How to become an interesting person

1. Extensive knowledge

This does not guarantee that you will be interesting, it can only ensure that you are not bored. Not boring means that you can talk about anything all day long, rather than um um oh oh and you have nothing to talk about. Only by spreading the knowledge can we ensure that there is some nonsense.

In fact, "interesting", like "beauty" and "elegance", requires money to cultivate. A girl who has traveled to 50 countries around the world and been in and out of halls since she was a child can never be bored. Ordinary girls, firstly, stay curious, participate in as many life experiences as possible, and try everything they have never tried before. I started to pursue "plainness is true" at a young age, mostly because my knowledge is too short; secondly, read more, because reading is the cheapest way to gain knowledge, bar none.

2. Keen perception

I have an aunt who always tastes terrible when cooking. It is very difficult for me to understand why she can do something like cooking which is not difficult at all. No progress has been made in decades. Later I discovered that it wasn’t that she didn’t know how to cook, but that she was used to being poor when she was a child and couldn’t eat well. It's like a blind man can't draw.

And this kind of perception is sometimes a disease of wealth, and it is not easy for poor people to obtain it. Starving people just want to eat enough. Only when they are full can they differentiate the taste of different dishes. But poor people don’t have money or time. If you don’t have money to attend a concert, you can listen to mp3s. If you don’t have money to watch a movie, you can watch it on your computer. Feel as many subtle differences in life as possible and distinguish these small differences.

Be as alert as a rabbit, turning on all the sensors in your body. When walking on the road, you can see how other girls dress and think about whether it suits you; the leaves are falling in autumn, take a closer look and see if you find any other kind of beauty. Everything you taste begins with reference, and the premise of reference comes from perception.

Perception also lies in perceiving people’s emotions and attitudes. Why didn't she wear the bracelet she had been wearing for several years today? Why did he hesitate to lower his head and not look at me when he just said he didn't have time on the weekend? If he doesn't go, he won't go. Why does he, who usually talks less, talk about such a long list of reasons why he won't go?

For example, in Dream of Red Mansions, the old lady said in front of Aunt Xue: "Auntie, to be honest, none of the four girls in our family can compare with Miss Bao." She would be an old lady praising Xue Baochai, would she be complacent? But people with keen perception can break down the meaning of this sentence - there are only 4 girls in the Jia family, one is married as a concubine, and three are still in the boudoir. Is it possible that your precious girl dares to compare with the concubine? Empress? Of course not, so these four girls are the ladies of three boudoirs, plus one Lin Daiyu. So Lin Daiyu is our own girl, you are not.

An interesting girl who can keenly perceive changes in the world and cause ripples in her heart. She must first find the world interesting before she can be interesting.

3. Sufficient appreciation and execution ability

The difference in appreciation is the difference between "folding plum blossoms and putting them in a vase" and "folding plum blossoms and beating pigs".

First of all, you have to distinguish between superior and inferior. Aesthetics is not a monolithic path. There are many ways to be beautiful, but there is indeed a benchmark for the degree of beauty. Lolita with heavy lace and ruffles can be stunning, and a one piece black and white look can also be stunning. If you look at photos of yourself from a few years ago and want to beat yourself up, congratulations, your aesthetics have evolved.

Girls who have received a certain degree of education can guarantee their basic aesthetic. The difficulty lies in how to implement this aesthetic. For example, I can appreciate the haute couture at Paris fashion shows, and I think it’s beautiful, but I can’t afford it. I liked the Ru kiln plate and thought it was very transparent, but I couldn't show it in reverse.

If you only have appreciation but no execution ability, you cannot show it, just like Wang Yuyan who knows all kinds of martial arts but has no ability to tie a chicken - no one will think that she has real kung fu.

Here’s another piece from Chen Yun: Yu loves small drinks but doesn’t like many dishes. Yun placed a plum blossom box with six deep two-inch white porcelain dishes, one in the middle and five on the outside. It was painted with gray and shaped like plum blossoms. The bottom cover is all corrugated, and there is a handle like a flower stalk on the top of the cover. When placed on the desk, it is like a dark plum covering the table. When you open the cover and look at it, it is like vegetables packed in petals. A box of six colors, two or three confidants, you can do whatever you want. Feed. Add more after eating.

Shen Fu is a poor man. Plum blossom boxes and white porcelain plates are very common things here. They look beautiful together and make you feel good while eating. Thinking of eating at home, my mother thinks it’s better to put dishes in bowls because they are convenient to put in the refrigerator and can put more on the table. Dad thinks we should use all kinds of plates, the reason is that it looks good and makes you feel good. I think at this point, Dad’s attitude towards life is more interesting.

Another paragraph:

When the cauliflower is yellow, there is no need to have a drink in a restaurant;

Going with a box and having a cold drink with the flowers, it has no meaning at all, or it may be controversial. Those who are looking for a drink nearby, or those who want to drink after looking at the flowers, are not as quick as drinking hot drinks from the flowers. So Chen Yun came up with a clever plan. She hired a wonton seller for a hundred coins to carry his load to the South Garden, and a group of friends chose to eat under the peach shade. Sit down and cook tea first, then wine and food. The wind was warm and the sun was shining, gold was everywhere, green shirts and red sleeves were everywhere, butterflies and bees were flying across the country, making people drunk without drinking. Soon the wine and food were cooked, and they sat on the ground and chewed. When tourists see it, they will all admire it as a fantasy. The cups and plates are in a mess, and everyone is sitting or lying down, singing or whistling, until the sunset, eating porridge to satisfy their hunger, and returning home happily.

It means that Shen Fu wants to have a picnic or bbq, and eat hot wine while admiring the cauliflower, but every time he brings a food box, the wine goes cold, which makes him unhappy. Chen Yun spent hundreds of dollars to hire a wonton basket and cooked tea and wine on the spot, allowing Shen Fu and his gay friends to eat and watch happily. It was great to think about it. This technique of spending a small amount of money to achieve great happiness is very remarkable. The difficulty lies in thinking about it.

I have seen many girls like this in my life. For a few dozen yuan of white T-shirt, add a vintage sweater chain; for a few yuan of jelly powder, you can buy it home and make a large pot of fresh fruit jelly; with a small bottle of olive oil and a small bottle of medical alcohol, you can make your own rose essential oil. In a certain girl's company, my colleagues watched the finals on the night of the World Cup. They ordered several large pots of crayfish, and booked a housekeeping aunt to peel lobsters all night. They just watched the game, drank beer, and ate crayfish meat - all without spending any money. If you have more, the key is to be able to spend it and spend it wisely.

4. Not casual, with unique personal labels and clear preferences

Cats especially like to rub people’s heads because their odor-retaining glands are behind the ears. You leave your own scent.

To put it harshly, people also need to mark themselves in this way. Otherwise, how can people remember you?

A girl who always says "whatever" when ordering food may not be offensive, but it is not easy for people to remember her either. People are more likely to remember people with clear preferences, such as the girl who likes eating meat or the girl who is vegetarian, rather than the girl who says "whatever".

Many boring girls have one thing in common: they have no hobbies, they don’t know what they like, they have no hobbies and no specialties. Many times I feel that going to work is just a way to make money. I spend time in exchange for money. After get off work, life really begins and it is the time I want. In a life without hobbies, if work does not go well, it is easy to feel depressed and lifeless.

Hobby is a very effective way to increase the interest value. Because of love, you will invest more time in what you love and learn more knowledge, thereby broadening your knowledge. If a person's face is roughly compared to a circle, hobbies are the raised corners of the circle.

Something like this

Then it will become like this.

Have you noticed that the red unshaded portion has increased? Well, your interesting value has increased again.

Zhang Dai said: "You can't make friends with people without quirks, because they don't have deep affection." "Quickness" is a thing that shows the depth of human affection.

Having one or more "quirks" can give you more opportunities to exceed the other person's expectations, have more surprises, and thus appear more interesting.

5. There are small flaws, but the temperament is the same

Zhang Dai also said, "You can't make friends with people who are flawless, because they have no true energy." No one has a small flaw, and all kinds of high-mindedness seem too fake and inhumane. Many girls have a male god in their hearts. When do you think a male god is interesting? Is it a basketball hit or a scholarship, a promotion or a salary increase, or a hit concert?

Neither. When a male god is interesting, it is often when he breaks away from his godhood and becomes a human being.

He fell down on the court, he stayed up all night watching football the night before the exam, he looked stinky when he quarreled with his clients, even though he was obviously a superstar and sometimes he was shy.

Interesting is not perfection, it is sincerity, true temperament, laughing when you are happy, crying when you are not happy, and passionate. But these sincerities are within the scope of innocuousness, and they are not crazy when you are happy or acting wildly when you are not happy.

An interesting girl, she must speak her mind straightly; even if she plots against others, it is a big scheme: I am just playing with you, why don't you come and bite me.

6. Independent personality, opinionated, able to persist, and able to refute

It is said that when you refute someone, people will pay a lot more attention to you than Praise works. Therefore, President Mary Su’s idea in Xiaoyan’s drama is correct: refute the rich, handsome, and attract attention. It's just that the author is not intelligent enough to write more advanced plots.

If not - "The little secretary objected to the president's inexplicable bullying, insisted that civilians also have personalities, or accidentally messed up documents and poured coffee to gain attention",

And Yes - "The small finance person objected to the president's pricing of the new corporate bonds at too low a price, because wind-proof money was tight, and the current bills of regular customers showed that they had little surplus but still pretended, so it was very likely that the funds were insufficient; at the same time, the company's The delivery of an option transaction is far away and has been faced with multiple margin pressures. If the delivery is not careful, the financial director will keep silent in order to shirk responsibility."

-If written like this, the president will definitely treat the small financial officer What impressed him so much, coupled with the childish makeup, the fearless expression, and the anxious but plausive tone, he really felt that this newcomer was silly, but interesting.

The prerequisite for refutation is to have an opinion. I refute it because I think it is not the case, rather than refute it just for the sake of refuting it because I don’t like it. But being assertive is the most difficult thing. You need to have knowledge and logic to establish your own complete set of world views, and to move within your own world view in a "logical and self-consistent" manner, only then can you use this set of logic to refute others.

My husband once asked me what my most basic requirements are for a boyfriend. I said, at least you can refute me and convince me once. Because it is a very pleasant experience to be convinced by someone's words - it is the kind where the door to a new world is opened. In the worldview I have built for decades, my unbreakable knowledge and logical structure have been adjusted by you. Now, my worldview is more complete and solid.

Everyone has his own perception of the world. Find someone who can contradict me and share with me the world that he has that I don’t have. I have more of the world.

7. Self-deprecating mentality

The prerequisite for self-deprecation is self-confidence. You have to be very confident to laugh at yourself.

Looking carefully at the quarrel between Lin Daiyu and Shi Xiangyun, one said, "He was originally the princess's daughter, and I was a commoner's girl." The other said, "He was the master's girl, and I was a slave girl." It's quite interesting. , these two people are both princes and daughters, so they can speak so openly and openly about being self-contemptuous, because they all know that neither I nor the person I am talking about is who I say. If these words were spoken by scolding Miaoyu or Xing Xiuyan, it would not have the same effect at all.

An interesting person often has a sense of humor, and there are high and low levels of humor. Some people really think that it is humorous for couples to have wedding ceremonies, or for the groom's parents to wear underwear and draw turtles to parade around the streets; some crosstalk sketches that make fun of disabled people think it is humorous; there are also some people who speak elegantly, and they are funny once they hear it, and they are overjoyed when they hear it again. The associations are rich, and the whip is penetrating.

8. Quick reaction ability

Interesting is often associated with alertness and quick reaction. Because the opportunity to be clever in many situations passes in an instant. If you don't say this sentence at the time, after 3 seconds, you may not be able to say it again. If you don't say this when you are fighting with someone, when you look back and think about it, you will never have the chance again.

And this kind of alertness is often associated with self-confidence.

Sometimes, I clearly think of something, but I dare not say it for fear of saying it wrong. But what if I say it wrong? The more I was afraid of saying something wrong, the less I would say it. In the end, I just didn’t say it. I felt very safe. It would have been better if I didn’t say it. However, from then on, I was labeled as dull and it was difficult to get over it.

I don’t know how to improve this after adulthood. It won’t be wrong to chat more and think more. But for children, I would like to say that a lot of this dullness and alertness are developed in adolescence. Parents who are impatient, treat their children as pets rather than as independent persons, and lack the patience for equal dialogue and logical communication (similar to "Why don't you listen to me when you eat and use mine?") will suppress children's communication and communication. The desire to express eventually became dull. I have seen many such dull children, and I have also seen many smart children with kind and reasonable parents.

9. Imaginative innovation and breakthrough

I say that the essence of fun is an accident and a surprise. To produce unexpected results, it is best to do what no one has done before. Chatting about old jokes from 800 years ago, doing things according to the rules and not going beyond the bounds, it is difficult to make people interested. The premise of innovation is rich imagination, or the ability to associate.

Many times we think that imagination is an independent ability, and that imagination itself is an ability. But countless historical facts tell us that imagination is largely based on the knowledge I mentioned in the first point.

The life in the palace imagined by farmers is that "the emperor must use gold poles"; the life imagined by peasant women is "the empress of the west palace sells eggs, and the empress of the east palace bakes big cakes". Early science fiction novels such as The high-tech descriptions of future life in Erner's series were mostly based on mechanical innovation, with various buttons and machines, because they were works of the mechanical age.

Most of the machines in subsequent science fiction novels are touch-screen holographic screens, and rarely have rows of buttons. Why? Because our knowledge structure has upgraded, we know that we don't need buttons on keyboards to appear in the high-tech future. Perhaps our imagination of the future will be further improved in the future. And these imaginations are based on our understanding of the current world.

So, what I want to say is that the prerequisite for imagination and innovation is sufficient knowledge reserves.

After that, if you imitate, transfer, graft, connect, twist, combine, and cut various knowledge reserves, it may be an innovation.