No matter how good your relationship with others is, don't reveal these five things.

Some things, I'd rather rot in my stomach than say.

The news got out and the water was spilled. When I said something wrong, taking it back will only make things worse. It is the best policy to control your mouth and grasp the scale of words.

No matter how good your relationship is, don't reveal the following five things.

Some people say, "There are no eternal friends and enemies, only eternal interests." What you said will one day become the laughing stock of others, and even become a bargaining chip for others to restrict you. It's better to be cautious.

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Don't talk about money

Talking about money can see a person clearly, but talking about money can also hurt feelings.

People who are poorer than you will be jealous of you as soon as they hear that you have money, and then try to borrow money from you. When others ask for money, whether you borrow it or not is a dilemma.

Lend money to others, and if others don't pay it back in time, you will be very unhappy; If more people borrow money from you, your money will slowly flow into other people's pockets, which is not your own money, but also trouble.

You don't want to lend money to others. Relatives and friends think you are stingy and say you are useless.

People who are richer than you, when they hear you talk about money, will look down on you and think you are a person who likes to show off.

The best way is not to talk about money. No matter how much money you earn, keep it a secret and keep it in your heart. Don't talk about money with the poor, this is the minimum respect; Don't talk about money with rich people, keep a low profile.

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Don't talk about family scandals.

"Don't wash your dirty clothes in public."

Whether it is your own scandal or someone else's scandal, it is even uglier to say it.

There is a friend whose wife has an affair, so the couple often quarrel. When a friend is angry, he exposes his wife's scandal in a circle of friends. Obviously, my friends hope that in this way, we can express our opinions.

A few days later, in my friend's company, gossip was everywhere, and everyone was talking about my friend's family affairs.

Because there are too many rumors, my friends can't look up and be human, so they have to resign.

After his resignation, his friend divorced, and he really couldn't bear the pressure of all kinds of gossip.

Everyone's family will not be perfect. If you stare at the imperfections and reveal them to others, you will hurt your family and yourself.

All domestic scandals, once exposed, will be laughed at rather than understood.

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Don't say things that have nothing to do with yourself.

Sit still and think about yourself all the time. Gossip is not personal.

Other people's business has nothing to do with you, but you want to "interrupt", which is "looking for trouble"

Nobody wants to get into trouble, but people who can't keep their mouths shut will always get into trouble.

For example, if others screw up their work and you don't help, you will still make irresponsible remarks about others' work. Therefore, in this case, it will make your interpersonal relationship very tense and expose your dark side.

In this world, a lot of information is generated every day. If you manage everything and evaluate everything, you will still waste time. Some ignorant words will turn into rumors and eventually hurt themselves.

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Don't dig up old scores.

When people communicate with each other, there are always some old things that will gradually accumulate in their hearts.

You can often recall some happy past events and promote emotional sublimation; Some painful memories need not be mentioned again, and need to be forgotten slowly.

No matter who you get along with, as long as you turn over old scores, you just pinch each other's pain and turn their scars into wounds again.

It would be fall in price to turn over old scores. Broad-minded people will tolerate others and will not hold grudges.

For "old millet rotten sesame seeds", you have to let go, whether others hurt you or you hurt others, everything is over, don't care.

For example, your present friend, once a poor man, once had the experience of begging in the street. When I get along with my friends, I often mention this old story. Obviously, you are exposing the scandal of your friend, which will lead to alienation.

Treat anyone, remember the good of others, not the bad of others. Be kind to yourself, regardless of past gains and losses, live in the present and look forward to the future.

There is no need to turn the past into an invisible burden and take it with you at any time.

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Don't say the impossible.

Once, I had dinner with some friends. My friend Xiao Jia said, "I'm worried. I hope everyone can help me. "

I asked, "Jia, what's the matter?"

Xiao Jia said: "I opened a rice noodle shop, because the sanitary conditions are not good, and I need to find a way to clear the relationship."

I said, "In this case, I'll help you talk about the situation and let the relevant personnel bend the rules."

I had a few drinks and said some irresponsible things.

I woke up and found that things were not that easy. I found a few acquaintances, but I didn't get things done.

"He who unties the bell must tie the bell". The key reason for Xiao Jia's affair lies in himself. He just needs to take the initiative to change the environment of the shop. What should I do?

Because I can't help, my friendship with Xiao Jia has also undergone subtle changes, which is embarrassing.

No matter who you are with, you can't just promise others.

If you promise others, but you can't do it, you will break your word; If you promise someone, but you have to spend a lot of effort to help him, it is hard for yourself.

To be a man, we must do what we can; Helping others, too.

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Concluding remarks.

No matter how good your relationship with people is, you should be measured. Don't say it with your mouth open, and don't treat each other as confidants.

If you can't speak, keep silent, listen to what others say, observe what others say and do, and be aware of it.

If you like talking very much, you should learn to think before you speak, and control your words.

Don't let your words become ammunition for others.

Author: coarse grains in cloth.

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