How to educate children who love to lie?

How to educate children who love to lie?

Always adhere to one principle, that is, you must not be lenient to students who love to lie.

1. Parents do not evade responsibility. Vanity, rebellion, and parental influence are the reasons.

Basically, parents cannot escape responsibility for students who love to lie. As long as I find him lying, it will definitely not be the first time for this student. You need to establish the dignity of the teacher and tell him that lying is a very serious act. Then parents' cooperation is needed. Teachers and parents must find out in time why the children lied about this matter. But usually, it's a lot of small things, so parents generally don't pay much attention to it. I didn’t bring something, I was late for school, I forgot to do my homework, and so on. The reasons that can make elementary school students dare to lie to solve problems are basically very simple, just three factors: evading responsibility, rebellious psychology, and parental influence.

Evading the responsibilities that should be borne by primary school students is the main reason for lying. Because when faced with these problems, children don’t know how to bear the consequences or how to communicate with the teacher. Anyway, lying has the lowest cost and the best effect, so they will choose to lie. Rebellious psychology appears more often in the upper grades of primary school. When children reach a certain age, their vanity will increase. They use methods such as telling lies and making up things to show that they are cool, and they use lies to express that they are awesome. As for the influence of parents, this is also the most common. Many of our parents don't pay attention to it in daily life. Parents like to lie and teach their children directly through words and deeds. There is no need to imitate or teach children. Children will think that lying is a normal behavior when they get along with their parents day and night.

2. Equal dialogue, positive education, and caring for self-esteem

When we find out the reasons for lying, we will educate them not to lie based on their individual differences. And the reason why many parents are confused is that I beat them and scold them, but the children still love to lie anyway, and I have no choice. This education method is negative education, and its effect is very difficult to reform a primary school student who loves to lie. As a teacher, I will not be lenient when it comes to lying to children. At the same time, I use positive education to help children understand how bad lying is. Because every primary school student's self-esteem will be bruised once he is criticized by the teacher, especially if his little trick of lying is exposed by the teacher. Therefore, on the premise of protecting the children's self-esteem, I educate the lying primary school students positively.

The method I use is to talk as equals. I am willing to give the primary school students who lied a chance to appeal and defend themselves, but it is not a chance to quibble. You can talk to the teacher about why you lied, what problems you encountered, and what you need help from the teacher. An equal dialogue is to allow the child to have a certain safe zone, and in this safe zone, guide him to take responsibility for the mistakes he made because of lying. And understand the consequences of lying, be able to take the initiative to correct it, and promise not to lie again. This is an educational goal that I can achieve relatively easily through equal dialogue. Some teachers, in view of their authority, often reprimand students, causing students to fear. If the problem is not solved, they will continue to lie next time anyway.

3. Reduce children’s psychological pressure, actively communicate with teachers, and prevent mistakes.

Usually, under my strict education, primary school students who lie will have some psychological pressure. This is a necessary mental journey that must be gone through. Only when you are under pressure can you remember the dangers of lying. Excellent quality education is not happy for primary school students with poor self-discipline. Because this is not their comfort zone, primary school students do not have high understanding of mistakes. As an educator, it is difficult for you to make them understand the dangers of lying in the first place. Therefore, psychological pressure becomes a way to make children feel ashamed about lying.

When you see that your children can recognize their mistakes, you should immediately reduce the psychological pressure on primary school students.