Essay on how to be a man: There is a kind of person who will always meet good people and good things.

Editor's note: Good people are rewarded. In dealing with people, manage your own advantages and give full play to your own characteristics, and you will reap a better life.

There is a colleague, Ani, who is cheerful, lively and generous, and is considerate when getting along with people. She is just right in joking and seriousness. The slight deficiency in her work may be that her ability to think is average. Because of her personality and knowledge reserve, her innovation ability and some practical operation ability are relatively lacking.

What was my first impression of Arnie? It's none of your business. Hang high? Doing a very skilled job, occasionally joking with colleagues, getting off work easily after finishing the work efficiently, and paying little attention to the internal affairs of the department or self-growth. I remember that when I first entered the company, everyone needed to prepare one. I thought Arnie must have a lot to say as an old employee, but she just didn't care about a few words. Well, the image of an office operator who can only shout but not make progress is so much. Unexpectedly, she later became my closest colleague and partner in the company.

Because of the mobility and job transfer, she and I became the heads of different groups. I was worried about the appointment of Ani at first. Can she do her job well? But as it turns out, I worry too much.

Indeed, judging from the experience and skills of leading the team, she is inexperienced and lacks thinking about her work. How to help the team achieve performance is unknown. However, Arnie has a great advantage, that is, she is easy to ask! I asked you if you were annoyed and moved, whether you began to reflect on why you were unable to ask for help like her, and whether you began to admire this old smooth.

From the beginning as regional director, Ani will discuss almost all major issues with me, and not only discuss them, but also give me sincere feedback when I put forward a suggestion and idea. For example, how to talk to a former employee? How to speak? What I said to her in bits and pieces, she actually carefully wrote it down on paper, sorted out her thoughts and brought it to me for review and advice. After the communication, she will reply to my situation at that time in time, where I didn't do well, where I need to optimize and so on. She is so humble and pious.

After all, everyone is busy. When Arnie came to me for help, I was reluctant. Later, every suggestion he made to me was so attentive, so diligent in practice, so deeply reflective, and I was willing. This change in mental state does not come from the need to feel good about yourself, but is moved by the seriousness of a person asking for help, and this habit of asking questions is exactly what I lack.

In addition to asking questions and working hard in the process, Ani is a very grateful person. Her grounded communication style and straightforward attitude towards people make people feel very comfortable. In the process of communication between you and me, she often expresses her gratitude and reflects on her own shortcomings. With the increase of actual combat experience, Arnie was able to solve some problems independently, and his thinking about the problems became more and more profound. It's not so much that I accompanied her through the transition period when I first entered the management, but that she has a lot. Question? Help me grow up and see all the aspects I need to improve.

The other day, we talked about the hardships along the way and the warmth of mutual support. She said she was grateful to meet such a nice person as me, which helped her grow up a lot. I said, in fact, even if you don't meet me, you will meet more good people and things, and I'm glad to meet a friend like you.

Yes, I really think there is a kind of person who will meet good people and good things no matter where he is, such as Arnie. Lively and grounded personality can make people around her very comfortable, and more importantly, she knows how to go. Lever? Grow up. Lack of understanding, open-minded consultation, active communication, hard practice, hard feedback and gratitude may just be what you say. She really did it.

If you're not good at it? Lever? It doesn't matter, good deeds don't just revolve around people like Arnie, but people like Arnie who meet good deeds have such a characteristic? Do your own advantages to the extreme, and you can touch and influence others. Arnie will ask, you may say, he may do it, everyone is different, but if you manage your own advantages with your heart, you can reap your own beautiful life. Good luck.

Author: Hao Min

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