My father-in-law loves to drink tea. He also likes to play tea ceremonies with a complete tea set. I really hate it. What should I do?

Set up your position and learn to love the house and the bird!

Everyone who loves tea likes to play the tea ceremony with a complete set of tea sets. You hate it because you don’t understand the tea ceremony, you don’t know how to appreciate it, you don’t love life, and you still have prejudices against your father-in-law! The best way is to fall in love with drinking tea, learn the tea ceremony and help your father-in-law make tea!

Playing the tea ceremony is a matter of cultivating the mind and character. You can slow down your temper while tasting and making tea. If you understand the tea ceremony and fall in love with drinking tea, your personality will naturally change!

People who don’t understand the tea ceremony think it’s pretentious to make tea with a lot of trouble and put things on the table. When you really fall in love with drinking tea, you will realize that drinking tea involves so much knowledge and is not for ordinary people. I drink it directly from a big cup as soon as it gets stuffy, but brew it with different teas, different water temperatures, and different utensils. People who love tea are not impatient when things happen, and will calm down and think about problems. In your current situation, you should learn the tea ceremony. If you understand the principles, you will no longer be disgusted with your father-in-law drinking tea with a full set of tea-making equipment!

Maybe you will say: I like coffee but not tea! In fact, learning tea ceremony only allows you to learn to be flexible. You may not like everyone and things around you. We live in this huge country, and interpersonal relationships are complicated. Don’t make the relationship between parents-in-law and parents tense! Don't cause trouble for yourself, learn to be tolerant and understanding, and learn to put yourself in someone else's shoes!

Every old man has his own interests and hobbies. He has worked hard all his life. Raising children helps them get married and have children and they should enjoy their old age. The old man drinks tea with his own money. In his own home, I don't know what bothers this daughter-in-law. Furthermore, the habit of the elderly should not be new to today. Some people who love tea regard tea as their life, and this hobby will last a lifetime. Your father-in-law loves to drink tea, which is a hobby you had before you and your husband got married. Why didn't you find it annoying before, but you find it annoying now? Find your own reasons!

What the elderly spend on drinking tea, leisure and entertainment is their own money, and they live in their own houses. It can be said that they should do whatever they want in their own territory!

A sensible daughter-in-law should take the initiative to serve tea and help her make tea and pour water as she pleases. Why are you bothering your father-in-law even though he didn’t ask you to do so?

Many of the people who come to buy tea sets in my shop are young people. They don’t really love tea ceremony, but they just buy them for their families. The day before yesterday, a girl came to choose an incense burner for her father-in-law. She took many pictures with her mobile phone for him to choose. He said that her father-in-law was a fastidious person who liked to light incense when drinking tea. She wanted to choose an elegant incense burner that her father-in-law liked more.

No comparison, no harm! Look at your daughter-in-law again. She has not fulfilled her filial piety by voting for her father-in-law, and she is deeply disgusted with the old man's lifestyle. Please reflect on yourself! Are you doing well? Are you perfect?

We can’t guarantee that we like everyone, but we can’t do nothing! If you don’t like it, you can stay in your room and not come out. You don’t have to see him. There is no need to hate or dislike him! Everyone has their own way of life, you are no exception, and your father-in-law is no exception. It is impossible to make your father-in-law adapt to your way of life. Where did your tutoring, your traditional virtues, and your respect for the elderly go?

Since you have entered a family and become a family, you must learn to adapt and be tolerant. As a younger generation, you should respect the lifestyle of your elders and respect your elders. You cannot judge or interfere with the elders as you please!

If you learn to respect others, others will respect you too! Think about it!