Watching movies and falling in love is like a serious illness. I'm glad I survived.

I want to talk to you about an old movie, Twelve Nights in 2000.

Director Oi Wah Lam, producer Chen Kexin, starring Cecilia Cheung and Eason Chan, and then Nicholas Tse, Feng Delun and Lu Qiaoyin all appeared at the beginning of the film.

Some people say that every time you start a relationship, you will unconsciously put each period in the right place with 12 night.

I have to say that Ai Hualin tells the truth in love in a more literary and cruel way.

1 Love at night is like a serious illness. It will be fine after that.

The fact that you don't love me can't stand all the details. Not loving is not loving. Many things are deceptive.

There is nothing wrong with this, because the fact is that there is no "then", let alone adding drama to yourself.

TA just doesn't love you anymore.

The next night, only people who love each other will think that their meeting is not accidental.

"I eat ice cream when I am unhappy. You are not so unhappy as I am, you can eat a small box. "

Beware of people who fall in love on the third night, because they are all crazy!

At that time, people were always passionate and always wanted to meet and talk.

You will make endless excuses for yourself, just to meet your sweetheart.

Looking at the small objects sent by TA, you smile very sadly, and others can see that you are in love.

"I'm here to deliver breakfast.

You're crazy! "

Will you remember my face when you close your eyes on the fourth night?

"Do you think you will still like someone after you know all about them?"

On the fifth night, men's dignity is placed on women and other men.

On the sixth night, a woman's dignity is on her face.

On the seventh night, you are happy and I am happy?

Tired is tired, there is nothing to say on the phone, so tired that you can't guess.

Call you again and again, and ask you again and again whether you love me, miss me or see me. What you get is perfunctory again and again.

On the eighth night, I loved you the most, but in the end it was just my own hard work.

"I'm very busy, work very hard, you don't lose this temper all day, ok?

I'm busy too. I have something to do. Why don't you ever appreciate everything I've done for you?

I didn't ask you to do those things. Why do you do so many things? "

After leaving you on the ninth night, I hid in every corner and cried.

"I didn't get a phone call yesterday. I think it's him.

It's been a whole month, miss If you wanted to regret it, you would have already regretted it.

What do you think if I go to him directly now?

He will make you feel worse. "

Actually, I came to see you this time just to say that we can still be friends.

"You said before that if you really date one day, you will take your girlfriend to see your former professor. I finally arrived in England, but I was alone. I got off at the railway station and saw your alma mater. I think you are strange and far away, and I am afraid. But if this feeling is gone, then I have nothing. "

1 1 that night, even though my skin was blind, I couldn't help waking up.

You fell asleep in my sad monologue ...

From that moment on, I knew that there was really no love, even when we were together, there was no G-spot.

12 that night, I fell ill with you. I thought I could continue to follow after I got well, but after I got well, I felt that you were not so good.

The overlap between the appearance in the last scene of the film and the beginning of the film created a new relationship of 12 night.

Some helpless, some ironic.

In college, I enjoyed watching Duras so much that I completely forgot the original intention of infatuation. I only remember Lover, Love in Hiroshima and Duras' personal emotional experience. I never told them again that the only person who can equate love with dreams is Duras.

Duras said, "for me, love is not a close relative of the skin, not a dish and a meal." It is an immortal desire and a heroic dream in a tired life. "

But earthly love is like a convenience store that doesn't close for 24 hours. You won't think about it until you can't go to the warehouse at night. Walking in the dark night and seeing his warm light will only make you feel grateful. He is open 24 hours a day, but only to attract your attention. Xu said well, love is like a watch. It doesn't give up day and night, but you only look at it a few times a day.

Maybe you have always believed in such a "truth", girls and boys, the former is more emotional and the latter is more rational; The former always thinks too much about feelings, and then slowly heats up to a high point, while the latter always enters the state quickly and then slowly cools down.

But in the movies of Ai Hualin, the scenes you see are not unfamiliar, very ordinary, but very heartfelt.

There was a quarrel in the second half of the film, which made many girls in love or lovelorn cry red, because it was too real and cruel.

Cecilia Cheung and Eason Chan have been together for a long time, and it is getting harder and harder to find this love.

Cecilia Cheung endured tears and asked Eason Chan, "Why is it that the better I treat you, the more you bother me?"? You weren't like this before. "

Eason Chan leaned helplessly against the flower bed by the roadside and shook his head: "You were not like this before. You used to have a lot of character, but now you are only nervous about me. "

Some people say that after reading this paragraph, it turns out that love is the same.

We always give all the good things to each other easily, and all the pain is left to ourselves. Finally, we lost ourselves in the accumulated forbearance and became an accessory of love.

This is the worst love.

There is no denying that falling in love really needs to be paid. But we should not only love that person wholeheartedly, but also treat this love wholeheartedly. And this love includes yourself.

How many people unconsciously ignore themselves in love?

People always have to love themselves first, become that precious self first, and then love another person equally.

The love described by Ai Hualin and Ye Nianchen will make you lose yourself in the game of love.

I have recommended the love trilogy directed by Ye Nianchen to you more than once. These three parts are exclusive attempts to love, very love and my favorite. Both the hero and heroine are played by Fang Lishen and Deng Lixin. Three movies can be seen separately, but they are a series.

Some people say that Ye Nianchen is too vicious. Who will believe in love after reading it? When watching the trilogy, I always feel that Ye Nianchen is a man who sees through everything.

Therefore, some people joked that when watching Hong Kong films, we must first check whether the writer or director is "Ye Nianchen", and if so, we must think carefully. If you are full of hope for love and still happy, don't go to see it, otherwise it will make you depressed and entangled; If you have ever been disappointed in love and think it is false, then don't watch it, or it will tell you what real despair is. Ye Nianchen always puts you together at the last minute, which makes people feel that when the movie ends happily, it seems that a pot of cold water has been poured from beginning to end. "Love is when you lie to me and I lie to you." This sentence is repeated and sublimated in his movies!

More interestingly, you can see the English names of his trilogy right away.

Try to fall in love and get married with a fool exclusively-if you want to get married, marry a fool, and remember that you are also a fool.

Love is not everywhere-love is not everywhere. You lost love, not that there is no love in this world, but that love just went somewhere else.

My favorite, L stands for love and L stands for lies-you must accept that lies are parasites of love.

When we talk about love these years, we often see the word "Left". Many things are made. Is that really the case?

I read a book recently, the story of Chipa. Huang Zhizhong, Ma Weiwei and Qiu Chen wrote a chapter about love in The Problem of Primary School. Among them, why there are all kinds of "works" to share love may open many people's blind spots and share them with you.

There are various forms of "writing". Some people are particularly reserved, obviously interested in each other, but they are always afraid of this and that. Some people are particularly suspicious, jealous and suspicious ... all these "work" phenomena have a common essence, that is, they can't simply enjoy the happiness in love, and they always have to create some problems for themselves to feel practical.

Psychologists believe that the key to the problem lies in "avoidant attachment". Later, researchers found that the attachment types of adults are mainly different in two dimensions, namely "fear of abandonment" and "avoidance of intimacy". People with a high degree of "fear of being abandoned" are wary of others and afraid of being rejected and cheated, although they expect to associate with each other; People with a high degree of "avoiding intimacy" are more independent, like their own way of life, and are unwilling to have an attachment relationship with others.

From these two dimensions, four types of personality can be divided:

1. Safe personality-neither worried about being abandoned nor avoiding intimate relationships. They can easily establish close relationships with others, and they can be trusted and trusted with peace of mind. Neither will they be jealous for no reason, nor will they tempt each other to rock the boat. In the relationship between men and women, this "safe personality" is the most ideal and healthy.

2. Compulsive personality-giving up high anxiety, but not avoiding intimacy. They are happy to have intimate relationships with their lovers, but they are always worried that the other party is not willing to pay as much affection, so they are more likely to be jealous. Like Lin Daiyu, Jia Baoyu can't be completely at ease no matter how abusive he is. When you get along with this kind of person, you must always be careful, maybe you will touch the lamella at any time.

3. Alienation-avoidant personality-don't worry about being abandoned, and avoid intimacy at the same time. This kind of person doesn't get along with people very much, but he can enjoy himself. It is easy to deal with such people every day, but if you want to fall in love, you must also be a person who enjoys himself.

4. Fear-avoidant personality-both afraid of being abandoned and avoiding intimacy. This kind of person is the most entangled, because they are eager for love, but they can't stand the real love relationship, and they can't be close or far away, so they seem to have a lot of scenes. We generally say that people who are particularly "acting" in love basically have such psychological problems.

In the relationship between lovers, two "safe personalities" together are the most perfect, two "alienated personalities" together can stay out of it, and two "obsessed personalities" together can turn life into Qiong Yao drama. The most terrible situation is that an "avoidant personality" and an "obsessive personality" are together. The former is afraid of intimacy and always wants to keep their distance, while the latter is always worried about being abandoned and chasing after them, which leads to tension between the two.

Of course, this does not mean that if you are an avoidant or compulsive personality, you are doomed to find true love. In fact, attachment pattern is only a rough classification, and it is likely that everyone has some degree of security, obsession and avoidance factors. More importantly, the feeling of attachment is not static, it will change with the change of our own experience. Researchers have found that even those babies who are naturally fragile and sensitive, parents can influence their emotional feedback through more intimate and responsive care. In other words, this attachment pattern can be changed. For adults, they can consciously accept and adjust themselves. For example, you can ask yourself three questions:

1. What am I?

2. How should I treat people who like myself and myself?

3. In the face of my beloved, will I have some unconscious psychological obstacles?

I read this passage the other day, which is quite acceptable. The personality in love is obvious, and I do admit my problems. I'm afraid you don't know what's wrong with you, and you're "working" inexplicably, thinking about the past and trying to cover your face ... Of course, anyone who has never been young can fix their own problems, so it's not terrible.

Although the film is a little early, it is really worth seeing. As for Ye Nianchen's trilogy, you should choose carefully whether to watch it or not.

Youku has a high-definition Cantonese version, and the viewing experience is OK. Tencent also has Dolby's Mandarin version, which I'm not used to. If you are used to Mandarin OK, the picture quality is perfect.