I don’t want to disturb anyone and affect my mood.

Su Shi: Don’t disturb anyone when you are at a low point

The ancients said: Everyone has his own shortcomings in life.

Don’t show off when you’re at your peak, don’t bother when you’re at your trough.

This is the gentleness Su Shi left to the world.

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Don’t wrong your family

When people are at a trough, the most direct and realistic problem is economic problems.

Su Shi once told people about his family's financial difficulties.

He said that he didn’t know how to plan his life until he was almost fifty years old.

Su Shi and his wife made careful plans together.

According to the price of firewood, rice and vegetables in Huangzhou, it is stipulated that the cost of food for the whole family should not exceed one hundred and fifty yuan per day.

On the first day of every month, 4,500 yuan is taken out, divided into thirty parts, and hung on the roof beams.

After getting up early every day, pick a piece with a fork, then hide the fork and no one is allowed to touch it again.

The harder the days are, the more we must learn to add a little sweetness to life.

Under the existing conditions, Su Shi always tried every means to let his family live a better life.

He has a true love for food and cooking.

Even if life is hard, you can always find ways to give teeth to your family as a gift.

In Huangzhou, a family really can’t afford beef and mutton.

Su Shi found that the local people disdain to eat pork, and the price of pork is as cheap as dirt.

He simply bought a lot of pork and took it home, cooking it repeatedly and studying how to cook the pork to make it delicious.

He also proudly teaches the world the secret of "Dongpo Pork":

"Slow down the fire and use less water. When the fire is sufficient, it will be beautiful."

Cook slowly over low heat to bring out the aroma, which is very similar to Su Shi's life.

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Don’t bother friends

There is no easy life in the world, and everyone should be responsible for their own lives.

When a person is at a low point, he should rely on himself, not ask for help, and try not to cause trouble to his friends.

Su Shi was once framed for no reason because of a poem, which forced him to check his words and deeds to avoid being caught again.

In those days when he first arrived in Huangzhou, he stayed behind closed doors all day long and saw no one else.

Even when drinking, you must remind yourself not to drink too much to avoid making a drunken gaffe.

Only when you return home and face your wife and children behind closed doors can you dare to talk freely and freely as you please.

During this period of low ebb, many friends were afraid to contact him.

Even when writing letters to friends, Su Shi often warned him again and again:

"Look at it, there is no need to show it to others."

Lest "good things happen" If you brew it skillfully, endless things will happen."

My good friend Wang Gong was demoted to Guangxi because he was implicated by Su Shi.

But he did not distance himself from Su Shi because of this, and always maintained close contact.

Su Shi felt deeply guilty for what happened to Wang Gong.

He said to himself: "Every time I think of this, I feel a thorn in my heart and lungs."

He wrote to Wang Gong many times to remind Wang Gong that he must "deeply love himself."

This kind of friendship that does not keep pace with the changes in the world, and does not follow the changes of poverty and wealth, is just like the lights on a cold night, warming people's hearts.

3

Reconcile with yourself

The low points in life are not sad.

What is really sad is the threshold in my heart.

Psychology master Rogers said: "The most important thing in life is the ability to create happiness. It comes from three aspects - letting go of the past, facing reality and enjoying the present."

< p>Su Shi is a great talent who is famous all over the world. Emperors of the two dynasties praised him as a prime minister, and dignitaries were honored as guests.

The Wutai Poetry Case caused him to fall to the bottom overnight, and he was later exiled and demoted to Danzhou, "the end of the world".

However, Su Shi would not let himself worry for a long time, and soon he would find ways to enjoy himself.

When he was in Huangzhou, he wore commoners and straw sandals every day and wandered among the mountains, forests and fields.

Join and chat casually with farmers in the fields, fishermen on the waterfront, woodcutters in the mountains, and vendors in the market.

Sometimes when he really has nothing to do, he will run to the river alone, pick up a pile of marbles, and hit the water for fun.

In a letter to his cousin Ziming, he revealed the secret of this happy life.

He said: "My brother is old, and he should entertain himself at the time. All things in the world are of no concern. The so-called self-entertainment is not worldly happiness, but there is nothing in the chest, that is, the world. Inside, the mountains, rivers, trees, insects, and fish are all for my family’s enjoyment.”

It is this kind of open-minded mentality that allows him to still enjoy himself in the trough.

Su Shi is like a stone, the edges and corners of which are polished away by the rushing water, and life becomes rounded accordingly.

As Wang Guowei said: "Even if there is no literary genius, his personality will be self-sufficient through the ages."

4

Don't care about God's will

Destiny is like an unpredictable cycle.

Many times, the fear of falling and starting over is the root cause of people's continued failure.

Encourage yourself to step out of your comfort zone, bid farewell to your comfort zone, and stimulate your potential under the broad sky.

Imagine yourself as a rubber ball. Even if fate throws it to the ground, you still have to bounce up.

Nietzsche said: "What doesn't kill you will only make you stronger."

In this case, who have we to complain that fate has treated us too poorly? ?

A long time later, Su Shi was re-enabled and returned to the capital as a high official.

Staying away from the trough and returning to the high place, Su Shi never got carried away again.

The ups and downs of life have never hit him.

He gave fate a backhand blow with his overwhelming talent and optimistic attitude.