Do you think the stepmother will be kind to the children?

I'm Sister Hong Orange. Tell me about my experience!

I was about seven or eight years old when my stepmother came to my house. She sneaked out. The ex-husband died of cancer, and his family was poor, leaving three children, the youngest of whom was only four years old. I have a daughter about my age. When she was ready to come to my house, she asked her daughter to wait for her at the entrance to the village. I don't know why my mother-in-law noticed me, so I dragged my daughter back. Warn her to get out if she wants, and don't take her granddaughter. She cried all the way to my house. These are what my stepmother told my grandmother when she came to my house. I stood at the door of the room and listened quietly.

When I first came, I was very kind and didn't abuse me. No matter what I do, my grandmother will protect me. It's just that she has a habit of always hiding delicious food in rice jars for me to eat. She won't help me wash clothes, let alone give me pocket money. Every month I see her son or daughter, waiting for her to get living expenses, tuition, clothes and so on on my way from school.

When I was eighteen, I went upstairs from my door through the living room. A woman sat in the living room and asked, "Who is this?" Stepmother replied, "My daughter". The way the stepmother secretly discussed things with her. I felt a little strange, so I turned upstairs and stepped out of the balcony to eavesdrop. The woman said, "Your daughter is so beautiful that that man is not worthy. How can she do it?" . Stepmother said, "No, I have a daughter who is one year older than her." I don't understand, and I don't care.

Later, my stepmother went out early and came back late for a while. Someone secretly told my grandmother that her stepmother had found a matchmaker and married her daughter to a person who was not very clever in the city and village. It's about one kilometer away from my home. She goes out early and comes back late every day just to take care of her confinement daughter and grandchildren. Because I often go in and out, people nearby see that I don't like to talk. Occasionally, a matchmaker comes to invite the media, but my grandmother persuaded me to leave because I was too young. My stepmother has been blowing hair at the bedside, saying that I have a bad nature and can't get along with my in-laws. Advise my father to marry me to a remote rural area, preferably a man without father or mother.

Later, I got married, which was not what my stepmother wanted. Very close married, gave birth to a baby. My stepmother never hugged my baby and sold the land my father prepared for me. That land is my father's dowry for building a house for fear that I can't get married well.

Later, my stepmother became ill, cancer-free, and she didn't live long. She has been isolated in the intensive care unit. My two dolls are very small, and my mother-in-law said, "Mom and Dad cross at the bedside." Told me to stay at the vigil with my stepmother. My mother-in-law helps me with two children at home. Stepmothers often talk to themselves. I asked her if she missed her children. She nodded fiercely. I'll have someone notify her children. Her daughter came, gave her 100 yuan and left again. Since then, this figure has disappeared. She also told my neighbor that it was her mother's fault that she had no father since she was a child and had no money to study. He also said that giving 100 yuan has already been done.

We spent all our savings, took our stepmother back to the country and fell asleep on the ground. When she woke up, I asked her what she wished for. She said I was the most sorry person in my life, and she always bullied me when I was a child. I wish I could forgive her. He also said that he accidentally gave birth to three heartless things. Save money for their school, buy bicycles, and secretly give them money to build a house. I don't want to see her when I die.

During the funeral, I repeatedly asked people to urge her children to come over to offer condolences, but her daughter never showed up. My son came and complained all the time. He was scolded by my villagers: "How can fish live without water in the pool?" A widow with three children, all of whom are sickly, how can she live? The other party pointed and scolded: "You are a dead dad, she just got married and didn't help you. How can you live so well? " Finally, her son knelt down to show her filial piety. I gave her son a few hundred dollars on me and sent it away. It's over.

Humanity, creatures are always creatures. For stepsons and stepdaughters, it is good not to abuse them.

Tell me about me. My mother was with my father when I was 13 years old. I was happy to finally have a mother. I remember the first time she came to my house and gave me 50 yuan to my uncle's brother and sister. A few days later, she took me to buy clothes. Later, I went to middle school for almost 3000 yuan. I went to Ningbo to join them during the summer vacation. I went to menstruation's home the day before I went home, and I was going to go home by bus the next day. My father and she went to my aunt's house and gave me 2600 yuan. They didn't even prepare anything to eat on the way. I cried at that time, saying that the tuition was not enough. Later, after they left, my aunt and my sister-in-law took me to the supermarket to buy food and bought me a ticket to go home the next day.

My grandparents secretly paid for my tuition. Sweaters in winter, coats in autumn, no cotton-padded jacket. Being excluded from school because of lack of money. God knows how I got here. Later, when I came out to work, my dad said I couldn't eat for free at home, so he gave her 300 yuan a month for living expenses. I moved out from home at that time and occasionally went back to my mother's to entertain me with delicious food. Every time I get paid, I will buy her something to eat. Later, I divorced and took care of the children. Although my mother was unkind to me when she first came to my house, she still took care of my children after my divorce, so that I wouldn't have any worries. In her words, I will never let my daughter fall into the hands of my stepmother. Ha ha ha ha, she also knows that it was not good for me at first. Actually, I don't blame her After all, she is not her own. You have lived together, where can you have feelings? But the human heart is made of meat, and two good things are good.

Now she takes good care of my daughter and loves her very much. I give her living expenses every month. I will buy some delicious food online and send it to her. I will buy her clothes and pay for them from time to time, even if it is not my own. So what? Living together for a long time, with feelings, it's almost like yourself.

I have a colleague who is a stepmother.

She has been married to her current husband for more than ten years. Her husband and ex-wife have a son who is seven or eight years old. She and her ex-husband have a daughter a few years older.

Before, every time we talked, she normally said that my son was my girl. Until a few years ago, my son was admitted to a good university and the whole family got together to celebrate. Her son bought flowers and gifts with his pocket money, which gave her a big surprise. I expressed my envy and hatred in her circle of friends, and she told me privately that my son is a stepson.

We talked a lot that time. She said that when she first got married, her son was spoiled by his grandparents, with many bad habits and poor academic performance. After twice, the old man was unhappy, and the child also said that you are not my mother. After her long talk with her husband, he stood firmly by her side. The process is hard, so I won't repeat it. My son's condition is getting better and better every day, and he is getting closer and closer to her until he takes the initiative to call her mother. She smiled and said that her daughter had nothing to worry about since she was a child, and she basically didn't have to worry about it. I didn't expect it to be difficult to be a parent with her stepson.

Now the family is happy, and her husband and family regard her girl as their own children. If you have a son, you must have her girl. Both children go to grandparents' home together in winter and summer vacation. Now that my daughter has graduated from college, the couple have taken out their savings to support her to start a business, and the business is quite good. My son is going to take the postgraduate entrance examination next year.

Modern people are of high quality, so it is impossible for a stepmother to treat her children wholeheartedly. At least she will let them eat and wear warm clothes.

Excuse me, have you ever seen an old hen with chickens? The old hen took a nest of more than 30 chicks out for food, and suddenly found that there were other chicks in the group. The hen's first reaction is to jump on the others and peck them to death. Of course, there are old hens who pretend not to see other people's chickens.

Thanks to Wukong for inviting me.

I have a cousin who got married for the second time and has a son with his ex-wife. Now he is in the second grade. My cousin and his second wife also have a son who is in kindergarten. The family is very happy. The second wife dare not say that her cousin's first son is her own, but she also loves and cares!

On the contrary, my cousin's ex-wife seldom comes back to see her son. I don't know the inside story and can't comment, but I still don't care about my own son. Such a woman is cruel.

So I think my stepmother is not a stepmother, so I can't give her a specific label. Stepmother is not necessarily like a tiger, and mother doesn't necessarily love her. Depends on how this person is.

It seems that in many people's minds, stepmother is a snake and a scorpion. Actually it varies from person to person. Stepmother is also kind and considerate. If she can understand her husband and care about her family, she will be good to her children.

I think such a woman is very smart and worthy of men's love. She can be good to her husband and good to the children born to her ex-wife. How can she be unkind to her husband and not devote herself to this family? On the other hand, can a man not cherish his wife?

Love is mutual. Give love and you will get love!

Judging from the common social phenomenon, stepmother is good to children in a minority, lukewarm in a majority, and particularly evil to children in a minority.

There is a saying that often describes the relationship between mother and child: "A child is the meat that falls from the mother" and "Mother and child are connected". These statements are not unreasonable.

A few months after giving birth, I fainted once in my own house. Fortunately, after timely rescue, a doctor neighbor woke up.

I didn't know anything at that time, and I didn't feel anything. Later, I heard that the doctor's neighbor gave me a strong wake-up shot and still didn't wake up, which scared my husband! All the neighbors in the corridor came to help. At this time, someone said that she missed her most, and asked someone to call her and see if she could come over. Someone replied that it must be her child. Yes, everyone always agrees that I don't know who made my child cry. My son cried badly. He cried ... They quickly held his son to my ear. The child cried for a long time, and my eyes finally moved. It turned out that I vaguely heard a little son crying far away. I tried to find the child. When I heard the crying, it became a little bigger ... bigger ... bigger ... louder and closer. The crying finally woke me up. When I slowly opened my eyes, I found myself lying on the ground, and many people were watching me. The first thing I said was, "Where's my son?" Seeing someone holding my son to my side and tears running down my forehead, I thought, I can find you!

This may be the special love between mother and son! Love is the soul.

If the stepmother has no children, it is generally no problem for the adopted children. If they have children of their own, most of them will be different, just different in size.

However, there are also very kind stepmother, who are very close to their children and are no different from their children. This is a minority. Such a stepmother has a kind heart and a good temper. They love children, but they are good to everyone. They have an innate kindness. They like to do good things, but they won't do bad things. What's more, they can't bear to persecute small animals.

Therefore, such a stepmother is rare, but there must be. It is a blessing for any child to meet such a mother. I believe that a kind stepmother will be well rewarded and appreciated.

Everything can't be generalized! Some stepmother regards her stepson as her own, even more considerate than her biological mother. And those who were abandoned and beaten, some were done by their own mothers.

Tell me about the two stepmother I experienced,

My brother's classmate is a boy. Because he often comes to my house to play with my brother, he knows something about him. My mother died early, and my father made a living by riding a tricycle and selling coolies, but he made money. His stepmother is a rural person, very kind, gentle and good-looking.

It is said that she has her own son, and in order to avoid suspicion, she left him at her grandmother's house.

My brother's classmates always wear clean and tidy clothes, and his stepmother helps him clean them up. At that time, materials were scarce, but he always had snacks to eat, which his stepmother brought back from the countryside. Adults were reluctant to eat and left them to him.

He is very naughty and always gets into trouble! Every time someone comes to the door, his stepmother is accused of ignoring him

His stepmother swallowed her anger, but never beat and scolded him.

Later, he established a family. After his father died, he has been taking his stepmother with him to spend her old age safely.

In addition, my classmate is also a stepmother, but she has a miserable life. She met her hated stepmother. At that time, when we were still in primary school, she became her nanny. Her stepmother brought several children to work and get up early to make breakfast. At that time, we all envied her and were willing to do anything. What impressed me most was that she was still wearing thick velvet clothes in summer, which didn't fit her. Someone else wore it.

She always has injuries on her hands, black and blue, which were beaten by her stepmother. At that time, no one advocated protecting women and children.

When she comes to my home to do her homework, my mother will give her some medicine and sometimes give her something delicious that her family can't eat.

Mother always says behind her back that stepmother's children are poor!

One of my relatives, in pursuit of his own happiness, left a son who had just entered the society alone at home and remarried. (Widowed) My son gets off work every day, has nothing to do, and is very lonely, so he goes to a new food stall to drink. As a result, he was frightened after drinking and left a lifelong mental illness! This is mom, too!

So I said, we can't generalize!

This is my answer.

Send some flowers that I took today!

Will the stepmother be kind to the children? We can't generalize. In most cases, stepmother treats her children differently from her own. There are actually many such examples! But there are also examples of stepmother being kind to children. I have such an example around me. A man's wife died and married a woman with a child. When a woman enters the door, she is very kind to her children! Just like your own, it hurts when it hurts. Education is education, and there is no feeling of rubbing one layer after another! The child is very close to her, too! Neighbors all praised the man for his luck and his good wife!

Didn't meet a good one. My father remarried. I was four years old, and the woman told me not to raise it. I grew up in my grandparents' parents and called her aunt. Every weekend when they come back, I call someone and she ignores me. Then I got married, and she didn't attend. I didn't care, because she really has no feelings. Her son, her half-brother, is married and won't let me go. Later, my family didn't attend except my dad. I give my brother 200 red envelopes every New Year. Later, my brother worked and didn't give his son a red envelope during the New Year. My stepmother wouldn't let him communicate with us and didn't add WeChat. I don't want to go back to my grandparents' house during the Spring Festival. When I went back to my parents' house, my father quarreled with my grandparents about whether they could go home after they died. She wouldn't let me. My father was in pain. Actually, it doesn't matter if I don't go back I don't want my father to live alone.

How to treat everything in the world? Whether to look at it comprehensively or unilaterally; Optimistic and beautiful, or bad and ugly; Whether to look at the false evil or the true good. There is a law of unity of opposites.

Who is better for children, the biological mother or the stepmother? People have always been biased against stepmother's rational view, thinking that stepmother must be bad for children, on the grounds that children are not her own, but also parents and late-bearing children. I remember when I was a child, when I was enjoying the cool air on the threshing floor on a summer night, the old people pointed to three stars arranged in the shape of poles on both sides of the Milky Way in the sky and said that this was my own son, carrying lamp grass, and that was my late son, carrying stones. Generally speaking, the eccentricity of the deceased mother (stepmother) made the deceased children do hard work. It can be seen that since ancient times, people's view of stepmother is that it is not good for children who are not their own, which is deeply rooted.

Things always split in two. Not all stepmother is bad for children, and it is not uncommon for stepmother to be good for children in life. If one's own life is not better than one's own, the great Zhou Enlai has three mothers, the biological mother, the stepmother and the wet nurse. He said that his biological mother was kind and gentle and learned her kindness and tolerance; My mother is rich in knowledge, which makes me know how to love knowledge and use my head. The wet nurse taught him to be selfless.

Modern women have the characteristics of women in the new era. Even stepmother knows how to exchange hearts and feelings. Treat children as their own children, take care of them with their mother's feelings, raise them, treat them with their true feelings, and repay them with their filial piety.

Of course, it is not excluded that individual stepmother is not good for children. Under special circumstances, we can't generalize that stepmother is not good for children. Therefore, we should look at stepmother from a new angle.

I believe that women in the new era are active in thinking and open-minded, and will not regard their children as their own. Lead children to adulthood, raise children to be grateful and filial, and be sensible. Do your duty as a mother.