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If you care too much about other people's opinions, you will live in the shadow of others. Always caring about other people's opinions, invisibly increasing the burden on yourself. You should do your own thing and take into account other people's opinions. In the end, there is nothing you can do. The only feasible way is to care about whether what you do is moral, whether you are sure of success, do what you think is right, and never stop your actions because of outside comments.

From a psychological point of view, people are afraid of loneliness and being abandoned by society, so it is normal to pay attention to the evaluation of others around them. This is because if you want to share some needs and desires with most people, sometimes you have to compromise with them. For some things, you just follow the mainstream view and it is not easy to have your own subjective ideas, because you are afraid that you will be rejected by most people. And if a person doesn't care about anything, he will be numb. However, it depends on what the problem is. It's not normal if you are careful about everything for fear that others will think badly of you.

There is a story among the people in China: a scholar rode a mule and took a book to Beijing to catch the exam. When passing a village, someone pointed to the back and said, "Look, this scholar is riding a mule to catch the exam." Hearing this, the scholar gave the mule to others and walked with the very young people. Not far away, I heard someone say, "This scholar went to Beijing to catch the exam, and brought an extremely good boy." The scholar made another remark and set off with a book. Soon, I met a village man who was farming. Seeing that the scholar picked a lot of books, he said, "Hey, pick so many books to catch the exam?" Hearing this, the scholar dropped the book box and gave up everything. Finally penniless, begging along the way. People who met him said, "Look, this scholar didn't bring anything, but went to Beijing to catch the exam." The scholar regretted it.

A scholar forgets what he wants to do, but thinks of gossip that has nothing to do with the serious things he wants to do, which is also a feature of people who are afraid of being evaluated. Think about it, if a person knows what his main job should be and then does it wholeheartedly, does he still have the energy to think about those trivial things? Forgetting what you want to do, being led by others and living for those who talk about him is the sadness of being afraid of being evaluated.

The last sacrifice we should make is to change ourselves because of others' comments. Countless facts tell us that other people's comments often have some emotions and can't reflect their real situation. Decide your behavior according to others' evaluation, and often do stupid things. Because a person's evaluation of the same person will be very different when he is happy and unhappy, it is difficult for us to get an objective evaluation from others. We know what we have done, and self-evaluation may be the most accurate.

When Napoleon Hill was a child, his father rated him as the worst of the Hill brothers, but he didn't believe his father's evaluation. By studying hard and cultivating the virtue of being a man, he became a world-famous successful scientist.

Beethoven's skill in learning to play the violin is not brilliant. He would rather play his own music than improve his skills. His teacher commented on him: You are by no means a composer. Carroussel, an opera singer, is world-renowned for her wonderful singing skills. But his parents wanted him to be an engineer at first, and his teacher commented on him: he can't sing with that voice. Tolstoy, the author of War and Peace, was expelled from the university because of his poor grades. The teacher commented on him: "He has neither the mind to study nor the interest to study." If these people are not "going their own way", but are influenced by other people's comments, how can they achieve remarkable results?

Everyone should have their own pursuit, but blind pursuit will only lose themselves. Fake is true and true. Many people are alienated by "ancient costumes", so that after the song, he still doesn't take off his makeup, lives in the world of "drama" and never finds himself again.

People who value others' comments care too much about what others think. Even if they know what to do and what is right, they may give up the idea of doing so for fear of others' comments. Undoubtedly, they will also miss many beautiful things in life: sincere feelings, commendable deeds and opportunities for promotion. More independent people don't go with the flow, because they know what they really want and are very confident, so they don't care about other people's views on them.

Akio Morita is such a confident person who dares to be different.

In the early 1980s, the Walkman, which was widely loved by young people, was a proud masterpiece developed by Akio Morita, Chairman of Sony Corporation, based on his personal inspiration and creativity.

When he first put forward Walkman's product idea at the company's product design committee, everyone except one young man said it was a great idea with great interest, and everyone thought it was incredible and opposed it. Akio Morita stuck to his idea, pushed his way through the crowd and began to develop it.

After Whitman went public, it immediately caused young people to snap up, and the sales volume mushroomed, setting a record. Wykman's success was later considered a great idea. If Akio Morita hadn't stuck to his idea and discussed it endlessly with other members of the company, this great idea might only come to nothing. What Akio Morita shows here is the boldness of vision of those who have achieved great things without seeking common interests.

People who are not influenced by other people's comments, if they think what they are doing is right, will continue to do it and will not stop because of personal comments. They pursue a rational self-improvement, the main point of which is to overcome the reputation of the outside world, keep a clear understanding of themselves and maintain a high degree of restraint on behavior.

Believe in yourself, you must believe in yourself. You must be your own master and meet your own needs, not external evaluation. Young people should be true to themselves, not be interfered by the outside world, not care about others' praise and boasting, and not care about others' comments and attacks. Such people are truly happy people.