Whether it's a couple or a lover, such a man deserves your deep love.

Whether it's a couple or a lover, such a man deserves your deep love.

The writer Henry James once said, "The best life is a brilliant waste."

So is good love. A person who loves you knows "waste" and the true meaning of love and marriage.

0 1, know how to "waste" time

In the variety "Goodbye Lover", the screenwriter Wang Qiuyu is extremely stingy with the time spent with her husband and wife. Wang Qiuyu stipulates that couples can't spend more than half an hour together a day, and they must make an appointment in advance. One autumn, my wife happened to be filming with Wang Qiuyu. Not far from where they filmed, there is the sparkling Taihu Lake, and my wife also wants to see it.

So, during the break, my wife wants Wang Qiuyu to accompany her to Taihu Lake for a walk. Unexpectedly, Wang Qiuyu shouted, "Did you make an appointment in advance? It takes 10 minutes to walk. Aren't you wasting my time? " The wife did not expect that such a trivial request attracted her husband's scolding. She couldn't figure it out, so she replied, "I will never go to Taihu Lake in my life."

After the incident, her husband's attitude remained the same as before. Finally, the disappointed wife chose a divorce.

I have read a special heartfelt sentence: "A person who doesn't even want to give you time can expect him to give you love?" Where did you get the time to love you? " .

Netizens shared their stories. On one occasion, my husband was away from home for a few months on a temporary business trip. Because they miss each other very much, the couple meet in the nearest city. As soon as we discussed it, we immediately ran to the station and bought a car berth ticket. I stumbled 1 1 hour, and it was already 1 hour when I arrived at my destination.

When she got off the bus, she saw her husband who had been waiting in front of the car. She wanted to know why her husband was farther away, but he arrived first. It turned out that in order to arrive early, the husband changed to take motorcycles, ferries, taxis and subways along the way. It took them more than ten hours to meet. But they don't feel hard, and those wasted hours have become their sweetest memories.

Writer Lin Qingxuan said: "Romance is actually a waste. Waste time eating slowly, drinking tea slowly, walking slowly and getting old slowly. "

02. Know how to waste money.

Someone said: "In the emotional communication between the two sexes, waste is a kind of crazy romance. Whether a person loves you super depends on whether he is willing to waste it for you. "

After marriage, the burden of life gradually became heavier. In the face of daily necessities, we can always scrimp and save, but forget that ordinary life also needs a sense of ceremony. In the book Five Languages of Love, there is such a story. A couple, on their tenth wedding anniversary, the wife was filled with joy and prepared to celebrate with her husband.

Early in the morning, after her husband went out, his wife secretly went to the bakery and ordered a cake. In the evening, the husband came home and saw a big box of cakes on the table, which was very confusing. At this time, my wife ran over and said happily, "Today is our tenth wedding anniversary, so I specially bought a cake and wanted to have sex with you." Before the wife finished, the husband interrupted directly: "How can you waste so much? Nothing important. The cake is so expensive and I don't like it. Why waste money on it? "

After some criticism, the wife was full of grievances and couldn't help complaining: "You haven't given me a gift for an important festival in the past ten years of marriage. Today, I kindly bought a cake, and you said I wasted it. " Say that finish, then crying, turned to leave. It was supposed to be a sweet and romantic day, but it ended in discord.

Material is a necessity of life, but some money needs to be "wasted", such as flowers in festivals, birthday gifts and big meals on anniversaries. Although these things will add extra cost, more importantly, they can make daily chores more ceremonial.

Writer Matsuura Yataro said: "The best way to spend money is to waste it on enriching personal experiences and feelings." The so-called waste, there is no need to squander, there is no need to make a big splash. What is luxurious is that heart, and what is rare is that affection. Those little money spent on love light up our lives and awaken our love. So "wasteful", why not?

03, know "waste" language

Zhang Jiajia said: "The comfortable relationship between people is that they can talk at any time."

I once read a short story about Lu Xun and his lover Xu Guangping. When they separated, writing letters became their only way of communication. What will they talk about in the letter? In the eyes of ordinary people, it must be a major event, such as the current political turmoil and the suffering of the people; Or poetry and songs, philosophy of life. However, in their correspondence, they mostly talk about trivial things in life.

For example, Lu Xun wrote in his letter: "I didn't eat green peppers from yesterday, but I ate peppers instead. I hereby smell it and talk about it. " "

Xu Guangping wrote back: "Can't light dishes be salted? Eating more peppers is not the way. Isn't it good to buy canned food subsidies? There is always a place to buy ham. Can't you cook? Never save money! " Similar conversations abound in their letters. These letters were later included in The Book of Two Places and became their love letter album.

The book of the two places may be too plain and simple, but in the days of caring for each other, what each of us needs most is not these trivial and ordinary nagging?

In the variety "A Wonderful Story", there is a debate topic: "Is it necessary to say correct nonsense?"

The words of debater Yang Qixin touched everyone present. He said: "Many times we can't speak because we are not good at speaking and dare not speak. I can only say that you have tried your best to drink more hot water. However, good love is actually to find someone to talk nonsense, and a lot of I love you are hidden in nonsense. "

Yes, the lover's nagging, these seemingly useless nonsense, contains the purest love.

Writer Su Cen once said: "Happiness is to find someone who is willing to talk nonsense with you and listen to you."

A truly comfortable relationship is endless nonsense. The real meaning of nonsense is probably that you can talk about poetry and distance, and you can also talk about daily necessities. Two people, you say, he laughs. The world is stable and the years are quiet.

04, two people together, is for a better life.

And a good life needs to know the proper "waste". I like Matsuura Yataro's words very much: "There will always be scenery in this world, but only those who know how to waste their lives will see it."

A good life is leisurely and slow, but you can see different scenery; Good marriage, tepid, learn to waste, can make feelings flow. I hope you and I can stand side by side with my lover, with frost and snow on our heads, and see all the flowers falling in front of the court.