Widowed marriage goes beyond a worse heart.

Introduction: Widowed marriage is not the liberation of one person, but the pain of two people.

After marriage, what is more terrible than loneliness is the widowed marriage.

0 1 Marriage seems to be a topic that we can never finish talking about, perhaps because this road is almost the only way for each of us, or because we are witnessing the marriage of everyone around us from birth to death.

There is no denying that some people are married, loving and affectionate, and can bear any ups and downs brought by life, face it together and grow old together.

But not everyone can be so happy in marriage. In life, many people live a widowed life after marriage.

"One pair for life" is the first beautiful dream of many women for marriage. However, as the two couples spend more and more time together, the daily necessities are exhausted, and there are more and more housework. If the business is not good, there will be a widowed marriage that is hotly debated at present.

This kind of marriage mode is more terrible than loneliness, because it not only bears the responsibility brought by marriage, but also endures the neglect and rejection of the other half.

Someone on the Internet said this:

"Widowed and married, eating alone, shopping alone, shopping alone, just like not having a husband."

"If life is not sharing and sharing, then I can live alone. Why should I get married? What do I want the other half to do? Find someone to increase your burden and housework, or find someone to be an uncle? "

"Two people are like strangers. They have nothing to say. They feel embarrassed and bored. I don't know how long this marriage can last? "

It can be seen from these words that they all have one thing in common in the face of widowed marriage, that is, one person completes everything in life and the other party will not participate.

Indeed, sometimes marriage without any intersection is more painful and unfortunate than divorce.

The process of searching for the heroine in the TV series "We Are All Right" fully shows the process of widowed marriage from the beginning to the end.

Life was happy at first, but after a long time, there were fewer and fewer social circles and friends around her to entertain. Being with her family all day, she gradually felt that life was getting more and more empty.

Playing mahjong, shopping, shopping, cleaning up housework and other things every day constituted her unchanging days, and later she got depression.

The husband devotes himself to his work, ignoring the needs of his wife and children and his wife's true inner feelings.

In such a depressed state, looking for a mental state that can't mediate her, even trying to commit suicide. The doctor told the search that she was no longer suitable for taking care of children, and it was easy to do things harmful to children.

After careful consideration, in order to survive and the healthy growth of her children, she decided to ask her husband for a divorce, return to the workplace and find herself again.

When she filed for divorce, she said the following two words:

The first sentence is: "I can't imagine how our life can push you to that point?"

The second sentence is: "A woman wants a man to carry a brick and hug her, but she doesn't know that if she puts down a brick and hugs her, the brick will hit her own foot!" "

Looking ahead, it is unreasonable to find such a request, but he didn't realize that his wife's mental state was on the verge of collapse.

In fact, women need not only material needs, but also spiritual comfort and companionship in life.

Material things are very important, but I believe many women don't really have much ambition. Having three meals a day, having a warm family and taking care of their loved ones is the greatest pursuit of many women.

If you want to have a greater pursuit of material things, you probably have a house without a mortgage, a car without a car loan, money to look after if you are sick, a baby to raise, and an old man to raise. This is also the peak of your life.

If raising a house, raising a baby and supporting parents is financially difficult, I think many women will be willing to join hands with men, or save a little or work harder.

The important thing is, do you believe in men? As long as you are active and motivated, you can't make a lot of money. For many women, even if I accompany you to eat bread and drink boiled water every day, as long as you are willing to accompany her, give her warmth, give her consideration and give her happiness, then she is as satisfied as having the whole world.

Of course, if you have nothing to do but play games, eat, drink and be merry all day, don't blame women for not wanting to accompany you through the ups and downs of life.

No one wants to play a one-man show marriage, which is true.

He puts his career first, even though he makes a lot of money, when he puts his lover second, he is doomed to lose the person he loves.

There is no companionship, no comfort, no consideration, no warmth. When these simple things can't be searched and done, no amount of wealth and gifts can fill the loneliness and loneliness in the heart.

After seeking a divorce, she overcame the difficulties in the workplace, found her own position, and kept doing her best. Finally, she achieved a major turning point in her life, got rid of her widowed marriage, was reborn, and lived a wonderful life with a smile.

When love becomes so barren, the heart doesn't matter. For the search, it is better to break free bravely and live a colorful life than to live a stagnant marriage life.

If you are not yourself, if you are already so unhappy, why should you maintain this veritable widowed marriage? In the end, you will only lose.

The premise of living for others is that you must live beautifully first.

A long time ago, there was a TV series, which also described the existence of this marriage relationship through life details and emotional changes.

This TV series is "The Golden Wedding" by Jiang and Zhang Guoli.

The background of the story took place in the 1950s. In the play, they are free to fall in love and get married, without parents' orders or matchmakers' words.

Although the days after Wen Li and Tong Zhi got married were not good, they didn't eat well and lived well, but there was nothing wrong with the two couples caring for each other and taking care of each other.

Because of the lack of food, they didn't even have enough to eat for a while. I remember a scene where they were sitting at a table, and Tong Zhi took out two and a half steamed buns and shared them with Wen Li.

He gave the biggest piece to his wife and ate the smallest piece himself. As a result, Wen Li felt that she was a man and should eat more. Later, Tong Zhi broke a small piece from his hand and gave it to her.

You can * * * the feelings of husband and wife in trouble, who is not moved by it.

In their own eyes, if the other person is good, they are good, without utility or selfish desires.

However, as they slowly enter middle age, their feelings gradually become cold.

Because of children's education, living expenses, the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and the appearance of a third party, there are more and more contradictions between them, and they often quarrel, as if they had become two strangers.

Tong Zhi is getting impatient with all this noise. He goes to bed every day when he comes back from work, regardless of family affairs and children. When Wen Li scolded him, he covered his head with a quilt and turned a deaf ear.

After such a widowed life, Wen Li heard from others that Tong Zhi was going to leave home to work in the third line, and immediately went home to ask him.

In the end, Wen Li still didn't make a decision to stop Tong Tu from being clean.

After her husband left, things at home suddenly fell on Wen Li. She had to go to work, take care of children and do housework, and she was as busy as a top.

In the face of such a seemingly hopeless day, Wen Li's heart is broken. His tenderness and love are gone, leaving only a pile of troubles left by him.

When Wen Li told her husband that she had to wash clothes and cook every day, he would loudly and thoroughly refute her and say, "You will always be like this. No matter what I do, you will never be satisfied, always complaining and always blaming. "

He didn't want to care about what caused her dissatisfaction and complaints at all. Anyway, he thinks it's her problem, and he's absolutely right.

Tong Zhi can't see each other's efforts, but his eyes are taken for granted. He had to escape, choose his own comfortable lifestyle, ignore the bitterness of his wife and children, and failed to fulfill his responsibilities as a husband and father.

In this widowed marriage, Wen Li has several roles as wife, teacher, mother and daughter-in-law, thus forcibly turning herself into an almighty king.

The husband is like a dummy, blindly standing on his own point of view, pushing everything to his wife, and the only conversation becomes a constant quarrel with each other, making the marriage foundation fragile.

The most chilling thing about a widowed marriage is that the other person is busy living himself, and you have to shoulder everything in life.

This kind of marriage destroys not only the woman's heart, but also the hope that children and families place on men, and the harm behind it may never be erased in this life.

It is rare for two people to come together because of fate. How determined does a woman have to be to agree to marry you? She must have taken a fancy to your happy company.

If you can't do it, don't blame her for leaving you to find your own life.

Wives are human beings, people who need emotional care, not machines. It doesn't matter whether it is cold or hot.

No matter how hard life is, it is not for one person to bear it. You may not give her a good life, but I hope you can cherish her heart. She wants to spend the rest of her life with you. It is also your responsibility as a man to give her a complete partner life.

No couple has a lifetime without quarrels and contradictions. If it's because of this, it's not worth giving up the mutual affection between husband and wife and fighting to the death.

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Topic discussion: What will you do if you encounter a widowed marriage? Welcome to leave a message for discussion.