mother-in-law is very good. If she thinks what you say makes sense, she will listen even if she doesn’t want to.

Advice to all daughters-in-law: Your consumption level must be related to your actual situation. If you don’t think about the long term, you must worry about the short term. Men are like rake, and women are like boxes. You must be a good box.

I have visited rural areas, and I really do not recommend that rural wives give their children to their mother-in-law. Even if it is difficult to take care of children by yourself, it is still best to take care of them yourself.

During this period, it will be very difficult for both you and the man.

You can buy expensive cosmetics and expensive clothes, but you must consider your actual situation and don’t make ends meet, let alone borrow money to “rich” yourself.

My sister-in-law doesn’t have much money, so she spends money very ruthlessly. One month, she bought a lot of things online. Not only did she spend all the man's money, she also borrowed 3,000 yuan from others.

The two have been married for 12 years and have three children. They don’t have a penny of savings and instead owe a lot of money. It’s not that men don’t make good money. In many families where men make as much money as they do, women also look after their children at home. They also have many children, but they have already saved up to buy a car.

You see, this is the gap between women running a family.

I have never objected to women enriching themselves. When the seasons change, they can buy some good clothes. When men pay their wages, they can reward their men and relax themselves. This is fine. But remember the premise is that it is within the scope of what your small family can afford. Within the scope of your plan to save money.

Advice to rural women:

Don’t be blind when it comes to giving birth, but look at your actual situation. If financial conditions do not allow it, don’t have more children.

After your children can go to school, go out to work as soon as possible. Don't be lazy, don't be too tired. Remember, only when you make money and spend money by yourself can you feel secure and comfortable.