What if I'm too honest? I think I'm too weak and a coward. How to become strong?

Don't be too honest, leave some time to treat people.

It is clearly stipulated that we should be honest and not make trouble. Honesty is true. Everyone wants others to be honest and likes to get along with honest people, because it is safer to get along with honest people. Honest people would rather suffer than suffer. Honest people never calculate others. Zhou Enlai generously praised that "the smartest person in the world is the most honest person". Not only Zhou Enlai, but also successful people all over the world believe that honesty is the rule that a gentleman must abide by.

However, there is a limit to everything, and once it goes too far, things will do the opposite. Honesty is ok, but being too honest is terrible. Too honest is a wooden, conservative, stubborn, too honest person who doesn't know the way of the world and how to plan his life. Too honest person only knows how to live step by step, has no innovation and breakthrough, and never wants to take the initiative to do anything, only knows what to do according to others' orders, and even doesn't know what he can and can't do. How much can such a person achieve in his life? A person who is too honest is passive all his life and doomed to mediocrity all his life. It's not that there is no chance to favor him, but that he can't see the opportunity when it comes, let alone take the initiative to create it.

God tells an honest man that he will have the opportunity to gain great wealth, gain an outstanding position in society and marry a beautiful wife.

Honest people believed, gave up all their efforts and began to wait for the promises of the gods.

However, this honest man has never waited for this promise to come true in his life and has nothing.

When this man died, he asked God, "Why did you lie to me? You gave me everything you said, but I waited all my life and didn't wait for anything. "

God answered him, "I only promised you the opportunity to gain wealth, respectable social status and a beautiful wife, but because of your waiting, you let these opportunities slip away from you."

This is an honest man. He doesn't even know the chance to stand in front of him. Someone has to tell him himself: "this is an opportunity, seize it!" " "Too honest people have no opinions, and always choose their own career and life direction according to the opinions of others-parents, relatives and friends. Especially when others repeat their views again and again, it is even harder for honest people to refuse. As a result, many honest people have chosen a path that does not belong to them. You can imagine how far he can go on this road.

"Mashan was ridden and people were bullied." Too honest people don't bully others, but they are bullied by others. This is also the greatest sadness and helplessness of people who are too honest. We can see that in the workplace, people who are too honest are always bossed around by other employees. If there is any hard work or thankless work, they are always asked to do it, while others enjoy it. If something goes wrong, put all the responsibility on someone who is too honest. People who are too honest are generally timid, dutiful, cautious about people and things, and never offend others casually. Even if others offend themselves, they won't hold grudges, let alone answer blows with blows. In this way, people who are too honest are often bullied by dishonest people, and even if they admit the loss, they will not report it to the boss.

On the other hand, people who are too honest will keep a little kindness of others in mind and always look for opportunities to repay them, even if the giver has long forgotten it. From this perspective, people who are too honest are the "suckers" in the workplace.

Lao Huang is an old employee of the company. He is about to retire, but he is still the lowest employee in the company. The company will not reuse him because he is too honest, nor will the company dismiss him because he is too honest to bear.

The company has its own kitchen and cooks its own lunch. The kitchen is on the first floor, and the employees on the second floor have to go downstairs to get their share when they eat at noon. Out of kindness, Lao Huang always brings the meals of all the employees on the second floor ten minutes before eating. My colleagues were very grateful for the first time. With more times, colleagues get used to it and subconsciously think that this is what Lao Huang should do. So sometimes instead of thanking him, he shouts, "Old Huang, it's time for dinner. Go down and get the rice! "

Not to mention that. Colleagues push their luck. After dinner, they all put the bowls on Lao Huang's workbench and asked him to take them down. Lao Huang didn't think much. Anyway, it's no big deal to go down and bring more bowls.

On this day, my colleague habitually handed the bowl to Lao Huang after dinner. According to the past, Lao Huang likes to take a nap after dinner and then send the bowl down. But today, somehow, I accidentally overslept. Just as Lao Huang was sleeping, the boss and the boss of another cooperative enterprise came to inspect the work and saw that Lao Huang's desk was full of bowls and chopsticks. The boss of the cooperative enterprise frowned and thought that the quality of the employees in this company was so poor that the company was certainly not much better. So he refused to cooperate with the company. The boss of the company took all his anger out on Lao Huang, who was hard to argue with. Finally, the company made him resign.

What chilled Lao Huang was that none of his colleagues put in a good word for him.

This is the result of your honesty. Honest people are basically in a neglected position in the group and have no actual influence, so it is difficult to become excellent leaders. This state of life of honest people is inseparable from some basic characteristics of honest people.

First of all, honest people are not good at expressing themselves, even if they don't fight for what they deserve, they will feel embarrassed. Their advantages and abilities are often unknown, giving people a general impression and even being forgotten. With such people, it is difficult to attract others' attention.

Secondly, honest people don't know how to plan and plan their future. Their idea is to make do with life. They don't have any big ideals and don't know what they can do. They have been in a muddle all their lives, and may occasionally have their own ideas, but they have no chance to express them. Once they have a chance to express themselves, they have no confidence, so even if they do, they won't be noticed by others. It can be said that people who are too honest have no right to speak.

Thirdly, people who are too honest don't know how to communicate, don't make use of social resources, always fight alone, and have more principles and less wit in dealing with various relationships, so it is difficult to establish their own prestige. People who are too honest are often withdrawn, do not take the initiative to communicate with others, do not take the initiative to contact with others, and are very ordinary people who have never taken the initiative. Do you expect others to make friends on their own initiative? This is impossible, so people who are too honest often have few friends and are unpopular.

Finally, honest people do not join any interest groups, only know how to live their own lives, and those who do not have the ability to bring benefits to others will be in a neglected position in the whole interest relationship chain.

So, don't be too honest, be a little scheming. As the saying goes, "there is no need to harm people or prevent them." You should keep a little scheming when dealing with people, so as to protect yourself from harm. Planning is part of strategy. People who are good at planning are schemers. Don't think that scheming is calculating others. More often, I try my best to survive. The scheming is the expression of wisdom and the symbol of self-protection. People who have no scheming will be hurt by all kinds of outside world. Human feelings are warm and cold, the world is cold, and things in society are complicated. In the face of such a world without any hidden secrets, how can we properly safeguard our own interests?