What kind of psychology is it for a man who never gives you the economic power at home?

That person in my family is such a person. Economic power is in his hands. I don't know how much money he has in his card now. All I know is that he is rich. He has more than 8 thousand mobile phones, drives a BMW and has a van. Not to mention a scooter. I also have an electric donkey. [Covering your face] Some time ago, one of my relatives got sick and raised money for surgery. He paid 600 yuan. If he wants to open the pavement, he will take out tens of thousands. In fact, he is not so generous to me and the children. To tell the truth, he also made money through hard work. He bought all the daily necessities at home on time, and only these things were well managed. I will buy it if I don't wear it, but I won't buy it for you again. If you want to eat fruit, when you get to the last street, you have to ask him for money ... In short, he will do everything at home as long as he pays, but he won't. So I am in pain, so I am thinking, what is his psychology? His mother died when he was a child, his father later married his stepmother, and their grandfather took charge of the three brothers. Later, when they were older, they went out to travel by themselves. In short, when he was a child, he didn't receive the most basic education from his family, which led to his current personality. He thinks money is the most reliable. He said this to me before, and I said a word to him. He said that his daughter-in-law finally. He said the baby was someone else's. I only had two daughters at that time. Then, it's gone. I didn't ask why, but I can't forget these two words ... I think if I keep my heart closed, no one can touch the people in his heart, which is directly related to the environment in which he grew up! I also have two daughters now. If I look for a son-in-law in the future, I must look at his family background. As a mother, I still have to do what I have to do, and the rest depends on their fate, right?

This question should be said to be a true portrayal of my friend.

My friend is a typical Fung Wong-Nui, married to a husband with a little power at home.

After marriage, her husband's family looked down upon her and felt that her friend's family was a burden. She found various reasons not to let her friend go back to her family. After having children, friends are not allowed to take them home on the grounds that their parents' environment is dirty and infectious diseases are common in rural areas.

As for her husband, he never gives his salary to his wife. The reason is that I am afraid that my friends will help my family. Not only did he not give money, but after the child was born, he didn't spend a penny for the child. The reason is that you have your own money, so why spend it on me? It's enough for children to spend money with you. Why touch mine?

A friend learned from a bitter experience and later started his own business. She gritted her teeth and took care of the children while opening a shop. Both her mother-in-law and her husband quarreled with her, blaming her for ignoring the children and not asking for money at home. She smiled coldly: I am the most short of money, not only I am short of money, but also my children. You don't want me to work, but you give me money!

Husband and mother-in-law still insisted on not letting her work, posing as chicken soup that a good daughter-in-law thrives for three generations and a mother is the most important career in a woman's life. Friends are still unmoved and impatient. The friend said, then divorce. So I rented a house and moved there with my children. At this time, my husband was afraid and apologized for several days. Every day, he wants her to go back.

Finally, the husband gave her the salary card and the store continued to open. I'm still very happy.

My friend's husband didn't pay the salary card at first because he looked down on it. If a woman wants to be respected, she must have her own career and be cruel. A woman who is cruel to herself takes the lead in the game. A man is a creature who will weigh the pros and cons. Weighing between handing over economic power and changing wives, he will definitely choose to hand over economic power. Unless, of course, he thinks otherwise.

I'm just a person who's not very good,

Let me tell you something: I got married for the second time. Is that my wife? I don't have a salary card. Because I opened a small shop 0/00 km away from home, my wife didn't bring her children at home.

I don't know whether to hand over power. Although I don't have a card, I pay the monthly living expenses and give her a tens of thousands of credit cards. She can brush whatever she wants. I won't pay attention to her without a large sum of money, because the bank has a short message, so I know what she spends, but it is impossible to deposit money, because I am afraid, because my first marriage is like the ghost on the Internet: if you love me, you can save money for your financially powerful wife. Because of work problems, I left home almost neatly shortly after the end of the seven-year marriage between the two places, and I lost money. I don't know if you understand the pain of having no money. From then on, I was sober. No matter how much I love someone, don't give them my lifeline, because as much as I love them, I hate them.

It has never been stipulated that a family must hand over economic power to its hostess? .

Let's give an example of a colleague. In the past, there was a male colleague in the company who left the financial power of the family to his wife, that is, all the major events at home should be properly arranged. Later, his wife thought it was too much trouble, so she left it to him. He complained to us that she was bored to death and didn't want to care, because it was really trivial!

You don't want to live with a man if he doesn't pay. His abacus is spinning in his mind. If he won't let you accept the money, you will have to pay the living expenses even if you live together. According to the experience of the older generation, no matter how much money is after marriage, the woman will regret it one day. Before we got married, I told my husband that I would take care of the money in the future. At first he didn't agree, so I said not to get married. I must have the big money. How easy it is for a person to make mistakes with money in his pocket. Besides, if one day I run away in anger, he has money and someone, and he has to weigh his own psychology.

There is a preset position on this issue: the man must hand over the economic power of the family to the woman, otherwise the man has a problem.

Do you think this preset position is suitable?

Although there is no statistical data to support it, I observe people around me. Generally speaking, women will ask men to hand in their salary cards after marriage, generally for the following three reasons:

You see, behind these reasons is "inferiority and insecurity". From the moment you get married, you have begun to doubt whether the man you marry will always love you and cheat.

I always think that after marriage, the long-term stability of a small family must be the common goal of both husband and wife. When it comes to family economic strength, the first question you need to think about is: If you give a family's income to you, whether it is to your husband or wife, can you manage it well? What percentage of family wealth can you increase every year?

After thinking about this problem, you will come to a conclusion: the power of family financial management must be obtained by capable people. In other words, it is a reasonable choice for people who have the ability to restrain their desires, are more rational and know how to manage their finances.

I talked about two different families with my own eyes.

In the first family, the wife is in charge of the family economy. My husband is engaged in sales, and his income is stable at around 200,000 per year, neither more nor less. Usually, the wife's salary mainly pays for the daily expenses of the family and some expenses of the children, while the husband's is saving, mainly investing in some bonds and stocks. My wife is very good at managing money, and their financial income has been stable at an average annual growth rate of 10%.

This husband is a former colleague of my former company. He was a little drunk at a dinner party. He told us about his wife and praised her ability. He earns very little money, and she is the master of making money in the family. He admits that when he was on a business trip, he also met a little girl who tried to take the upper position, but he was not interested at all. Because his psychology is very clear, if he divorces on impulse, he will be very sad to live such a comfortable life in the future. His wife takes care of everything for him and never detains him for food and drink.

You know, accounting, balancing income, choosing investment products, etc. are all very complicated and require a lot of extra energy and time. He knows that he is not that kind of person and has no patience.

The other is my next-door neighbor. In their family, the husband is in charge of the family finances. The wife is willing to give her salary card to her husband. Because my wife is sensitive, sometimes she can't help but buy some impractical things, and she knows that when she sees numbers, she will have a headache, let alone use a calculator to calculate the family expenses there.

Her husband, on the other hand, has a financial background and is good at calculation. Counting accounts, buying wealth management and balancing risks and benefits are his strengths, and he enjoys it.

When a wife needs money, she will spoil her husband. Sometimes her husband asks her, "Why is there no money again? Didn't she just give you 4000? " The wife will smile and say, "Oh, this bag is good. You have all my money, so you can't skimp on the expenses, dear ~ "

Their family is also very happy, and they have never quarreled over money.

In fact, no matter who is in charge of money, it is the one who pays more. See who is willing to pay more energy and time to look at those figures, calculate family expenses, manage family wealth, control family daily expenses and so on.

Because, after a long time, you will find that the person in charge of family finance has finally become a real "old lady". Almost anywhere, including family relations, buying gifts for the elderly on holidays, and which remedial class children choose, have changed from two people's affairs to your own.

In the matter of family financial management, it is only appropriate, not necessary or should be. If we regard this matter as "who obeys who" and "who controls who", it will be inevitable that the person in charge of money will be wronged and resentful after a long time.

The happiness between husband and wife can not be achieved by whoever catches the economic lifeline.

If a man is devoted to his family, what does it matter if he doesn't give you the financial plan?

What can you do if a man is not at home and gives you economic power?

If a man scrimps, doesn't spend money or drink, and bears all the expenses at home, what's the point of asking him to pay his financial strength? How much can he give you? Given your financial power, can you handle everyone's expenses, mortgage, car loan, children's schooling and personnel relations? If you can't do it, you might as well not do it. These are all things that need to be worried and carefully calculated.

If a man lives a chic life, regardless of his family, partying and socializing, saying that he gives you financial power, can you manage it?

It is not easy for women, nor is it easy for men. More tolerance, more understanding. As long as you have a sense of responsibility for this family, you have the responsibility of being a parent, a husband and a wife. You are willing to pay for this family, so why care so much?

I don't think it matters who is in charge of money in a family. What matters is who can manage money. Not all women are suitable for financial management, or good financial management! As long as life is good, it doesn't matter who cares about money.

Economic strength is very important in family life, which directly determines the direction of a family. Many women think that they should manage money, swear sovereignty to men and become the masters of the family. It doesn't matter if you want to manage money. You should have the ability to manage and use money.

Tell me about my personal experience! My wife doesn't care about the money at home. Why? Because she really doesn't care about money. She likes to waste money. As long as she has money, she has to spend it all.

As long as you see the clothes you like, you can't help yourself. There's a lot of clothes, and you're still yelling that you have no clothes to wear. How to say that as a man, you can safely give her all your money?

My wife has a job and a salary. She often spends all the money she earns every month and asks me for money to spend. Do you think it's not enough if I give her all the money?

Some women just don't count money, they can spend as much as they can, just for their own happiness. Do you think this kind of life is not enough? Children have to go to school, and parents need money to support the elderly everywhere. Where can it not count?

People often say that if you can't eat, wear or count, you will be poor. This kind of financial management is not a woman's patent, nor is it a necessity for women.

Many women like to keep up with the joneses. As soon as they hear that other women are jealous of money, they think that women should take care of it, which is really wrong. Remember that it was a double eleven some time ago! A woman owes hundreds of thousands of things by swiping her card online, no matter whether it is useful or not. Buy it all home!

You can buy it, but you still have to borrow more money than you can afford, which will only ruin the poor people's homes. What kind of family can spend hundreds of thousands of dollars a night on useful and useless things?

Spend money to see your ability to make money. You should calculate your daily expenses before spending money. In today's society, many young people like the moonlight clan to spend their own money. I just want to ask where to find money when you need it badly.

Borrow it from others? How many people in the society are willing to introduce you now? How many people can give money to one? On the other hand, when others lend money to others, should you also consider your repayment ability?

I think a family depends on who can manage money well and who can use it well! Don't blindly compare with others, as long as you can make the positive life better. I think it's the same for everyone who cares about money.

Women think that financial management is a beautiful job. Actually, I think financial management is a chore. Many times, people who manage money are reluctant to spend money or buy for others.

Why? Because he knows that financial management is not easy, it is impossible to make money without calculating the basic necessities of life at home and abroad, and it is even more difficult to manage money.

Therefore, both husband and wife should understand more. People in charge of money are either powerful or capable. Being able to manage and use money well is the ability. Many times, it's not that men don't let women manage money, but that many women really can't manage money.

Therefore, it is most important for both men and women to manage their finances as long as they can live a good life. Seriously, financial management is really not a good job. Very hard, very hard!

I think if you are a woman who is good at using money and can take care of everything at home and abroad, no man wants to take care of money. I don't think financial management is as simple as spending money conveniently. But to find a way to build a better home as much as possible under the existing ability!

Conclusion: Financial management is not a good job. Women do not always have the ability to manage money. Don't compare with other people who manage money. We want to live a better life and have a more harmonious family! Money is a tool of life. Who cares if you are doing well? Finally, I hope my answer is helpful to you!

I'm glad to answer your question.

There is no absolute answer to this question.

From a woman's point of view, a woman will think that a man who loves his family and his wife will inevitably give his money to his own management. If he doesn't give it, it means that he doesn't love himself enough and doesn't believe in himself. So over time, contradictions will accumulate, and some small habits in life will be accused, which will eventually lead to mutual distrust and bury the idea of divorce.

From a man's point of view, he thinks that my hard-earned money can be managed by you, which means you can keep his money. But some women really can't manage money. Ma Yun said that Taobao is supported by women. People say that women earn the most money, which shows that most women are impulsive consumers. Many husbands are not used to this. Men are rational consumers. My husband said that one of his colleagues was divorced. The reason is that his wife has a job of more than 4000 yuan, but spends a lot of money on expensive things for her daughter. Eat well as a family and go out to eat. Income is out of proportion to expenditure. After several years, she owed more than 200,000 credit cards, flowers and small loans. Her husband just found out that she finally got divorced a year later. Such a woman, how can a man trust her to manage the economic power at home? Some women are married, but they still keep taking money back to their parents' home for subsidies. How can my husband rest assured? You can use your own money to subsidize your family today, and you can use your savings to subsidize your family the day after tomorrow. Men think so.

Just because you don't give money to women doesn't mean men don't love you.

Tell me more about me. In the past, my husband would manage the family finances for me. Since having children, as the person in charge of family expenses, I have to replace many things, such as furniture and household appliances. He can't understand that I bought so many things, so some of them are often used. I think so too. Some of them do eat ash after buying it home several times. This year, he gave a large bonus. He said he saved it himself. To tell you the truth, I have no opinion. He earned his money back. How to arrange it is his business. Just give it to his family on time every month.

So, my friend, there is really no absolute right or wrong in this question you ask. Just from what point of view. Put yourself in others' shoes. If a woman has the ability to make money, even if a man doesn't care, then leave it alone. I'm too lazy to care. Anyway, if you have no money, you can't use my money. Everyone is very concerned.

People say no.

This matter depends on several aspects.

At first, if you are together, men are very economical and stingy to you, and they are reluctant to give you money outside. You should know this.

In the second aspect, after you two get married, the expenses at home and abroad are unconsciously taken care of by women. This kind of subtle thing, let nature take its course, the man's economic power is in your control and is given to you unconsciously.

The third aspect is that women haggle over every ounce economically at first and have no sense of responsibility for their families. In some families, the contradiction lies in their ability to play mahjong. On this issue, gambling on small pleasures and gambling on big pleasures will hurt your health, that is, lose your family. On the economic front, both sides are very cautious. They have no love for their families, and they are different.

The fourth aspect is that women or men love gambling, and they are financially insecure about who will take care of them. Therefore, women should be virtuous, take care of their families, be housekeepers, love their parents and children, and if men are generous, love their wives and children and put family first, how can economic power not be in women's hands! At least I am. My husband admires me. [Laughter] [Laughter] [Ross]