If a woman lives like Dong Zhujun, should she be complete?

How to live a full life? For most men, what they may want is to make contributions, or to be more advanced, which is nothing more than establishing morality, making statements and making contributions. For women who are grounded, which one's life track is closest to their pursuit goal?

Maybe every woman's idol is different, but if you choose one of the more famous women in the Republic of China, is Dong Can Zhu Jun's ups and downs life complete?

Let's look at it one by one:

Love doesn't have to wait too long

Dong Zhujun was born in poverty, and his father was a rickshaw puller. Later, she became seriously ill, so after studying in a private school for a period of time, 13 was mortgaged by her parents to a brothel, where she sang pop songs. Because I am young, I will not sell myself for the time being.

Is being born in poverty an imperfection in life? Judging from the future development, it really may not. For women, Dong Zhujun has something more important than a beautiful background-beauty and a good voice. She quickly became popular and met her prince charming, Xia Zhishi.

Xia Zhishi studied in Japan and was a member of the old alliance. When the Revolution of 1911 broke out, he also instigated more than 200 uprisings. 19 12 when he was only 24 years old, he served as the deputy governor of the Shu military government. I met him because I participated in the second revolution against Yuan led by Sun Yat-sen and others. After the defeat of the war, many wanted revolutionaries fled to Shanghai and often used brothels as their venues.

In short, Dong Xia met and fell in love, and soon talked about marriage. At that time, Dong was to be redeemed, and the procuress paid 30,000 yuan-the same price as Yuan Shikai's reward. At this time, Dong Zhujun showed her superiority: she was afraid that she could not be on an equal footing with Xia Zhishi after being redeemed, so she abandoned all her savings and fled the brothel.

19 14, Dong Zhujun and Xia Zhishi got married in Shanghai. 15 years old, she found her own love.

The two refused to sit in the BMW and cry.

Xia Zhishi loves Dong Zhujun. During their marriage, he strictly abided by monogamy, but Dong Xia separated at 1929 and formally divorced at 1934. This is because of Dong Zhujun's insistence on ideals.

A woman's value is often reflected in her own opinion, which often comes from her knowledge and ideals. We often see that a man's career is developed after marriage, and his experience and knowledge far exceed that of his stagnant wife, which leads to a marriage crisis. The situation in Dong Zhujun and Xia Zhishi is just the opposite.

Dong Zhujun Xia Zhishi fled to Japan after his marriage, and Yuan Shikai returned to his hometown in Hejiang, Sichuan, Xia Zhishi after his death. However, Xia Zhishi only briefly served as the recruiting commander in Guo Jing, Sichuan and the special envoy in Fu Xuan, East Sichuan, and has been unemployed since then. The Xia family is a big family and is not short of money. Their accommodation is luxurious. While doing housework, Dong Zhujun also opened a rickshaw company and a sock factory, but she was not satisfied with Xia Zhishi. The reason for dissatisfaction may be that Xia Zhishi has not made progress. It is said that he smoked opium and played mahjong all summer.

Not satisfied with carrying a LV bag, riding a BMW and eating a Michelin restaurant, but interested in many new ideas of the society at that time, it can be seen that Dong Zhujun is an ideal young man.

In short, in 1929, Dong Zhujun resolutely decided to take her four daughters back to Shanghai to make a living by herself.

Economic independence, I can!

In those days, it was not easy for a woman to bring up four children by herself. When deciding to part, Xia Zhishi once said to Dong Zhujun: If you can support four daughters, I will fry fish for you in my hand. Therefore, Dong Zhujun not only raised four daughters, but also owned his own business and founded Jinjiang Hotel, which is still there today.

When Dong Zhujun first returned to Shanghai, he had no life, so he had to pawn for a living. Later, a joint venture was established with others to set up a yarn tube factory. Dong Zhujun sent her children to boarding school and worked day and night. However, things were chaotic at that time. 1932, the Japanese army attacked Shanghai, and the Sino-Japanese War broke out, and the Dong Zhujun bobbin factory was almost bombed into ruins.

From 65438 to 0934, when he agreed to stop their separation, Dong still decided to divorce. Later, she got help from others and borrowed 2000 yuan to open a small restaurant with only two rooms-Jinjiang Sichuan Restaurant.

Perhaps because of his independent personality, Dong Zhujun often gets people's understanding and help. For example, he wanted his old friend Dai to play tricks on Dong, but Dai respected him very much and became Dong's friend. There is also a Filipino overseas Chinese named Chen Qingquan who has been helping Dong Zhujun. Chen Qingquan had planned to divorce and marry Dong Zhujun, but in the face of Chen Qingquan's wife, Dong Zhujun chose to give up. Later, unwilling to cooperate with the Japanese, Chen Qingquan was shot and met with Dong Zhujun before the execution. After the opening of the small hotel, the owners of Shanghai Beach, Huang and Du, all came and gave great face.

Knowing so many powerful people is of course related to her ex-husband Xia Zhishi, but these people are willing to help. It cannot be said that the fundamental reason is Dong Zhujun's independent personality charm and long-sleeved dancing. Dong Zhujun's high EQ may depend on his experiences as a teenager-so don't say that the frustration as a teenager is a bad thing.

Later, Jinjiang Sichuan Restaurant and Jinjiang Tea Room in Dong Zhujun escaped the economic crisis and war and barely survived. After the founding of New China, Dong Zhujun handed over all his property (about 3,000 taels of gold) to the state, and established Jinjiang Hotel with the support of relevant parties. After liberation, Dong Zhujun was re-elected as a member of China People's Political Consultative Conference for seven times.

Fourth, training children is also a good hand.

For a woman, how well her children are educated is also a major event that determines whether life is happy or not. Dong Zhujun has succeeded again in this respect.

After divorcing Xia Zhishi, Dong Zhujun never married again. She and Xia Zhishi have five children. When I left Sichuan for Shanghai, I took four daughters and left my youngest son to Xia's family. Dong Zhujun decided to leave Sichuan, probably because he was afraid that a decadent family would be bad for his children's growth.

In Dong Zhujun's autobiography My Century, she once mentioned the methods of educating children. For example, she once took four children to listen to Lu Xun's speech; Once let 12-year-old daughter take a train from Shanghai to Nanjing alone and send a sum of money to relatives for help; They are not allowed to go to their own restaurants for fear that their children will get into bad habits.

Words speak louder than words, and Dong Zhujun's independent and tenacious personality is undoubtedly the best example for his children. Going through wars and setbacks with a single mother and watching her stand on her own feet, how can it not have a positive impact on her children? Finally, the children have great respect for their mothers and become talents. The eldest daughter Xia became a piano player and later became a first-class professor at the Central Conservatory of Music. The third daughter, Xia, graduated from new york University. She co-founded Bayi Film Studio and later became a film director. The fourth daughter, Xia Guozhang, graduated from Columbia University in the United States, and later became the curator of the Library of the University of Hong Kong and the Los Angeles Library.

Wu Jian lived to be 97 years old.

If compared with Lin's life, she is far ahead of Lin in this respect-she was healthy all her life and lived to 97 years old.

Dong Zhujun was imprisoned twice in his life, the last time for five years. She suffered a lot of humiliation, but she survived tenaciously, which didn't seem to affect her health.

Dong Zhujun was able to write an autobiography of 400,000 words in his later years. 1997, at the age of 97, she also accepted an exclusive interview with CCTV's Reading Time. 56 minutes after the broadcast, Dong Zhujun died of a cold.

Some people may say, what is the integrity of Dong Zhujun's life? She didn't come from a family rich in poems and books, and she didn't find the love of her life ... but is such a setback beneficial or harmful to life? Dong Zhujun tells people with his own experience that such an episode will only add luster to fate.