Contemporary post-90 s migrant workers don't want to get married, just want to fall in love and raise cats.

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202 1 is the second year since the third year of 2 1 century 10. The first batch of post-90s have all finished their lives and started to enter a brand-new stage.

30 years old means that you need to set your own goals in life, start to become a real adult, take on more responsibilities and meet more challenges.

202 1 is not a teenager after 90. Getting married, having children, working, are all busy with their own affairs. It seems that everything is fine, but it is better to say that they are forced to grow up on the road of growth and shoulder the responsibilities of adults.

Every day, young people fantasize about making money quickly when they grow up and then getting rid of their parents' discipline. However, when that day came, we found that what we thought was just an illusion, and everything was so unpredictable.

When those who were promoted to become other people's parents after 90 really realized that life is not easy, parents are not easy, and it is even more difficult to become other people's parents. Getting married is to build a family that really belongs to you and has nothing to do with your parents, and then take on the responsibility of a family and become a good husband/father, wife/mother of others.

The home where you have lived for more than 20 years or even 30 years is the home established by your parents, and of course it is also your home, because for them, it will always be your home, your safe haven and the door of your home will always be open for you.

"Standing at 30" comes from The Analects of Confucius. "I am determined to learn five out of ten, stand at 30, not be confused at 40, know my destiny at 50, listen to my ears at 60, and do what I want at 70, without exceeding the moment."

This is Confucius' self-evaluation of his life at every stage of his life. Maybe we can't be as good as Confucius, or even become a person like him, but we can still learn from his attitude, follow in his footsteps and take every step of our lives.

However, more and more post-90s young people are in the state of fear of marriage. They want sweet love, but don't want to get married. Life and work are tired enough, and occasionally a little catalyst is needed, and love is the best catalyst.

They enjoy the pleasure brought by ideal love, but when ideal love deviates from the track and enters reality, it often leads to some inevitable practical problems.

The final result of love is to go to the palace of marriage. But the cost of marriage is too high, not only to have a house and a car, but also to deal with all kinds of trivial things, and these trivial things are sometimes enough to destroy the feelings of two people.

Because of this, the pressure on contemporary young people is increasing. Obviously, they are moonlight clan almost every month. How can they save money to buy a car, a house and get married? If both parties want to have another child, is the pressure on their shoulders like carrying a huge mountain?

The appearance of children may be accidental or planned. However, whether it is an accident or a plan, once you decide to give birth to this child, it means that your life will always revolve around the child for decades to come, and almost all your expenses will be spent on the child.

How much does it cost to raise a child? This problem seems to be discussed every year, and it will never be out of date.

From pregnancy to birth, even to adulthood, every expense is indispensable. Moreover, raising children now is not like stocking in the countryside before. Children nowadays pay attention to winning at the starting line. In addition to the daily expenses, parents also have to bear the expenses for their children to attend cram schools and training classes. In other words, no matter from the first line to the 18 line city, the high cost of raising a baby has long been a social norm.

Among them, in the national baby-raising expenditure in 2020, the starting price of baby-raising in the north, Guangzhou and Shenzhen is 2 million, and Beijing won the first place with a high price of 2.76 million. Moreover, these figures are only the most ideal state based on market standards, without considering inflation, RMB depreciation, school district housing and other factors.

No wonder people often say that from middle class to bankruptcy, just one baby is enough. Because you have a baby, you will find that you are burning money every minute. The "Four-legged Gold Swallowing Beast" really deserves its reputation. It's like a professional banknote shredder.

At the end of a comedy film "The Richest Man in Xihong City" starring Shen Teng, the first box office actor in China film history, we saw that all the expenses for raising a baby became a bill several meters long.

Many people may think it's a bit exaggerated, but it's not exaggerated at all. It's cruel and realistic.

Nowadays, marriage can't go far if there is only love without material guarantee. Because after raising children, you will find that the biggest luxury in your family is children, which is ironic but also very realistic and helpless.

Now the post-90s fear of marriage is nothing more than two aspects. On the one hand, it is economic, on the other hand, it is unwilling to settle.

After 90, young people are more willing to take money to raise cats than children. In 20 19 White Paper on Pet Industry in China, the post-90s shovel officials account for more than 50% of the total number of cat owners, and it is expected that this number will continue to increase in the future. In other words, more and more post-90s migrant workers have joined the ranks of "cat slaves".

Some people say that raising a cat is like raising a child, but it is somewhat different from raising a child. The biggest expense of raising a child is education expenditure, and cats don't have to bear this expense.

Cats are cute and cute, and are deeply loved by young people. For contemporary pet owners, cats are not only pets, but also family, friends and children. Young people who don't have cats are addicted to cats in the clouds every day and fantasize about cats all day, while those young people who have cats are crazy about their cats besides cats in the clouds.

For these young people, the cost of owning a cat is within their affordability, which is much easier than the cost of getting married and having children.

Moreover, the independent personality of cats satisfies young people who don't want to socialize and just want to stay at home and enjoy the afternoon after work. They don't need to take them out for a walk in the hot and cold sunshine, and they don't need to spend time with them often.

Both sides have their own space and time, seemingly not interfering with each other, but staying with each other to give each other warmth. This is a win-win way. Cats have homes and spiritual comfort in lonely big cities. Why not?

Young people who live alone after 90 are like "empty nesters". They can eat alone, go shopping alone, watch movies alone and be alone.

For them, it seems that nothing needs to be done by two people, but by themselves. If they are lonely, there is a soft and lovely cat beside them. But every time I see someone else's sour and sweet love, I always have an impulse to fall in love and get married.

After thinking it over, I always feel that I am still young, my work is unstable, and my mind is uncertain. It seems that I can't give each other a clear promise. Finally, I will forget and put it off for another two years.

But in the end, I still can't escape the destruction of my parents' urging marriage. Ben San is a lot of embarrassing age nodes after 90. Looking at my peers who have a successful career and then at myself who has nothing, I can only say that it is a long story.

Maybe when we look at the fact that we are in Grade Three with a different attitude, we will feel better, and we don't need to blindly envy other people's careers and families, because it is yours and will always be yours, and no one can take it away, but the time has not yet come.

Text/Tong Jian

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