In fact, people with cold nature are the most worthy of deep friendship

01.

Time always flies, the leaves turn green and yellow, and the flowers bloom and wither.

The most beautiful scenery in the world is never the scenery, but the mood to see the scenery.

If you have "affection" in your heart, you will see everything as beautiful.

Perhaps, some people will say that a person who loves everything must be a deeply affectionate person, so he can live such a smiling life, and he can still be deeply in love even when he meets for the first time.

However, Oscar Wilde once said:

The older people get, the more they understand that those who live a cold life are actually the ones who live mature lives. There are no unimportant people or things in their eyes, and they are more focused on what they focus on.

02.

A person with a cold nature is often cold on the outside and hot on the inside. He seems distant and indifferent to others, but if he is determined to do something, he will stick to it.

They know how to stand their own position, do not cause trouble to others, and do not want others to cause trouble for themselves; they do not like to cater to others, nor do they like to wrong themselves, so they are friendly to others and maintain a safe distance. .

Perhaps people around him will think that this person is very cold-blooded. Even if something serious happens, it seems to him that it is just a normal thing.

Squidward once described Han Shangyan in "Dear, Beloved": He is very cold when he is not smiling, but very warm when he is smiling.

Perhaps Han Shangyan is such a person. When he is not smiling, he has a "cool" look, and when he is smiling, he is dedicated.

And his behavior is indeed like this.

He joined the solo team just because it included Wang Hao, whom he respected and had a career he loved. However, when the team was about to reach the top of the world, Wang Hao's solo team fell into disarray due to personal emotional reasons. , he was extremely disappointed and announced his withdrawal.

Later, he also formed a team of his own. He used all the money left by his father to invest in this team and worked hard all the way to the world competition.

He sticks to the things he focuses on and looks cool, but in fact he is the most affectionate.

He hates hypocrisy and intrigue. He understands the direction of his life and will not settle or make do.

Just like a very popular saying on the Internet: I don’t like to owe others, and I don’t like others to owe me.

Perhaps, this is also the reason why we, as the audience, like Han Shangyan's character so much.

03.

When people are alive, they are most afraid that you will be infinitely generous, but the other party will be shameless and ask for unlimited things from you.

You like to live in the sunshine, but others want to drag you into the rain. You don’t like anger, and you don’t want to be an angry youth, but others want to instill all kinds of messy thoughts into you.

As a result, you become more and more indifferent and cool.

You are getting farther and farther away from them, just because you have a clear mind, have your own ideas, and have no messy desires.

Mr. Yang Jiang once said in "Walking on the Edge of Life":

Human life is, in fact, a practice, a game with desires, and a contest with human selfishness , amidst the noise, live out your own "aloneness" and find your own life process.

Therefore, don’t underestimate a person with a cold nature. They are the most responsible for themselves and the best able to live their own lives.

Some enthusiasm will make you feel fake and excessive, and some complexity will make you want to hide away.

The older you get, the more you will find that you like to associate with straightforward people, who are pure and straightforward, can get along well with each other, and do not force each other if they don't get along.

People who are cold-blooded by nature often become the silent but most sober audience in places where others are vying to be the protagonist.

04.

Perhaps, the most beautiful thing in our life is to sit around with our family, surrounded by bright lights, close friends, and occasionally get together with someone we can talk to. People can stay together for a lifetime.

However, many people do not have this blessing.

Just like Zhang Ailing during the Republic of China.

Many people say that Zhang Ailing has a cold nature, but when you understand her life, maybe you will understand the sentence "If you knew my past, you would forgive me now."

Her life, just like her words, reveals the most vicissitudes of life and exudes the sadness and loneliness of the world.

When she was four years old, her mother wanted to get rid of the feudal family, but was unable to go abroad. She rarely took care of her. She lay in bed in pain every day. Later, Zhang Ailing once wrote: She ignored her I just cried, she slept there like the sea reflected on the glass of the cabin, small green flakes, but there was the endless bumps and sorrow of the ocean.

Then, after Zhang Ailing went to college, because of her excellent grades, the school awarded her an 800 scholarship, which she gave to her mother. However, her mother, who had always been sitting on nothing, thought that her money was not clean and scolded her. She, on the other hand, gambled with it and lost completely.

From then on, Zhang Ailing made up her mind to return all the expenses for schooling to her.

Finally one day, she picked up a box of money and threw it to her mother. From then on, the two of them broke off their friendship and rarely interacted with each other.

We always mention one word - family of origin. A beautiful childhood, born in a good family of origin, will heal you for a lifetime, but a miserable childhood, born in a bad family of origin, will take a lifetime to pay for.

A person's coolness is never born, but is closely related to his living environment and growth process.

However, living a poor life does not mean that a person is indifferent or arrogant, but that he does not want to delay his life for someone who is not worthy of it.

Just like what Qian Zhongshu said: There is no need to find people who are unreasonable and say things that are innocuous.

Many times, no matter how much you talk to someone who doesn’t understand you, it’s just a waste of time and won’t make you appreciate anything.

05.

In this life, it is easy to find some fair-weather friends, people who exchange cups and cups and fight with each other every day.

But it is really difficult to find someone who can help you in the snow and give you a helping hand when you encounter difficulties.

Some people, on weekdays, are infinitely passionate about you. When you are prosperous, they will follow you around. Once one day, you collapse, they will disappear.

As for a person with a cold nature, he will never take the initiative to approach you, never join a team, and will not run around like a grassroots, but if you need his help, as long as you are recognized by him "Friends" and "confidants" will help you to the best of their ability.

Some people say that I am naturally unsociable, I have always said little, sometimes I am in the cold, sometimes I am isolated, I have been criticized, I have questioned myself, and I have been on the verge of collapse.

Together they are tasteless, and alone they are tasteless. "Those who live in isolation are either beasts or gods." Since I can't be a god, I might as well be a beast.

The human heart is more difficult to understand than the beasts.

Therefore, it is also a good choice for us to live like a "beast". We don't have to be sensible too early, we don't have to love too much, and we don't have to look for happiness in the complicated and trivial matters. We can live a transparent life. Gotta understand.

For the rest of your life, I hope you can be a person with a "cold nature" and live a willful and comfortable life.