After marriage, my husband never gives gifts on holidays. What should I do if I am angry?

My husband and I have been married for more than four years. Except for a watch and a bunch of flowers when I was in love, I didn't give him a gift after I got married. Every time I say that he doesn't understand romance, he always says that you are the only one in my heart. Couples just need to live a good life. Giving gifts is empty and a waste of money. In fact, I know he loves me, otherwise he wouldn't marry me. Who will marry a person who doesn't love me in this society?

However, as a woman, no matter how I understand my husband, I also hope that he can express his love with practical actions, instead of just saying that he has me in his heart. This is very different between men and women. Men put love in their hearts, while women pay more attention to forms of expression. In order to make my husband change his mind and be happy every holiday, I made the following attempts:

1. When he didn't give me a gift on holidays, I immediately became angry and unhappy with him. Usually he will coax me into saying that I will buy it for you next time. Don't be angry, but next time, he forgot to buy it.

Second, tell him what other people's husbands bought for their girlfriends, see how romantic they are, and then look at you. I'm not in the mood at all This comparison is somewhat effective, but it can be seen that my husband feels humiliated, but he will refute me and compare other people's family income with ours, saying that we are more economical than them and spend all our money in useful places. There are many reasons anyway.

Third, giving him a gift first in exchange for his empathy has some effect, but it is still not obvious. He usually says that I don't need what you buy, and it is better to buy something else with this money. It probably means that buying gifts on holidays is a waste of money. He also wants to give me a gift in return, but he doesn't know what to buy.

Fourthly, this method is the most effective, which I think is the main reason for success. Let her understand my contribution to this family and to him, and list practical examples (giving birth to children, taking care of children, helping him take care of the elderly, etc.). In short, let him agree that I have paid a lot for this family and even feel a little guilty about me. On this basis, tell him clearly that men and women are different, and women just want to have a holiday.

To sum up, you must make him agree with your efforts and feel guilty. Then, on this basis, you can say bluntly that holiday gifts are very important to you and you care about them in your heart. If you don't buy them, you will get lost. If you don't even want to buy yourself a gift and feel that you have wasted your money, he doesn't care at all.

Men are often slow. You beat around the bush with him, and he doesn't understand. As long as he really loves you, he will meet this small request. He is dissatisfied because he doesn't know that it is important to you. Two people can be together and the family is harmonious. There must be deep feelings. In the emotional world, some ideas are better communicated directly than implicitly.

Whether men or women, in marriage, actively creating some emotional appeal will increase feelings. On the basis of feelings, any appeal will be satisfied as long as it is clearly expressed.