What is the cruelest way to treat a person?

The cruelest way to treat a person is to be indifferent and become a stranger. There is no need to hate, because hate will interfere with our emotions and fall into the quagmire of pain; Don't expect him to get what he deserves, because thinking about him is also a tired heart, not to mention recalling the original beauty and making unnecessary "ifs" ... just treat him as a stranger and completely eliminate him from his present life, at best when he has never been here, and at worst when he dies. Delete everything related to him, including memories. This person is just like everyone who has never passed by in the vast sea of people. Strangers can't hurt us, and they don't need to put in any feelings. Love and hate are good and bad, and nothing is needed.

The cruelest way for all people is to treat this person as a stranger, put him down and forget him. No matter what his present situation is, whether he is poor and homeless, or returning home with clothes on, it has nothing to do with himself. What we have to do is to cherish the present and live a good life. This is the best way to treat ourselves and those who love us. Ignore him, ignore him, and violence him coldly. Turn a blind eye, ignore, hurt people without trace, destroy people invisible, and the most cruel thing is to leave no traces of violence. Others want to scold and blame, but they are speechless. What's more, cold violence is widely used, such as campus cold violence, workplace cold violence, marriage cold violence, family cold violence and so on. The lethality is big enough to make students depressed, employees resign, couples divorce, and even children's personality distorted! Cold violence is actually a kind of mental abuse, and the abuser is mentally, psychologically and emotionally abused.

For example, domestic cold violence, parents should discipline their children. If the child does something wrong, he will not be thrown into the room or bathroom to think about it. This psychological shadow will last for a long time. A friend also told the circle that she was rethinking her attitude towards her eldest son recently. Because I don't get along well with my husband's mother-in-law and often quarrel, I feel uncomfortable at the thought of my child, so I am very strict with him at ordinary times. I have also thought about the bathroom wall several times. Finally, I got 65,438+000 points in math. My child sent her a message and called her again. I didn't have my mobile phone with me at that time, and I didn't receive it. But later, she saw the news, I don't know why, and I didn't reply to her message.

Now my son doesn't go home to say anything at school, such as what activities parents need to participate in unless the teacher sends a notice in the class group. If the teacher doesn't send it, she won't know there is something. Every child wants to get a response from his parents when he grows up. If you try to educate your child in a cold and violent way, it will only make your child feel unwelcome, afraid to retreat, and taciturn, which is not conducive to the healthy development of psychology and the formation of good character. Therefore, if you find that there is less communication and more silence when you get along with children and partners, you should be alert to cold violence.

I have a best friend who suffered the most cruel mental injury and got depression, and it took several years to recover. When she was looking for a job, she accidentally worked for an unscrupulous boss and signed a fake contract. She was the only employee, but she didn't get the money. She ate the leftovers from her boss's house yesterday. The boss's family always abuses her. She was very sad. Her parents often scold her because she is ugly because she doesn't go to work in the unit they plan to arrange. She has been putting up with it.

I can't take it anymore. She had a quarrel with her boss and then ran home. Her boss's abuse hurt her a lot. She ran home and met her father. She cried and said, "Dad, I ..." Before she finished, her father pushed her away: "I'm going to take a shower. Get out of my way. " She called her mother, and her mother said, "Wait for me." When her mother came home, she took her to her place of work. Her mother chatted with her boss for a while. The boss said it in front of her mother. "I still graduated from college and can't even sweep the floor." "If the shutter door doesn't close, we will suffer in the future. We did it for her own good. " "Now the only child is useless. We hope that she will open a shop in a few years. " "I can't sweep the floor or eat." The boss denied her in various ways, but did not dare to say that she had the best performance, the best and most responsible work attitude, and her customers liked her best.

Yes, because of her serious work attitude, all the shops around her knew about her and secretly told her not to work in this house. Several clients helped her to contact lawyers, some of whom were lawyers, and wanted to help her sue her boss for free, but her mother banned her from going to court and felt humiliated. On the other hand, I didn't expect her mother to echo her voice. Her mother asked her to continue working here. She was desperate. When she got home, her father said, "Look at you. Learn to serve tea and water at work. Go to work with a broom and mop, and nothing can be done. No wonder people don't like you, and the second boss can't be the boss. " She said during her period, "That's what work is like. Do you want to be an uncle every day! "

She was shocked. She cleans for several hours every day, removes the shelves on the construction site, cooks for the boss and does her own work. But her father said so. She stretched out her hands stained with bloody nails. She thinks her father should be joking. The clothes she changes every day are muddy water for more than ten times. Unexpectedly, her father and menstruation smiled contemptuously and said, "Oh, this pain is unbearable." This sentence was the last straw and quickly crushed her. Her thought at that time was, why did you tell them so much? She might as well die.

She suffered from depression and committed suicide several times. Later, with the help of friends, her depression was slightly better. She ran away from home several times, and her mother cried in her arms and wouldn't let her go. She finally found an excuse to run away from home, her friends encouraged her, and she managed to survive, and her depression was cured. It can be seen that mental damage is really terrible.

The old mother lives alone in the mountains and her 50-year-old daughter lives in the city. One day, the old mother came to the city and went to the hospital for lung CT accompanied by her daughter. The doctor secretly told her that her old mother was in the early stage of lung cancer. Good treatment will cure her at this time, but it will cost tens of thousands of dollars for her family to accompany her all the time. The daughter said that there is no need to treat her. The doctor said that if you give up treatment like this, your mother will only live for half a year. Why? My daughter said no, why not. The old mother asked her daughter what the doctor said. Daughter said, the doctor said your illness is a minor illness, just take some cough medicine. The old mother is very happy. She went back to her daughter's house and had lunch there. The bowls of urban families are two bowls smaller than those of farmers in mountainous areas. When the old mother ate one bowl and asked for another, the daughter scolded: How can you eat so much at your age? ! The next day, the old mother returned to the mountains (she is a lonely old man). Half a year later, the old mother died, and the daughter came to the old mother's spirit to cry. When my daughter returned to the city, there was a gossip in the mountain village that her daughter cried like a cat in front of her old mother's spirit. Why didn't she see her tears? Some people say that they saw her crying and laughing. Some people say that when my old mother was seventy years old, she often went to the back hill to collect pine needles and firewood. Every day before dawn, she picked a load and sold it in a town five miles away from the mountain. It is said that the son of the daughter in the city, that is, the grandson, is getting married, and the old mother sells firewood to prepare for the wedding for her grandson.

Lin once said: What didn't happen turned out to be the most ruthless revenge.

Ahem, I want to tell a sad emotional story.

Many years ago, I was with a boy I liked. We are colleagues, but I have a crush on him first, and then I try to catch up with him. I like him to be self-motivated and diligent. Later he broke up with me on the grounds that another girl was more helpful to his career. And assured me that that girl was just a springboard for him and could never take my place in his mind.

As an inexperienced girl, when I heard these words, my first reaction was not to believe, not to be moved, but to feel horrible. He can use others as a springboard, and maybe he can use me as a pawn.

Next, during the day, he casually considerate springboard girls in front of everyone, and in the dead of night, he would send text messages to tease me. Every night when my mind was out of control, I tried to convince myself that he cared about me, but the next day his nonchalance completely awakened my mind.

The wound kept cracking and healing, and finally grew into a deep and hard scar. Every time I touch it, I will be shocked first, and then I will tell myself that I can't let it crack again.

Then one time, when there was no one else, he came up to me as if he were still together. As a result, I greeted him politely and distantly, asked him what he had for lunch, and acted like an ordinary colleague, as if I didn't remember any special relationship between us at all. I noticed that his eyes seemed surprised. In his expectation, I should be the best underground girlfriend who would rather compromise herself and let him pursue his dream. I should have seized the opportunity to stay with him when there was no one else … but I didn't.

Although he is in a strong position in our relationship, he is also very frustrated when he finds that the people who once worshipped him and attached to him are no longer full of anxiety and desire, but only polite and indifferent.

In the future, when he is frustrated, he will return to the road he has traveled and the choices he has made. Maybe he will blame himself when he thinks of me. I am also imagining that if I had made a different choice, would the result be different now?

Therefore, I think the cruelest way to treat a person is to break his expectations. what do you think?

What is the cruel way to treat a person?

In the book Scarlett, there is a scene that I remember deeply.

Scarlett was carried away by love and cheated on her first love.

The husband didn't say a word when he learned the news.

Send her back to her hometown.

Out of traditional courtesy, her husband's mother didn't accuse Scarlett.

Neither said she was immoral, nor said she shouldn't do this to her husband.

Let the servant call her to dinner on time every day, and then separate after dinner.

No one in the room is willing to say a word to her, except if necessary.

Scarlett can't stand it.

She didn't accuse her of her mistakes, but she felt embarrassed to face everyone.

No one talked about her, but she felt that everyone seemed to stay away from themselves politely.

This noble courtesy is the greatest punishment for her.

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On the contrary, the cruelest way is that you have tried thousands of tricks, and I only smile!

The cruelest way:

1. Disconnect immediately and disconnect all contacts.

2. Ignore, such as people who work together every day or people around them. As long as ta treats ta as air and transparent, remember to ignore everything.

3.ta If there is an insulting reason, you should not be expressionless, emotional and do everything lightly.

Leave or avoid once you hurt your own interests, remember to be rational or keep quiet!

If you hurt your body, you should protect yourself first. Self-protection is not complete enough to demand your own life. Colleagues should decisively and immediately backhand and subdue you. Remember not to be soft-hearted. Take the other person's life decisively when necessary, and remember not to let Ta live. If you are kind, it will be your death! The most important thing is as a last resort, when you know that the other person wants your own life. The rest are equally quiet. Reason can't do things that hurt each other. If you are not 100% competent, then try your best to escape.

6. The cruelest anti-drama is to stop all communication and contact from now on.

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This is the personal experience of my family. My mother died early, leaving four siblings, and my father married another one and brought a boy. There are only two boys at home. Stepmother has been very kind to her brother since she was a child, and she is simply obedient. She doesn't criticize her brother for making mistakes. My brother stopped doing his homework, and she made a wink at him. When her brother skipped class, she went home to cook for him. My brother had a fight with someone else, and she also said it was someone else's fault ... I had a hunch from then on that my brother would be ruined if this continued. To this end, I also specifically told my father that children will not succeed without self-education, so I will definitely not succeed if I indulge my brother blindly, but my father hates me because of many things. But she is very strict with her children: she can't get into the top three, and she goes home to get a board; Don't do your homework seriously, don't eat rice; Strive for others, go home for dinner first ... For the sake of our three sisters, she did even worse: for her sister, she secretly took out her household registration book behind her father and sister's back, and asked her relatives to get a marriage certificate for her sister when the woman was not present, and blind date (not talking for two months). As a result, my sister tried to commit suicide by drinking drugs, and she divorced an acquaintance. Poor big sister is only 23 years old and has become a divorce. For me, you can imagine that as soon as she meets a little girl with only 13, 4, she will describe things between husband and wife to me, talk about things between men and women, and encourage me to fall in love all day; As for my sister, I feel very hurt. In order not to let her sister go to college, she let her relatives go to a technical school on the day when her sister received the admission notice from a key high school. I kept an eye on it. That summer, I stayed at home, stole my sister's notice, borrowed money to enroll my sister in a high school, and then got my sister who went to study for a doctorate. My brother was destroyed by her. /kloc-dropped out of school at the age of 0/3, doing nothing every day, divorced three times, and unable to do anything. The child brought by the stepmother became a doctor of Shanghai Jiaotong University and settled in the United States after studying abroad ... This is the true story of our stepmother. In the eyes of outsiders, she is a good stepmother and is very close to her children. We also know that the stepmother is difficult, so the four brothers and sisters still respect her, but the hurt in our hearts can't be described in words. That kind of feeling is unclear, but we have known since childhood that it is wrong to do so, but we can't find any evidence. Now I understand that not educating other people's children and deliberately leading them astray is the best revenge for them.

1. The cruelest way to treat a person is to be very considerate at first and give the other person enough sense of security, then wait until the other person gets used to your kindness, and then gradually become indifferent until he leaves. Without telling you any reason, this person disappears into your sight, leaving you with infinite pain and suffering. Don't support each other to do what they like, and finally lose themselves.

The cruelest way to treat a lover is not to love and hate, not to cheat and betray, but to love gradually after extreme love.

Physical injuries, such as violence or accidental injuries, may heal quickly. Mental trauma may take a long time to heal.

Xu, a happy tutor on the platform of marriage insulation station

I think the cruelest way to treat someone who really loves you is to leave him and never see him again, so that he can't contact you!

People can be strange sometimes. He won't feel how much he cherishes you when you are around him. When you leave, he may not feel so bad and uncomfortable at first, but it's different when he finds that he has lost you forever. He will try his best to think of your goodness and the past! Especially when you hate him, don't forgive him, or he feels guilty about you, and he can't find you after you leave him, this kind of missing is more and more profound! It's cruel, but it's also revenge for him. Maybe one day, when you let go and meet again, you will really feel relieved! But that's a knot. If you don't see him, no one will open the heart. No matter how long, he will still remember you and your past!

The taste of living in memories is always good, because there are too many thoughts added to it! In the end, it's actually not love, just getting used to thinking that you will always be in his memory! Don't meet, don't miss, leave without saying goodbye, and leave his life completely! A broken heart is hard to heal!

Seeing this topic reminds me of a painful experience my new wife told me more than forty years ago.

After his wife was born, his mother died of postpartum fever. Grandma keeps feeding her rice soup. Her father died at the age of five. She has been living with her grandmother. In her family, her grandfather is doing small business in Tianjin, and her uncle is farming at home.

/kloc-When I was 0/3 years old, my grandfather left home in tianjin railway station, and my grandmother went to Tianjin to take care of my grandfather. She lived with her uncle and aunt. Her aunt has a daughter named Jane, who is only 6 years old. Around her all day. Shortly after the Spring Festival, at noon one day, I saw the ice trough dripping from the eaves, and my wife poked it with a bamboo pole. Xiaozhen chased and asked, Sister, is it delicious? The ice slipped down and hit Jane right on the body. The next day when Jane was playing with her sister, her aunt's face changed. She was dark all day and didn't say a word to her. Her uncle said nothing to her. My wife said, I might as well beat you up. After a few months, my uncle reassured her. Once, the school organized a tug-of-war competition to let students borrow ropes from their parents. My wife has gone home and there is no one at home. She found a well rope and took it to school, but it was pulled out. Later, when her uncle found out, the sky of her uncle and aunt would never clear up again. Speaking of this, my wife cried and said to me, "You have never experienced it. You will never know how sad it is to see them talking and laughing with your daughter and ignoring you."

My wife's experience has taught me that the cruelest way to treat others is not to refuse to eat or drink, but to torture the soul.

Reminiscent of today's children, their parents brought them up, and they have the ability to earn money. Find a wife to be alone. Don't call mom and dad for a month. Some people live with their parents, but three people are talking and laughing, ignoring the old people and treating them as air. Is it also a kind of cruelty?

Heartache must be very painful. It doesn't matter whether you have it or not, but what you can't forgive is letting go after you have it. The cruelest way to treat a person is not to scold him and beat him to get back at him, but to let go quietly in deep love and treat him coldly after making friends. Whether it is a relative, a lover or a friend, the moment when the heart is exposed is not true or hurt.

The cruelest way to treat a lover is not to love and hate, not to cheat and betray, but to gradually become indifferent after loving to the extreme. You stayed in his heart for a moment, but he chose to forget it all his life. Love is not cruel, forgetting is cruel. No matter how strong you are, you will choose to forget. You left, but your heart is not closed, waiting for your return. There is a grave in your heart, and the widow is buried.

The cruelest way to treat a friend is to forgive him no matter what reason he hurts you. Forgiveness is usually more lethal than blaming others. Sadness in the heart is greater than death. Ignoring is the cruelest wisdom. When dealing with a person's injury, if you like him, you criticize him. If you hate him, you can forgive him. Because every forgiveness is a connivance. It will make him go further and further on the wrong road, and deviation will lead him to another indifferent life.