What if the child becomes rebellious after having a little brother?

Parents' education should be more patient, careful and careful.

(A) to avoid the misunderstanding of bipolar education

Parents should dialectically treat their children's rebellious youth, which is a critical period for the formation of their world outlook, and their personality and creativity are rising freely. At the same time, due to the limitations of children's physical and mental development and education, many of their ideas are immature and even extreme, which requires external education to guide children correctly. However, in real education, some parents easily fall into the misunderstanding of educational polarization.

Myth 1: A general strike. Some parents are annoyed with their children's rebellious words and deeds such as talking back and disobedience, and feel that if their children's "evil energy" is not suppressed, their children may become worse. So parents took tough measures, either beating or scolding. Gradually, on the surface, the child returned to the "good boy" who did what he was told. In fact, in his heart, the door to communication with his parents has been closed.

Myth 2: Let yourself go. In reality, some parents face the children who are difficult to teach, and after several times of discipline, they have little effect, lose confidence and begin to let their children go with the flow. At this time, regardless of the child's words and deeds and thoughts, parents no longer ask and guide. Over time, children are adversely affected and their behavior is biased. When parents regret it, they find that they have delayed their children's life.

Decentralize power to children

After entering the rebellious period of youth, children are particularly eager to be recognized and respected by the outside world. Therefore, parents should pay attention to delegating various rights to their children to help them transition from ignorance to maturity.

Autonomy "you should", "you must" and "what do you know" are the mantra of many parents. Professor Xu suggested that parents should talk as little as possible in the face of rebellious children, because children who think they are adults will not accept such orders.

Many parents have told their children the right to speak, such as "sweeping the road without going to college". Although it is for the good of the children, my ears are covered with cocoons. In the rebellious period, they can say that these words are "impeccable". At this time, parents should talk less and listen more to understand what their children are thinking.

Time control children in this period are eager to have their own small world. Therefore, parents should not make their own decisions and arrange their children's time according to their own wishes. They should leave time for the children themselves. For unreasonable arrangements, parents should make suggestions in a negotiated tone, and never completely deny their children.

Some important events in the voting family, such as moving and buying a house, may wish to discuss with the children, consider their feelings and seek their opinions. In a family with a democratic atmosphere, children can generally approach their parents on their own initiative.

After children with privacy enter junior high school, some parents find that children who used to tell the truth to themselves are less and less interested in themselves, and children begin to have their own locked diaries and personal letters. Professor Xu said that if children really don't want to communicate with their parents, they don't have to be too reluctant, especially not to pry into their privacy. Respect for children earned respect for themselves.

(C) Parent-child communication skills

Parents will find it difficult to communicate with children who are obviously rebellious. Practical parent-child communication skills.

Respect the parents of children, don't always stare at their weaknesses, and don't compare their shortcomings with the strengths of other children. When in contact with children, parents should try their best to find the advantages of children and encourage them to reduce their resistance to parents.

Empathy parents also came from the rebellious period of youth, but not as obvious as children now, so in the face of children's inexplicable behavior, we may wish to empathize and think about why children are like this. With * * *, you will understand children and find the crux of the problem.

Avoid communicating with children in their studies, and parents should not always focus on academic performance, which will only make children feel pressure and doubt the motivation of parents to communicate. When communicating, parents can start with family affairs and stabilize their children's emotions before getting down to business.

It is certainly irrational for parents to educate their children with emotions, which will lead to more resistance of children. Therefore, parents should not educate their children when they are impatient, irritable and not calm. After you calm down, you can communicate with your children.

Allowing children to make mistakes is a critical period for children to form their own opinions. Small mistakes are inevitable. Therefore, parents should allow their children to make mistakes and suffer losses, and don't tie their hands and feet too much. At the same time, parents are the best role models for children. Children in the rebellious period have strong imitation ability, and parents' good words and deeds can exert a subtle influence on children.

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