"Daughter, you give me a pension, and the school district is all for your big brother." What should a 60-year-old mother say

In the traditional culture of our country, men's status is highly respected, while women exist in the form of male accessories, and their contribution to women can almost be taken for granted, without any equal opportunities.

With the changes of the times, the voice of women's liberation has been roaring for decades. Although unequal treatment has changed a lot, people's deep-rooted selfishness still remains in the hearts of some elderly people.

Sister Xiao Fang has such a traditional mother, which always makes her feel wronged.

Such chilling parents are also helpless.

My sister, Xiao Fang, is the youngest sister in the family, with a younger brother on it. It is said that one son and one woman make up a good word, but the little details in life always make Xiao Fang, the younger sister, very chilling.

My parents used to have three ancestral houses, one principal room and two wing rooms. After the demolition, the old couple and their daughter, Xiao Fang, each gave half of their money for three school districts of the same size, just to give their children a good school.

But when the house came down, the 60-year-old parents did not intend to give it to Xiao Fang, and said to their niece, "Daughter, give both school districts to your eldest brother. You are a daughter and your uncle is rich. When the time comes, you will give me a pension! "

I'm going to write two of them in my son's name so that my grandson can go to school. I will leave one in my own name and share it with my brother and sister equally after a hundred years.

Xiao Fang was indignant at his parents' eccentric behavior.

In daily life, although parents always say that it is the same for both brothers and sisters, the elderly are helping to take care of all their daily lives.

I will visit my parents with nutrition for ten and a half days, and I will give my parents pocket money on holidays, fearing that my parents will not be willing to spend money and treat themselves badly.

But parents usually treat Xiao Fang in a special way. They always leave the fresh food they bought to their brother's family, and most of their parents' wages also support their brother's family's life.

But my brother's family conditions are the same as his own, and he doesn't need the old people's allowance, but his parents still enjoy it.

For these ordinary little details, Xiao Fang also swallowed their anger, but this time the house was real, which made Xiao Fang very chilling. Grandchildren need school districts to go to school, but granddaughters don't? In addition, I also gave some money.

Facing her parents' resolute attitude, Sister Xiao Fang burst into tears in an instant, but she was speechless and went home.

Xiao Fang's elder sister's husband also comforted her, saying don't care too much. In the past, her husband never asked questions. I naturally feel a little uncomfortable with the result now.

Since then, Sister Xiao Fang only visits her parents on holidays, and usually makes a phone call to find out about her parents' recent situation. I'm not so enthusiastic about going to my parents' house anymore. I really feel that my married daughter has poured water.

In fact, there are always some parents who are eccentric, but we can't choose our parents, we can only be ourselves.

How to be yourself and be filial to your parents

1) Families should be considerate of each other, and do not favor one over the other.

After a woman got married, she changed from a daughter to a multi-role almighty. Wife, mother, daughter-in-law and daughter are all critical moments for a woman to grow up.

If parents are selfish, then you can do some persuasion and don't let parents fall into other people's criticism.

After marriage, the focus of life should be more on your own small family. At the same time, one should take good care of his parents' family. It is good to be unfaithful to parents and impartial to the elderly.

2) behind closed doors, don't compare with others.

In fact, after marriage, both parents' families and their own small families are relatively independent living environments, each with its own life circle.

There is really no need to ask each other and compare with each other. Parents have their parents' stubbornness and their own lives, so there is no need to confuse them.

As long as you can, you should take care of your parents. There is no need to care too much between brother and sister, because some interests have damaged family ties.

3) Treat life with a normal heart and don't care.

Being a man, the most important thing is to have a clear conscience about yourself. There will always be unfair treatment in life. It is good to have an eccentric parent and a correct attitude.

There is no need to make yourself unhappy for the sake of parents' small thoughts. After all, parents are elders. We should do our own thing well and don't care too much about the practices of our elders. This is also a kind of filial piety that we can do.

Filial piety is the first of all virtues. Although we can't listen to our parents foolishly, we can open our minds and make ourselves a good example to prevent such bad habits from being passed down.