My son is 3 years old, and his grandmother beats him every time he disobeys. What should I do?

Previous children were often beaten when they were young, and they knew to respect their elders and honor their parents from an early age; Look at the children now. They are all spoiled. They are willful and rebellious, and even dare to beat their parents when they are young.

It can be seen that some children can't do it without fighting, and they will be spoiled sooner or later. Besides, it's just that the education methods of the two generations are different. I believe your mother-in-law is also good for her children. As long as children are properly educated, it is no problem to know the severity.

If you really can't stand it, you can take care of the children yourself and don't let your mother-in-law interfere. If you hit it now, you will feel uncomfortable. If you go out and make trouble, you may regret it.

Boys, in particular, were very naughty when they were young. If they don't listen, they can only be beaten for a long time.

It is better to play by yourself than to let others play after going out. It is understandable that hitting the child hurts in the mother's heart. I have no objection to hitting children. Children who are beaten are always much better than those who are used to being beaten.

Therefore, as long as the mother-in-law is not abusing her children, it is not too much to fight when she is disobedient. If you can't bring your own, always give advice. After a long time, there may be conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law!

Did you bring up your son or did your mother-in-law bring up your son? I think your mother-in-law is taking care of the child, so she dares to hit the child, but you dare not speak. Under normal circumstances, a mother takes care of her children by herself, and her mother-in-law will not interfere, nor will she beat her children more, unless she hates children very much. Therefore, the children brought by grandma are not as obedient as the children brought by mom. Take more care of children, communicate more when you have time, and teach them right and wrong. The child made a mistake and corrected it in time. Some parents usually ignore their children and slap them when they do something wrong. The children were also confused, and no one told him what to do.

When you see your mother-in-law beating your child, you should stop her and protect her child. You don't have to wait until the child is not at home to tell her about it. The child is only 3 years old. When he was beaten, he only felt the tyranny of his grandmother and the inaction of his mother. In the long run, the child does not think that his mother can protect himself, nor does he think that his grandmother and mother love him, which is not good for the formation of his character.

In your story, I didn't see the father. I am curious about his views on this matter. Discuss this matter with the child's father, and it may be better for the child's father to tell his grandmother.

Grandma should stop beating the child immediately and resolutely, and she can explain it to her later, but it is very important to see that the child was stopped at the first time, so that the child can see that her mother is standing with him and that she deserves to be loved and protected.

Children can't play at all, but they can't play often and can't play at will. It is hard to say whether the act of beating a child can make the child get rid of the so-called "bad habit", but what is certain is that the child will learn to "solve all problems with his fists". It is difficult for children who grow up in such a family environment to have a healthy and cheerful attitude. Mother, please summon up courage to protect your child.

Is it just sad to see your child beaten by grandma?

I feel sorry for the children, too How can there be such a mother?

Children are their own, grandma's education method is wrong, and the educated children will have psychological problems in the future. Who will bear the responsibility?

Grandma may take care of her children out of responsibility or out of love for them, but she is too old to keep up with energetic children. The requirements for children are obedient and clever, which can reassure children.

But children's nature is not like this. Grandma can only educate them with sticks, with the aim of making them listen to him and obey themselves. As we all know, children nowadays may be obedient for a short time because of fear.

When the child grows up, grandma can't do anything about it, and the child becomes a bully, a person who starts work on others. Otherwise, you will become timid! These were beaten and scolded for a long time.

I just want to ask, how do parents feel when they see their children become like this? Strange grandma? Grandma will say that you asked to take care of the children. Since you take care of the children, the right to speak is in grandma's hands.

Strange children? Why is this happening? Children are not like this when they are born, but there is no good guidance in the later period.

I think the parents of the children should be considered the most. For children, they are born with the responsibility of raising. If they can't afford this responsibility, then don't blame anyone.

The child is only three years old, and it is not too late. Don't miss your child's life for some reason!

I think this matter is very simple to solve. My son is three years old, and he is approaching the age of going to kindergarten. If children take care of themselves and discipline themselves, they don't have to look at them, feel sorry for grandma's discipline, and don't have to suffer.

Old people educate their children in the old way, and filial sons are born under sticks. However, in this era, your mother-in-law is not old? It is said that generations have passed, and the old man is used to his grandson. It is really rare for her to fight. It is really rare for grandparents to coax children, hold them in the palm of their hands for fear of falling, hold them in their mouths for fear of melting, and hit a three-year-old baby.

The son is your son. If a child grows up under violence, he will also have a shadow in his heart and grow up easily. If you are unreasonable to your child, raise your hand and fight, but you don't think you will fight too much. You will be obedient only if you fight. Didn't you ask your husband? Is he afraid of his mother? Listen to his mother?

Have you analyzed why she keeps hitting children? It's just that children haven't heard of it? How many man-made accidents can a three-year-old child know? Human feelings? What if his grandmother is taught like this again? He will learn to please people and lie in order not to be beaten, and then you will regret it.

Three-year-olds should have taken care of themselves long ago, but don't use the excuse that they are too busy to take care of themselves. Because, my daughter 1 1 months later, I was brought up alone in the unit. Her grandmother loves her. Although she can't see it, her grandparents are far away. But my daughter is a baby and her family loves her very much. A small colleague in my unit gave birth to two male treasures, and asked for a nanny during the day and husband and wife to take care of them at night, so as not to delay work.

Work hard on your own to keep your child away from harm. Especially the beating and cursing of family members. Children can be educated. However, beatings will leave a shadow on children and even have a tendency to violence. Raise your own children, don't always rely on the elderly. Maybe it's because I've been watching my grandson for a long time, so I'm upset and tired? You don't care about her? Don't quite understand? She has no free time of her own?

The old man became old and tired. If the child makes any more noise, she will be unhappy. Give the old man a holiday. Do me a favor once in a while so that you can fight when you see your grandson? Or do you want to ask more why? Now my mother-in-law is afraid that her daughter-in-law will not let her take her grandson to see it, and her grandparents will take more. There must be a reason for this. Today's children are too precious for parents to let their mothers beat them.

Find the crux first, and bring your own baby if you don't coordinate well. Settle it peacefully and don't make trouble. First teach children to take care of themselves and understand the truth. Kindergarten is a good place to go. Bring it yourself at night. For the sake of children, efforts should also be made.

Grandma of three-year-old children should not play too much! How could you do that!

My children have never played! Children are sometimes naughty, and hitting them is the most incompetent performance.

Children should like children. Most children who are often beaten by their parents will have psychological shadows! There are several consequences. 1 I will grow up, because I have been beaten too much since I was a child, and I have no strength to fight back. Older people can't touch me. Fight anyway, that's it, rebellion. 3 introverted, withdrawn and twisted. No confidence!

It is suggested that parents and the elderly who are used to educating their children by hand should improve their own quality and give their children due respect and patience.

Mother should be self-reliant and self-reliant! We should dare to protect our children and wish them healthy physical and mental growth!

Beating children is also a domestic violence and should be resolutely stopped. No one has the right to hit a child. You are the child's mother and legal guardian. You should make it clear to your mother-in-law's atrocities: "Don't hit the children!" .

Some people openly kill children under the guise of taking care of them. This kind of evil behavior will never be allowed in family education, even the bottom line has been broken, not to mention education, that is violence and intimidation. Perhaps, some people say that you are making a mountain out of a molehill.

Imagine an old man facing a three-year-old child and beating him if he doesn't listen to you. He also thinks that only by doing so can he listen and remember. Even if the child remembers it, it is because of fear. At the same time, he also appreciates "the evil of human nature". It turns out that even the relatives around you will hurt themselves who are disobedient.

Children will leave an indelible shadow in their hearts, learn to treat others in the same way, and learn to solve problems by force ... In short, it will leave many negative effects on children.

The great educator Suhomlinski's monograph "Education of Love" repeatedly mentioned: "Without love, there is no education. Many educators pursue the education of love, especially for young children. The best education is to give him full love and make him feel safe.

At the age of three, I began to have independent consciousness and build self-confidence. Even his grandmother, who was supposed to be very kind, hit him, and the message to the child was: "You are not good, you are not loved by others." How can that child think he is great?

It is hard for us to imagine: a child, with a pair of innocent and bright eyes, looks at his grandmother who should be kind to him and always beats him. Can he feel love from grandma's actions?

As the saying goes, "A mother is kind and filial", how can this old man let his little grandson kiss his grandmother? The warmth of our family exerts a subtle influence on how to realize a person's function. What are the spiritual wealth passed down from generation to generation? From this perspective, can your daughter-in-law accept her mother-in-law's practice? Really fight for the old man! If it really doesn't work, try not to let the elderly and children get in close contact.

Hello!

I'm also against hitting children.

My baby is also three years old and is naughty and innovative every day. My mouth keeps talking and my ears hurt. I can't stop playing, and my movements are not light or heavy. Often deliberately annoying and annoying.

He will resist and refuse now, so adults think the child is disobedient. In fact, he is just expressing his demands or emotions in a child's way.

Parents often beat and scold, which will make children afraid to express and vent, imitating adults to beat people. There are still many hazards, and I'm sorry to be superficial.

Online professional guidance in this area is still very rich. I suggest you:

1. Download the opinions of authoritative experts online, such as: scientifically explain the reasons for children's emotional disobedience, the disadvantages of hitting children, and how to treat children with emotional disobedience. Send WeChat or print it out to grandma.

2. Insist on reasoning with grandma and explain why you can't fight.

3. Let the child's father persuade grandma.

4. If all fails, stop immediately when she hits the child.

However, you must believe that grandma's love for her grandson is absolutely unconditional. She will regret it, but she won't admit her mistake in front of her daughter-in-law.

The old people in our family often severely criticize the children, and grandma has also beaten them, but they all regret it, saying that they should listen patiently and explain clearly to the children.

I wish the babies healthy growth!

What do some children know? What do you mean, obedient, your own child, who is qualified to fight? You're still watching her fight You should stop it, not pretend to understand it. Tell her: you don't like children, ok, don't call me! If you can't protect your own children, what are you talking about? Your mother-in-law has no love, and you have to ask her to help with the children?

Separate from your mother-in-law and stop living together. Good boy is broken.

Your mother-in-law should be stronger. In addition to the education of children, you should also be different in other aspects. Over time, it will affect family harmony.

The best way is to keep your distance and bring your own children.