The child cries all over the place when he goes to kindergarten, and only pesters his mother when he comes home. How to break this problem?

Children are no better than adults. They don’t know how to pretend to be strong. They will only truly release their emotions. When they feel scared and don’t want to be separated from their parents, their primitive instincts will naturally emerge. Children will cry to express their inner uneasiness, so crying heartbreakingly is a manifestation of their inner fear.

If the mother can understand the child's fear, make him more familiar with the environment, and deepen his trust in the teacher and kindergarten, the child will adapt faster.

So, a better way to help your child adapt to kindergarten is to have his mother or father accompany him for the first few days, just like accompanying him to the playground or traveling. When a child becomes familiar with the environment and the sense of strangeness disappears, her separation anxiety will naturally disappear.

But not all kindergartens can allow parents to accompany them for a few days. For those who cannot be accompanied by traditional kindergartens, parents can first negotiate with the teacher and let them attend kindergarten for half a day at the beginning to reduce the time their children wait alone. After a few days of getting used to it, do it all day.

When sending a child to kindergarten, the mother must believe that the child will be treated well in the kindergarten, believe that the teacher will pay attention to the child, believe that the child can be fed, clothed and warm, and take a good nap, and believe that if you give the child more time, he will be able to adapt.

This mentality is very important for children. Because children around three years old still have a strong spiritual connection with their mothers. When mothers are full of expectations for kindergarten and feel at ease, the children will also feel relatively at ease. When a mother is full of uneasiness about kindergarten and is always worried that something will happen to her child, the child's uneasiness will also intensify. Think about it, everyone, if you knew that the place you were going to was filled with unrest, would you still be able to go there with peace of mind?

Just like when you travel abroad, if you go to a country with good security, such as Japan or the United States, you will naturally feel more at ease. But if you go to India or Somalia, you will have all kinds of fears and fears in your heart, and your children will feel the same way.

So mothers should let go of all worries about kindergarten and let their babies know that kindergarten is a safe place with lovely friends and teachers as kind as their mothers. The child’s fear of kindergarten will naturally will decrease.

In this process, what mothers still need to do is to patiently accept and accompany them. Especially when I come home from get off work every day, no matter how busy I am at work or how complicated my housework is, I put everything aside and patiently accompany my children. Talk to him, play games, and interact closely with him, so that the child can fully enjoy his mother's company.

Tell him that although going to kindergarten will leave home and his mother, it is just like his mother going to work every day. She will leave and come back. When everyone comes back, they can play with their mother again, eat together and watch TV. We will be together again.