My ex is just a shadow living in my heart

My ex is like a joke, it’s a matter of pain, but it’s just a pain. I take it out from time to time to show it and play with it in various ways, just because it is a scar in my heart.

I have chatted with many girls about love and exes. There are complaints, apologies, and all kinds of unbearable regrets. Because I have truly loved, the feeling of pain is extremely clear. And pain is the only feeling that cannot be adapted to. No one is willing to bear even a trace of pain. Therefore, keeping a respectful distance from your ex is the best way to protect yourself.

You loved him. The charm in his eyes, the smell in his sleeves, and his favorite snacks in the shop he usually went to are all untouchable memories. Long after the breakup, it still hurts to see and think about it. In order to avoid this memory, I would rather take an extra kilometer detour home. In order to no longer remind myself of such a failed past, I deleted everything about him in the address book and erased all traces, as if he no longer existed.

As a result, your life has more taboos, songs you don’t want to listen to, parks you don’t want to go to, colors you don’t like, and even sounds you can’t listen to. You have become a weird and picky person. children. Who knows, there is a child living in your heart, a crying child.

After blocking out all the noise, the world finally became quiet, and I could hear my own heartbeat quietly. What is that thing that is jumping and ready to move? It feels really uncomfortable to be quiet. When I'm flipping through a book, when I'm eating, or when I'm shopping in the men's clothing area, that shadow always pops up. It's really annoying.

Well, let’s find something to fill up the space. Traveling, working out, recharging, and partying are all exciting. For a period of time, the shadow of your ex has indeed disappeared. While you are busy eating, drinking, having fun, studying, and traveling, you feel full of strength, and the decadence of lovelornness is swept away. You shouted, I am reborn, I am so happy.

After the excitement, it will always return to calm. In addition to screaming and dancing, there are more dull and trivial things in life. So, when you are proud, you will remember that it was because his existence changed your perception, and you were willing to become better for him. Now that you are well, he is no longer here. When you are frustrated, you will think of the warm and firm embrace he gave you. You once thought it was a harbor of happiness. Unexpectedly, this harbor has now closed its entrance and you can never go back.

At this time, you start to think about him again, think about his good and bad, think about the pros and cons of the past relationship, maybe you will regret your past willfulness and ignorance, and you may regret your past virtuousness. Kind. Well, this is not important. What is important is that at this time you start to face this relationship and understand that it was once a part of your life, and now and in the future, it is a part of your life experience. It can't be erased, it doesn't have to be erased.

Later, you met more people, experienced more feelings, gradually matured, grew up, and learned that you should be grateful when you meet. No matter who comes into your life, it is your life. A training that should be done. They, or they, will always teach you something about life, about love, about happiness and sadness, and then turn around and leave, never looking back. Accepting the appearance of a person and never appearing again are both practices.

Therefore, don’t indulge in sadness for too long, and stay awake in joy. We love life and the people and things in life, but we still need to give and express with reservation. Emotions that are too hot, whether it is love or hate, can easily burn each other.

My ex is like a vague yet clear shadow, it’s good to live in memories. May you, my dear, be able to love and dare to love, and be stable in this world.

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