Zhang Peimeng's wife talks about being abused: If a woman wants to be happy, she must have the courage to stay away from domestic violence. what do you think?

The wife of Zhang Peimeng, a famous sprinter, posted a long article on social platforms, accusing her husband of domestic violence, which caused an uproar. Unexpectedly, Zhang Peimeng, a handsome young man who looks so sunny, is so cruel in private.

Just as everyone introduced them, Zhang Peimeng announced that what his wife sent was totally untrue.

The husband and wife hold their own words. Although Zhang Peimeng's wife is very cold, there are images to testify, but in the era of PS prevalence, it is simply too easy to take some injured photos, so people are not sure who is telling the truth.

While people keep speculating, Momo revealed more details of her abuse in a recent interview, thus confirming the truth of what she said.

It is reported that after 1 gave birth to Mo Han, Zhang Peimeng didn't want him to hold the baby because she was drunk.

In fact, the idea of cold is also easy to understand.

When she gave birth to the baby, she bled heavily. If doctors and nurses hadn't tried their best to save her, she might not exist now. This experience made Momo cherish himself and his children more.

Looking at her baby and being picked up by her drunken father, her mother's innate instinct made her want to stop-what if Zhang Peimeng didn't hold her hand tightly and dropped the baby?

As a husband who watched his wife die, Zhang Peimeng should understand his wife's thoughts very well, so he just put them down and picked them up again when his mind was clear.

But instead of doing so, he was very angry. With cold words, he grabbed her by the neck and pushed her against the wall. ...

In fact, this is not the first time that Momo has suffered from domestic violence. As early as before, she had already suffered from domestic violence. It was only because Zhang Peimeng apologized in tears afterwards that she had endured it until now.

Momo thought that as long as she chose to forgive, he would get better and get rid of the problem of domestic violence completely.

As it turns out, she thinks too simply.

Domestic violence is not formed in one day. Some psychologists have pointed out that the reason why those abusers have a strong desire for control and others are slightly dissatisfied is that they directly punch, mostly because they have suffered violence or experienced a violent childhood.

In other words, it is the experience of the perpetrator, telling him again and again that the best way to solve the problem is violence.

I want to ask, under such circumstances, how can I completely change my cognition because of a good memory I spent a short time with you?

Since the cognition has not changed, it is of little significance to apologize and beg again.

Unfortunately, Momo doesn't know.

Of course, I can't blame her. Although China's idea that men are superior to women has changed greatly for thousands of years, it still affects a large part of people. Therefore, many women do not actually realize that they have suffered from domestic violence.

According to statistics of People's Daily, in the face of atrocities, women in China were abused for an average of 35 times before they chose to call the police.

After calling the police, even fewer people chose to leave.

A professional woman in Shandong didn't go home for three months because she avoided her husband's domestic violence. At first, the family chose to support it. After all, no parents have seen their spoiled daughter since childhood. After entering her husband's family, she not only didn't get the original happiness, but became her husband's punching bag, beating and cursing like a slave owner treating slaves.

However, the attitude of her family gradually changed. Finally, she accused the woman of being too selfish. The root cause is that the abuser has brought trouble to her family many times.

It must be admitted that, whether before or now, in fact, women are mostly vulnerable groups. It's really hard to leave the abuser without the help of relatives.

"Why don't the victims of domestic violence leave" points out that no woman wants to sleep with the man who beat her. In fact, many of them are forced.

Fortunately, Momo is not among them, and her family also supports her.

So when sitting at a table with Zhang Peimeng for dinner, he helped himself to pick up food, and he would hide, Mo Han made up his mind to leave this man who always beat himself up regardless of his feelings, because she knew that no matter how many times she forgave him, the result actually made no difference.

It is true that when I am with Zhang Peimeng, I feel happy sometimes. For example, when he expressed his love to her before marriage, for example, when he personally brought her food, it was just that such a happy moment was too short and unreal. Most importantly, it is based on her injury. So, strictly speaking, this is not true happiness.

True happiness should be to make her laugh all day, instead of living in her fist all day like now, and the world will be full of screams and beatings from now on.

True happiness should be to reassure her, not to be afraid all day like now. If you don't know what you are doing badly, it will lead to beatings.

True happiness should be to make her feel safe, not to live in fear every day like this.

If you want to get such happiness and let your baby grow up in a harmonious family, you have to have the courage to leave the domestic violence.

It's like, if you want to use electric lights, at least you should have wires that can transmit electricity at home.

Without violence, violence may leave you.

Otherwise, even with the support of relatives and society, the effect will be minimal. After all, we can't wake a person who pretends to sleep.

More than ten years ago, a TV series called "Don't Talk to Strangers" was born, which made everyone see the harm of domestic violence. It turns out that domestic violence is so terrible that a girl who loves to laugh can be silent and never feel the taste of happiness again; It can make optimistic girls numb from now on and never feel the warm taste again; It can make girls happy, leaving only indifference and hatred.

So we must say no to violence.

Admittedly, this process may be difficult, but as long as you keep doing it, you will get closer and closer to happiness.

It was driven by this belief that Momo made a plan to leave step by step: take her daughter, announce her wounds, and explain Zhang Peimeng's crimes. ...

Facts have proved that this practice is correct and reasonable.

Unfortunately, however, Zhang Peimeng, who went to a university in Beijing for a postgraduate interview because of a cold, got her whereabouts from somewhere. On this day, she forcibly took her daughter away and injured her mother.

In the program, Mo Han said with tears: She has put down her feelings and just wants her daughter to go home early.

I wish this woman who has the courage to face violence can get her wish.