How do couples get happiness halfway? What problems should we pay attention to?

In the 21st century, divorce has become a common saying, and with the development of society, the divorce rate is getting higher and higher. There are many reasons for this, but it also makes many women feel that finding a man casually is 1 times and 1 times stronger than the current husband, which is enough to show how disappointed women are with their former feelings. My friend Xiaoliu once had a failed marriage. Her ex-husband was found cheating on a third party, so Xiaoliu was angry and filed for divorce, and let her ex-husband leave home clean. Although she got most of the property, Xiao Liu, who took care of her daughter alone, still felt lonely, and soon she found a divorced man with her daughter to reorganize her family.

After getting married, the daughter of the second husband rejected Xiao Liuhe and her little daughter very much, and her husband and daughter behaved pitifully in front of outsiders, as if Xiao Liuhe, the stepmother, had given her a lot of grievances. After returning home, my husband and daughter called back and forth to Xiao Liu, with no education or respect at all. What Xiao Liu can't stand most is that her husband and daughter will secretly bully Xiao Liu's daughter when adults are not paying attention. Xiao Liu wants her husband to take charge, but her husband says that he is very sorry for his daughter because of his divorce, and in turn advises Xiao Liu not to be as knowledgeable as children. Xiaoliu was very angry and their marriage soon came to an end. After Xiaoliu divorced again, she went around and found a civil servant husband. Unexpectedly, the situation of the third marriage was more.

Desperate, she found a man who is ten years older than her. He also has a son in high school, but his academic performance is poor because of lack of discipline, and he likes to make trouble. After failing the college entrance examination, the stepson was sent to a vocational school. But soon, the stepson thought the vocational school had no future, skipped classes and fought all day, and finally he had to drop out of school. Xiaoliu also found a relationship to send his stepson to join the army. After her stepson retired from the army, Xiaoliu began to arrange for her stepson to find a job, buy a house, buy a car, marry a wife and so on. Even Xiaoliu's own daughter complained about her mother's partiality. Xiao Liu also has a hard time. After all, he is not his own son. If he does less, he will be said to be eccentric. Now he has to pay for his own house, but he still can't get a gratitude from his family. Nowadays, although the young couple are not divorced, their relationship is tense, and they always quarrel or have a cold war. They are just a couple who live together. Seeing this, I believe everyone can understand that there are quite a few practical problems that couples need to solve halfway, and one carelessness will lead to divorce.

the first thing we need to understand is that marriage is a matter for two families. Especially for remarried couples, the attitudes of their children and parents are quite critical. Whether the children of both sides accept each other will seriously affect their future marriage life. The attitude of both parents is also the key. The older generation is more traditional, so it is not easy to re-recognize remarried daughter-in-law or son-in-law, and the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is more likely to be induced. One problem that couples can't avoid halfway is their predecessors, especially if both sides have children, the ex-husband or ex-wife is destined to be a "broken" person. Secondly, it is easy for a half-way couple to compare their predecessors with their current ones in their daily lives, thus generating negative emotions, which is also a key point that both remarried couples must avoid.

it is necessary to sort out the pre-marital property separately. A realistic but inescapable point. Who wants to leave the property, make the transfer in advance; How to distribute the property, write a will in advance; To whom their respective debts belong, discuss them in advance and notarize them ... In addition, the two couples should be independent in their economic income after marriage, and there should be no such thing as who takes advantage of who. It looks mean, but I can't help it. It is not easy to remarry. Couples with marital problems should try their best to save their marriage and don't choose divorce easily. Ma Yili once said, marriage is not easy to do and cherish. I think we should be more cautious about this kind of thing. After all, every time we get married and divorce, it will do great harm to our children and ourselves. It is better to think about some things before making a decision than to find a home in a hurry.