Daughter-in-law, since you earn a lot of money anyway, just give 100,000 yuan to your brother-in-law when he gets married. How should I answer?

Love does not need to be grasped deliberately. The more you want to grasp your love, the easier it is to lose yourself, the principles of things, and the tolerance and understanding that should be maintained between each other, and love will become meaningless. Aesthetic form.

01

Nowadays, many young people have no intention of getting married, and the same is true for Miaomiao. After graduation, Miaomiao stayed in Beijing and joined the Beipiao clan.

Because Miaomiao was very good-looking, it was easy to find a job. Compared with those fresh graduates who had submitted their resumes for half a month without any response, Miaomiao was very lucky.

Having a job that could support her and being alone for a long time, Miaomiao gradually fell in love with this unrestrained feeling. For a long time, Miaomiao had no intention of falling in love. .

So Miaomiao focused more on herself, working hard, going out with friends regularly, exercising regularly, etc.

Over the past few years, Miaomiao not only has an impressive figure, but her career has also been rising. With a monthly salary of tens of thousands of yuan, Miaomiao has already bought a house.

Although there are many suitors around her, none of them like Miaomiao. As she grows older, Miaomiao is already in her 30s.

Seeing that her friends around her were getting married and her parents from her hometown were urging her from a distance, Miaomiao became a little anxious. After all, she was considered a "big problem".

02

Since there was no one she liked among the familiar people, Miaomiao asked her friends to introduce her to her. Through the introduction of her friends, Miaomiao actually met a nice man.

Wang Gang looks very handsome and behaves like a gentleman and gentle person in front of Miaomiao. For Miaomiao, who holds the title of "leftover girl", she is very satisfied to find such a boyfriend.

But the only bad thing is that Wang Gang does not have much money, and his salary is only a few thousand yuan a month. Since she is going to be with Wang Gang, Miaomiao also takes the initiative to bear most of the expenses during their relationship. , Wang Gang didn’t say anything about this.

Wang Gang has a very sweet mouth and makes Miaomiao happy every time. Although Wang Gang likes to brag and talk big, and is often late for dates, Miaomiao feels that any boy is not so careless.

Although Miaomiao's friend had some opinions on this and asked Miaomiao to talk about Wang Gang, but instead of being angry with Wang Gang, Miaomiao felt that Wang Gang was very real and cute.

For Miaomiao, having a man who has committed herself to her for the rest of her life is enough to drive her crazy, and she can never listen to what others say.

03

The relationship between Wang Gang and Miaomiao heated up rapidly, and it didn’t take long for them to talk about marriage. Regarding their wedding, Wang Gang said that he would take care of it.

He also promised Miaomiao that the bride price should be at least 200,000 yuan. Miaomiao was afraid that Wang Gang could not afford it, and she did not care about money, so she persuaded Wang Gang to give less.

However, Wang Gang said that 200,000 is 200,000. This is his intention for Miaomiao, and if others buy three pieces of gold, he will give Miaomiao hardware as a gift. Looking at this man, Miaomiao is full of confidence in the future.

I originally planned to get engaged at the end of the year, but not long after Miaomiao found out that she was pregnant, so the engagement had to be brought forward. However, when they got engaged, Wang Gang agreed to a 200,000-yuan gift, but only gave 20,000. , Wang Gang excused himself by saying that he was in a hurry and did not have time to prepare so much money.

Fortunately, Miaomiao only told her parents about the 80,000 yuan gift, so Miaomiao paid 60,000 yuan out of her own pocket and collected the 80,000 yuan gift. As for the hardware Wang Gang mentioned, she only bought a pair that day. Gold bracelet.

Miaomiao was a little uncomfortable with everything Wang Gang said but couldn't do, but Wang Gang used his mouth to coax Miaomiao.

Through this engagement, although everything seemed harmonious on the surface, when they returned home, Miaomiao's parents thought that Wang Gang was a bit unreliable, and the conditions of Wang Gang's family were much worse than their own.

My parents advised Miaomiao to think about it carefully. If she didn’t like it, just return these things when the time came. However, Miaomiao, who was in love, could not hear these things and thought her parents were insulting her. love.

In this way, at Miaomiao's insistence, Wang Gang and Miaomiao held their wedding at the end of the year.

04

After getting married, when the passion for love slowly subsided, Miaomiao became a little bit hindsight. First of all, her husband actually took his family to live in the house she bought. in the house.

Originally Miaomiao did not want to live with the old man, but Wang Gang's father was in poor health. Wang Gang said that he took the old man over to take care of him, and Miaomiao could not refute anything.

If it is reasonable to take the old man to live with him, then Wang Gang has not made progress at all after getting married, which makes Miaomiao feel very uncomfortable.

Because Miaomiao got married, her parents gave the two of them a car, so Wang Gang simply quit his job, saying that he made more money from a sports car and it came quickly.

However, after Wang Gang drove for several months, Miaomiao didn't see a penny. She had to rely on herself to give Wang Gang some money from time to time to refuel, and the family's expenses were basically provided by Miao Miao. Miaolai takes responsibility.

The most outrageous thing is that Wang Gang actually listens to everything. Wang Gang usually likes to brag. My mother-in-law thought that Wang Gang was very profitable, so she asked Miaomiao to get money from time to time, because she thought that was all. From what her son earned, Miaomiao would also pay for the expenses incurred by relatives such as her sister-in-law and brother-in-law.

Miaomiao is a very strong woman. For the sake of face and to keep her marriage, Miaomiao broke her teeth and swallowed it.

Miaomiao originally thought that her temporary compromise would bring about Wang Gang's maturity. However, Wang Gang's sports car not only lacked appearance, but instead played games when he returned home.

Miaomiao said something to Wang Gang, but Wang Gang got angry, saying that Miaomiao looked down on himself because of how much he earned, didn't understand him at all, and didn't support his own business.

05

For the sake of face and marriage, Miaomiao kept using money to help Wang Gang lie.

For example, my sister-in-law borrowed tens of thousands to decorate her new house. She said it was a loan but it was actually free money. My sister-in-law and her family were not prepared to repay the money at all.

My brother-in-law wanted to get married, and my mother-in-law asked Wang Gang and Miaomiao to take 100,000 yuan. Miaomiao gritted her teeth and still gave it, but Miaomiao could no longer stand up to this lie. She was about to be betrayed by Wang Gang. Empty.

Recently, Miaomiao's belly has gotten bigger and bigger. Miaomiao also applied for maternity leave with the company, thinking that she could get some care at this time.

Unexpectedly, the mother-in-law said to Miaomiao: "My daughter is also pregnant. Anyway, the house at home is big. Why don't you take my daughter over so that I can take care of her together?"

Miaomiao really couldn't stand what her mother-in-law said. The unhappiness that had been stuck in her heart for so long, coupled with prenatal depression, Miaomiao said directly to her mother-in-law: "It's not enough to support your family, you want me to support you." My daughter’s family, you really think your son earns tens of millions a year.” Miaomiao’s words made her mother-in-law very angry. She spent her son’s money to live in her son’s house, but she just kept her daughter. Take it over and take care of it, but it's really selfish for your daughter-in-law to react like this.

In this way, the mother-in-law and Miaomiao formed a relationship. After Wang Gang came back in the evening, the mother-in-law said angrily that Wang Gang should be in charge of his daughter-in-law.

I thought that Wang Gang, who knew the truth, would stand with me, but who knew that Wang Gang actually helped his mother scold her, making her look like a daughter-in-law. This made Miaomiao very angry, and she immediately quarreled with Wang Gang. got up.

Through this quarrel, Miaomiao finally saw some facts clearly, and began to reflect on how she, an independent woman, became like this.

06 Sharing summary:

There is undoubtedly a big problem in the marriage of Miaomiao and Wang Gang. Wang Gang has no sense of responsibility, no ambition, loves to talk big words, and regards his parents as Mainly, there are many faults.

Miaomiao, on the other hand, did not see Wang Gang's personality clearly before getting married. She only valued Wang Gang's appearance and was greedy for Wang Gang's gentleness and eloquence.

For the sake of face after marriage, he did not reveal the fact that Wang Gang could not make money. Instead, he helped Wang Gang fabricate lies to make Wang Gang's family think that Wang Gang was very powerful.

It can be said that the misfortune of Miaomiao's marriage was largely caused by Miaomiao herself. It was she who allowed Wang Gang and Wang Gang's family to be shameless step by step.

Miaomiao's blind concession and tolerance made the relationship between the two unbalanced, and it became Miaomiao's unilateral contribution and Wang Gang and Wang Gang's family's endless demands.

If Miaomiao could keep the bottom line in her marriage, Miaomiao's marriage would not be what it is today.

In fact, the reason why Miaomiao is like this is that Miaomiao is not independent enough. Although Miaomiao seems to be independent when living alone, she still wants to rely on a man for life.

Miao Miao’s experience also reminds everyone that when choosing a marriage partner, you must pay attention to the character of the other person.

Don’t focus too much on appearance and material things. The more you understand before marriage, the less you will suffer after marriage. Marriage is a major event in life, so you need to be cautious.

In marriage and relationships, you must have your own principles and bottom lines, and don't blindly tolerate the other person, so that the relationship can go further.