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Do you know any way to talk to children more intimately?

Parents with high emotional intelligence should not talk about their children when they speak. Adults are also like spring breeze. Observing their parent-child relationship, I always feel particularly intimate and harmonious.

The characteristics of a good speech are:

First, the child feels that he and you are equal individuals, and there is no difference in class strength between you;

Second, children feel your respect and attention;

Third, the child feels that you are working hard for his feelings, situation and interests;

Fourth, children feel relaxed, comfortable and willing to accept what you say. ?

Good speech skills must give children a good feeling. Whether a speech is good or not depends on the feelings of the audience and is judged by the children. It is the child's feeling good, not your own feeling good.

There are seven specific ways:

1, "talk to children", not children.

This emphasizes the sense of participation conveyed to children, who feel that "my parents and I are equal", rather than the other side commanding me condescendingly.

2. Repeat the expression

Repeating a child's words often means "I understand, I understand, I am listening to you."

3, video machine expression

When talking about things, just objectively describe what you have observed, including the child's behavior and what he said. Don't judge subjectively, especially don't label it.

4. Wow, expression

Wow. Oh? These three words are short modal particles. Using them to express interest in listening can effectively enhance children's willingness to continue talking.

5. Positive reinforcement expression of good motivation

Excavating good motivation+telling good motivation+describing behavior+expressing feelings, thus playing a role in strengthening positive motivation.

? 6. Positive expression of good qualities

In a speech, try to avoid bad qualities and only talk about good qualities.

For example, if you think your child's handwriting is not neat, don't say "you are too sloppy", but say "If you can keep practicing writing 10 minutes every day, I think you will write more neatly."

7. Expression of "but"

Put the shortcomings you want to mention to your child in the first half of the sentence, and put the advantages you want to appreciate and affirm after the "but" in the second half.

Pay attention to me, and you will definitely feel my value. Wechat official account: Sisi said parenting)