The more selfish people are, the happier their lives are.

The more selfish a person is, the happier his life will be.

You are too selfish. Does this sentence have a familiar feeling?

Since childhood, people around us have taught us not to be selfish, and planted a seed in our mind. Selfishness is bad and derogatory, which leads to many people not living well for themselves all their lives.

Many people do everything for others, and many people live for others' feelings.

For example, when some people Lian Xiao, they should give a psychological hint, whether such a smile will make others laugh, whether it looks good or not, and whether it will hurt.

please, can you smile for yourself, or you will have no chance to leave this world one day.

There is another saying, "To save face and live with suffering", which is the portrayal of most people. To save face is to live for others and live in their eyes.

Let me tell you a case.

Once I went back to my hometown, my classmates got together, and we had dinner together. We chose a restaurant.

At this time, a classmate immediately picked up his mobile phone and called the hotel to make a reservation. The whole phone call was like having a lot of business with the hotel owner.

At that time, many classmates were sucked by him, and I was thinking, this classmate has so many contacts, so he knows all of them at random. It's so versatile.

when we got to the hotel, the whole hotel was empty, and we were the only ones eating at one table. didn't you say this classmate took off his pants and farted?

To be honest, in my world, it's really tiring to live like this.

I'm totally living for others. I'm very simple, smile happily. I can cry if I want.

I laugh and cry all to make myself comfortable. I don't care whether the people next to you are comfortable or not.

According to the highest state of Buddhism, being clear-minded and seeing nature refers to the manifestation of your self-nature.

For example, when you are 1-3 years old, you have hardly been polluted by the external environment. What you do is your own idea, which is the manifestation of your self.

You can recall carefully how powerful you are at the age of 3. You are not afraid of heaven and earth. You feel that the world belongs to you and you can do anything.

When you grow up, you have been educated the day after tomorrow. You are no longer you. You have become a robot. Do what others do and repeat it every day, because selfish nature has faded.

Do you know why people are afraid of death?

people are reluctant to die because they still have regrets.

If a person has lived all his life without any regrets, he must be happy when he leaves. If there are regrets, how can you be willing to leave?

So as long as he lives for others, he can't have no regrets.

Ladies and gentlemen, life is a one-way train in the hallway. Be selfish and live for yourself once.

There are no regrets when you leave. Human nature is selfish, so you just need to make it perfect.

The evolution of human selfish nature

Let's share a story first. A poor single mother and her two children, aged 9 and 8, are waiting for her at home. They are hungry and cold, hugging each other tightly to keep warm.

Mom has been out for a day, and they miss her so much and the food she brought back.

It's been two days since the last time I ate.

At that time, the two pears brought back by my mother, the two brothers gave each other humility several times, and the two pears were passed around in their hands. In the end, my brother ate the big one and my brother ate the small one.

My mother smiled at the corners of her mouth. She always taught her children to give each other humility and help each other, and the children were obedient. Even if they were hungry, they would not quarrel over the food.

Suddenly, the eldest son handed the pear to his mother and said, "Mom, why don't you have a bite? The youngest son also lifted the pear, and his mother's eyes were moist. She said, Son, mom is not hungry. You eat. The two children looked at each other and ate again, eating more.

Mother turned around and shed tears, remembering that her mother also left her the best, remembering all that her mother had done for her. There was a cold wind blowing outside, when her mother came back, and the child stared at the bread on the hand of welding mother and called out to her loudly ...

Can you see the selfishness of human nature from this story of Wen Department? Can you see the selfish nature of children when they see bread? No matter how educated the day after tomorrow, human nature will never change.

The following analysis will be cruel, but it is the truth. There are two kinds of selfishness, one is material and the other is spiritual.

Material selfishness means, "People die for money, birds die for food, and spiritual selfishness. You should always hear a saying," You only care about your own feelings, have you ever thought about my feelings! Spiritual selfishness is to enjoy one's inner pleasure.

From the above story, we can see that from the moment they saw their mother, the two brothers first

saw food, because they were really hungry, and their humility was only their mother's teaching and ethics.

Some people will say that this is the instinct to survive after being hungry. You are right, which shows that human instinct is selfish.

We are born selfish, whether it is human instinct or survival instinct. In order to survive, we will naturally crowd out our opponents.

Some people will say that the two children above are also humble to each other and give pears to their mothers. If they are selfish in nature, haven't they changed through the acquired education? Wrong, there is no way to change people's selfishness. The change is just: from low-level selfishness to higher-level selfishness!

After education, they recognize humility and love. What they do is just the need of their inner feelings, which will make them feel comfortable and happy.

This kind of self-comfort and pleasure is the selfishness that they need to satisfy. No matter how you think about others, it is based on your own needs and purposes, but it is hidden in different depths.

a person who helps others, in addition to being good for others, is essentially meeting his spiritual needs of being a good person.

Remember this sentence? Helping others is the foundation of happiness! In other words, you will get happiness by helping others, and this happiness is the selfishness you get.

For example, when you find that a leader has a big leadership structure and a good person, he thinks of others.

Then have you ever wondered why he should be so kind to others?

He is so kind to others, hoping that these people can repay him in the future, isn't he?

You may also say that some people do good deeds without leaving their names or asking for anything in return. If you dare to say so, I'd like to ask how you know these people.

For example, if you help someone today, you don't expect anything in return from him, but when you help him, your heart will be very happy. This happiness is your selfishness and your greatest reward.

Many people think that parents' love for their children is selfless.

I have a friend who has become a father.

He said,

As the father of two children, tell me something about my heart. My second daughter was born, and we take care of her selflessly every day, and dedicate ourselves to her, but our whole family is extremely happy inside.

Note that we are extremely happy inside. This kind of happiness is the emotional selfishness behind everything we have done for her. The first factor that I love my daughter is not from her feelings, but from my own feelings. Of course, there is no doubt that this kind of "selfish" love is beneficial to children.

Some time ago, I experienced something personally, which had a great impact on my life. I'll share it with you-let's learn from it.

I have a friend's son who is ill. This illness is not just a minor illness, but relatively serious. As a friend, I definitely want to see her. When I went to see her, my friend kept crying and crying. Then as a friend, I will definitely comfort her. I said, no one wants to be like this, but you can't solve the problem by crying like this. You cry too much and it hurts your own health. I believe your child doesn't want to see such a result.

Some people believe that human nature is good, others believe that human nature is evil, but I have always believed that human nature is selfish. When I saw this mother crying for her child, I felt that she had no selfish elements at all. I still wondered if there was something wrong with the theory of human nature being selfish.

As a result, this mother answered a sentence and gave me a big fright. If I say it, I will definitely give you a big fright. She said, I understand everything you said, but I will feel better if I cry ...

Ladies and gentlemen, please try to figure out this sentence carefully. It's from her own mouth. She said that if she cries, she will feel better. She was crying to make herself comfortable, but < P > there was something for herself. The instinct of human nature will automatically help you to be selfish. It is true to love children, and it is also true to make yourself comfortable. Enjoy the sentence "Make yourself comfortable". When you can understand this sentence, you will have a strong control over human nature.

Of course, there are many levels of selfishness. It doesn't mean that being selfish only means being selfish. Being kind to others means being selfish in the future. I hope you can be more selfish!