How to learn "transposition" thinking in the promotion of soft writing?

I want to ask, how to do this from the perspective of others? I really don't understand how things that I haven't experienced can stand in the perspective of others. . .

This is really a good question! Usually, when we communicate with people, we often talk about trying to "empathize", but how many can we really do? When communicating with others, many people often say:

If I were you, I would XXXX…… ... ...

There is a classic English virtual voice called:

If I were you, I would rather die (if I were you, I would die)

Is this empathy? Actually, not at all! Many people really think that I use "If I were you, I would ……", which means empathy. In fact, when you use "I am you, that XXX", in essence, you don't feel the same way, you are forcing the other person to think according to your ideas. Therefore, this kind of "if I were you, I would be A" is often followed by a "but you are B"

Will such "empathy" be effective in communication?

What is true empathy?

So, what is true empathy? In fact, he also has a beautiful English translator:

Put yourself in others' shoes.

Many years ago, a famous big star said in an advertisement:

Lovers are like shoes. Only you know whether they are comfortable or not.

Then, only by putting yourself in others' shoes can you really feel the experience of others. This is empathy.

Empathy is thinking in different backgrounds.

Empathy, when "putting yourself in the other's shoes", you must switch your own background and think with the other person's eyes, the other person's perspective and the other person's position. During the great famine, Emperor Jinhui heard that the people had no food and many people starved to death, so he said, "Why not eat minced meat?" Or think from the perspective of a wealthy son of heaven. He is mentally retarded, so the final result is good. At present, when we encounter other people's problems, we often make suggestions in the form of "why not eat minced meat", which will only deepen the gap and make no sense to communication.

Empathy means thinking according to each other's ideas.

The focus of empathy is to think according to each other's logic and thinking. It's not just that I used to be a boss, but what I should do if I were an employee. Not that I'm a husband, but what should I think if I'm a wife? This is just a hypothetical identity transformation. You need to further analyze and think with each other's ideas and logic. This kind of thinking is the real empathy.

The essence of empathy is * * * emotion.

In fact, no matter how we change, we can't really be each other. Moreover, the purpose of our empathy is not to stage a fantasy drama or a time-travel drama like "boys and girls are wrong" for ourselves.

So what is the essence of our empathy?

The essence of our empathy is to establish emotional connection with the communication object through empathy, so as to better communicate and take action. We were not thinking about how they did it, or how they should do it, but they did it. How unreasonable! But in the way of empathy, we can really understand why the other party thinks so, so as to understand why they do it. At the same time, I know what I should do.

English emotion is a psychological term, which refers to:

Being able to feel the feelings of the analyzed person is also a psychoanalytic technique and an important condition for the therapeutic effect of psychoanalysis.

Empathy is the essence of empathy. Empathy, to communicate with the object with real feelings, to really understand what the other person wants, fears, fears and cares about. We can start with what the other party really cares about and solve practical problems.

The same is true of soft text promotion.