Guiguzi comes out of the mountain to talk about feelings

Everyone should live, live, not that it is easy to be born, but that it is easy for people to live; Living means living, but living is a deep knowledge. Because to live is to live, to struggle is to live, and to make mistakes is to live. The key to how to live is to know the law.

As the saying goes, Fiona Fang can't be made without rules. No matter ancient or modern, there are rules to follow.

"There are endless changes, each with its own place, whether it is bright or yang, soft or rigid, open or closed, or loose or open." It comes from the art of guiguzi.

Although things in this world change endlessly, each has its own destination; There are yin and yang; There is softness and rigidity; Open and close; There is also relaxation and tension.

In this ever-changing social life, Guiguzi gave us the answer. He said: "It is a saint who guards his door, observes his position, measures his power and corrects his plan."

It means that saints can always grasp the changes of yin and yang between things, and use this to review priorities, weigh the weight, and compare the pros and cons of talents, so as to make the best use of everything and rule the world. It is intended to tell us that we should always grasp the key to the development and change of things, observe the ins and outs and order of things, learn from each other's strengths, measure each other's abilities, and then compare the pros and cons of skills.

What the hell should I do?

One: recognize the key to the matter and then act.

There is a proverb in China, "Cows should be led by the nose." What does this mean? People who have plowed fields should be familiar with this scene. If a strong buffalo wants to plow the field, it must pierce its nose, tie its nose ring and lead it with a rope.

The nose of this cow is the key, and the cow will be forced to move forward because of pain. As long as we lead it by the nose, even lazy cows will follow us.

If it is a donkey, we certainly can't mechanically copy the cow. To treat a donkey, we should also find his pain point, that is, about one-fifth of the left side of the line from the midpoint of the abdomen to the midpoint of the spine, which is also called abdomen extension.

As long as the donkey doesn't listen, you aim at its belly, and it just stands there like an electric shock, at your mercy.

When we do something, we often don't know how to do it or where to start. In fact, everything has its own characteristics, find this breakthrough. Grasping the focus of the matter will make it much easier to solve it.

Guiguzi said: "The way to make love is to try it with Yin and Yang. Therefore, people who talk to others are noble; " When talking to people who don't mean it, be modest and insignificant. "

It means the so-called way of courtship, that is, to test each other's truth from the words of yin and yang. Therefore, people who lobby aboveboard should follow lofty principles; Lobbying people with ulterior motives should follow the principle of humility. Seek small from below, and seek big from high. In fact, to put it bluntly, you can explain the pros and cons in conversation with people.

For enterprising people, talk about something exciting. For those who are passive and always make trouble, we often say that it is enough to get by on the surface.

Cai Kangyong said: "It is the most cost-effective thing to practice oral English well." . Guigu also thinks that the mouth is the door of the heart, and it is convenient to talk in life.

Jiang Yang and Qian Zhongshu are a very loving couple. When Qian Zhongshu died, Jiang Yang's first lover Fei Xiaotong called home. He has always had feelings for Jiang Yang, but Jiang Yang only thinks about Qian Zhongshu.

So they met, chatted for a while, and Jiang Yang was leaving Fei Xiaotong. When he left, he said, "The stairs are not easy to walk, so don't go up in the future."

When this was said, Fei Lao gave up his love for Jiang Yang. In fact, Jiang Yang's words did not deliberately cater to anyone, nor did he refuse anyone, but simply and forcefully showed his attitude, leaving both feelings and key points.

As the saying goes, "a gentleman is philosophical and a villain gives orders." "This sentence directly points out that the villain likes to talk behind his back, lest the world be chaotic, and it is inevitable to deal with the villain in life. When communicating with such people, as long as you have a decent face, you don't have to take it to heart. This is not hypocrisy, but wisdom. Learn to speak in order to make others comfortable and not wronged themselves.

Two: Being good at summing up the laws in life can get twice the result with half the effort.

Since primary school, teachers have been telling us to sum up our learning achievements in stages and form the habit of summing up. There are laws everywhere in life, but some are not obvious. And many times, because you are busy with green, you will ignore the law and get into trouble. However, if you are willing to calm down and think carefully, you will find traces to follow. Take life as an example, when is the rush hour, when the bus leaves, when to go to the mall to eat, when is the promotion season for clothes, and so on.

Once we master these rules, we can not only save time, but also save a lot of money, which not only improves the efficiency of life, but also improves the quality of life.

There was a big family in ancient times. One day, the owner of this family wanted to eat fruit and ordered his servant to go to the orchard to buy some delicious fruit.

When the servant came to the orchard, the fruit farmer said to him, "all the fruits on my tree taste good." Please choose one to try. "

The servant didn't believe it and said, "You only tasted one. How can you be sure? I want to taste every question. "

As a result, he tasted all the fruits on the tree and didn't leave until he was sure it was delicious. But at the same time, the fruit was bitten by him, and when he returned to the house, he was scolded by his master.

People who often buy watermelons know how to knock watermelons, what kind of sound they hear and what watermelons are like. These are all summed up from experience. Therefore, wise people never do stupid things, but take the right path. Improving the path is not opportunistic, but efficient.

At the same time, you can also take a lot of detours. The principle of "taking history as a mirror, you can learn to rise and fall" has been deeply applied. Learn from other people's experience and sum up the rules yourself, so as to prevent yourself from going the wrong way again.

After the peasant uprising at the end of Qin Dynasty and Liu Bangbing's break of Wuguan, he eliminated the main force serving the DPRK. When I entered Qin Gong, I saw beautiful women and treasures, so I wanted to keep them all for myself. Fan Kuai, the military commander, encouraged Liu Bang, which made him very unhappy.

Counselor Sean said to him, "It was the cruelty and unpopularity of the King of Qin that made you win today. Now that we have eliminated the tyrant, we should advocate thrift. Now that I have just entered Qin Gong, I want to enjoy myself like the King of Qin. Isn't that equal to' helping others'? General Fan Kuai's words are a little fierce, but he always thinks of you, so I hope you can accept General Fan Kuai's advice. " Liu thought that Sean's words belonged to his friends, so he threw Xianyang out and stationed himself in the rising ranks. Sean persuaded Liu Bang with the lesson that luxury and debauchery in the Qin Dynasty led to the country's demise, and made Liu Bang realize his mistake.

The world is changing. It is out of our control, but our destiny is in our own hands. Change is a kind of elasticity. As the old saying goes, "if you are poor, you can change, and if you change, you can pass." The purpose of flexibility is to better adapt to the current environment and achieve a better ideal state.

Of course, change is not a change without principles, and principles should not be abandoned because of changes. The key is to assess the situation and grasp the law.