My sister-in-law doesn't like cooking. More than 60 mothers cook three meals a day. What should my daughter do if she is distressed by her mother?

I have personal experience of this problem. When my mother was 72, my father left. Mom and dad are retired and have been living quietly in a big house. Usually, we often go back to visit our parents. After my father left, in order to comfort my mother, my brother's family of three moved to live with her and my nephew went to school. Mom is always busy with what the family eats, and sometimes she will pick up her grandson. Every morning, she goes to the vegetable market to buy food. She always buys many kinds of vegetables, fruits and fish. She calculated when her brother's sister-in-law and grandson would arrive home on time to serve food. My brother's sister-in-law and our daughter are very distressed by her and ask her not to do it again. My brother also said that they always buy food on their way home from work and cook it themselves, so my mother can wait until they come back. But mom can't sit still.

In the past two or three years, my mother's legs were bad and her knees were worn out, so she couldn't go to the vegetable market to buy food. My brother and sister-in-law and we always buy them back. Starting this year, the 80-year-old mother has a hard time cooking. She stopped doing it. Do your best.

Old people are restless. As long as she has the ability, it is not easy for her to do it. Unless she can't do it herself.

At that time, I was very distressed that my mother bought food and cooked. We all turned over and quarreled with her, but it didn't work.

That's what my mother does. She can never let her children do what she can. An 80-year-old mother loves her children in her way. Although the child is over fifty years old and has a successful career, she is still a child in her eyes and needs her care. She doesn't know that she is an old man who needs to be taken care of. [tears] [tears]

Well, your sister-in-law doesn't like cooking, and your mother cooks. You sympathize with your mother. I'll tell you a story about someone around me. A mother-in-law teacher in the community retired. She lives in her son's house. A 70-year-old man, his granddaughter and grandson live in school, and his son and daughter-in-law work. Every morning, the old people go to the market to buy fresh vegetables and eat breakfast outside. At noon, his son and daughter-in-law came back from work at night, and her mother-in-law had three dishes and one soup. Every time I see my son and daughter-in-law eating with relish, my mother-in-law feels full of happiness. What to eat tonight? Yesterday, my son said it was delicious. I will continue to cook one today. The daughter-in-law casually said something delicious. That mother-in-law will cook that dish for a week. Mother-in-law said that she now feels very happy and active, and can cook for her children. This is the embodiment of value. Daughter-in-law often speaks well of her mother-in-law. For example, when she is rushing to work in the morning, her mother-in-law gets up early in the morning and burns fresh boiled water to cool down. In her daughter-in-law's cup, her daughter-in-law can drink some water to clear her stomach before going to work. Grandchildren are brought up by their mother-in-law, and they are very affectionate. I think this is the happiness of the family. It is a blessing to be able to do it, and the family is harmonious. Don't be afraid of being cheated. Your family is more tolerant and understanding. Daughter-in-law may still be young, but it will be fine when she grows up. I think your mother is working hard when I see it. Maybe your mother still enjoys it.

My sister-in-law married to my family does nothing, and my mother cooks them three meals a day. You say you don't cook, but you always wash the dishes after dinner and don't wash your rice bowl after dinner. What, did you go to the restaurant or is my mother your nanny? My mother is clean. My brother-in-law never cleans the house. My mother does all the housework. She doesn't work, and I can understand if she has a job. It's for her all day I must feel sorry for my mother, saying that it is not suitable for her brother and daughter-in-law. After all, she is the sister of a married woman, and it is difficult for her to get married. I took my mother directly to my home, so as not to be thankless at home.

I can't do it either. I can't even wash the dishes. My parents-in-law are the hostess. If my husband is worried about his mother, he will help him. Then I can do something with him. He is indifferent. What am I busy with? So you'd better persuade your brother. Your brother and mother are busy. Your brother and daughter-in-law can sit and play together. Your mother has been cooking for you and your brother for decades. Your brother and daughter-in-law are here, and you will feel distressed. You are looking for trouble,

It's normal for a daughter to feel sorry for her mother. But why do you think your mother is working hard because your sister-in-law doesn't cook? What is your brother doing?

Home is not a person's home, and housework cannot be done by one person. Besides cooking, there are many other housework. You can't let your brother-in-law do everything, can you?

I know an old lady who cooks with her daughter-in-law or washes dishes alone. After cooking, she won't wash the dishes again. Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law get along in different ways, and maybe people enjoy it. My mother is still cooking at the age of 70, and my aunt is still cooking breakfast for my cousin's house at the age of 80.

If you really care about your mother, you can do your best to help. Especially communicate with your brother and ask him to do more work. Don't just stare at his sister-in-law

Things between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are hard to say. As an elder sister-in-law, it may help more and more.

I am a full-time mother and have two aunts. Because I haven't saved enough money to buy a house, I live with my in-laws for the time being. Cook every day and give her mother-in-law a hug when eating. I went back to my mother's house once, because it was closer! The baby was too hot. I went home to get clothes and found my sister back. When she saw me, she said, why is my mother eating instant noodles? I don't know if it's bad for my health. Then I turned around and told my mother-in-law not to eat and cook. My mother-in-law replied directly that my daughter-in-law was not at home and I didn't want to cook alone. My aunt can't cook in her thirties and often comes back, sometimes in January or February. I sleep until noon every day. I never wash dishes after dinner, but I say I love my mother. Last time I went out to get the order form, she came back and said a few sour words. My sister-in-law has gone out of town. My mother hasn't let me go since I was a child. I haven't been to my man's house a few steps away from me. I didn't even know garlic could come up with garlic moss [covering my face]. I am proud to hear this tone. I didn't know how to cook before I got married. Later, I slowly learned from Baidu. As for going to see my mother in the field when I was a child, I also guessed and recognized it. I finally know the reason why my elder sister-in-law is unpopular. In the husband's family, the brother-in-law of NPC is an old man. Mom and dad are old enough to marry a daughter-in-law, so nothing can be said. Mother-in-law said that she was too lazy to be surprised, but felt that children could do less.

If you really care about your mother, let them not live together. I live with my parents-in-law. I don't do housework at ordinary times, but my mother-in-law does. But in my heart, first, I despise a lot of housework done by my mother-in-law, and think there is little difference between her cleaning up and not cleaning up; Second, I can't accept many of her parenting ideas. I don't like some ideas instilled by her and my children. In fact, every day we live together, she is very hard and I am very painful. Don't look at problems one-sidedly. Don't think that your mother works hard and has something she is willing to pay.

1. I'm my sister and sister-in-law. My in-laws never cook. First, the food I cooked is not delicious. Second, there is no time to cook at work. I always ask my mother-in-law to go out to eat when there are guests at home, because the guests are very tired of cooking a table, and I feel sorry for the old man. My husband has a sister, and our relationship is very general. We have nothing to say together, and we don't know each other well. I don't know why. But I have a good relationship with my husband's two cousins and often chat on WeChat. If my sister participates in my family affairs and says something about me, I will be very unhappy. Although I don't cook, I still do other cleaning.

2. I have a younger brother. My sister-in-law is very young and gave birth to two babies in three years. My mother cleans at home every day, helps them wash clothes, cook and take care of the children. Because I just gave birth to a second child, I feel very sorry for my mother, and my mother also complains. Last week, my mother said that she had just quarreled with my brother. I wanted to scold my brother, but I held back. First, I scolded him and he didn't listen, or my mother complained. My brother's character. Second, scolding will not change the contradictions in the future. So I decided to buy a small house for my parents in a few years when the economy is well off, and let them come out alone.

Your parents can feel sorry for themselves, but don't blame others. Accusations will only deepen contradictions.

I am also a daughter-in-law, because my mother-in-law is her husband's foster mother, but she doesn't love us, scolds us and always quarrels. When she was in love with her husband, she never cooked for us and there was no water, so she said no. Her three daughters say that her mother can't cook, and she hasn't done anything that her mother loves her children. I admit it. Now all three of us don't associate with them, because they are not satisfied and they are too noisy. The girls banded together to beat their husbands and scold our family of three. The key is that we go home several times a year, not every day, but only for a few days of the New Year (because my mother-in-law doesn't like us to go home, she will find opportunities to force us to leave home when she comes back. The three of us have been wandering outside these years. Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are one. Her daughter-in-law coaxes her every day and asks her for something. Outsiders envy my wife. My mother-in-law won't help me. I look after the children, send them to school by myself, and do housework at work. But only my husband and I know the sad tears. Of course, I am also a daughter. My mother-in-law is very kind to her daughter-in-law. After the baby is born, she will bring it to my mother. My sister-in-law has been idle for more than ten years, and she can't brush pots and pans. She never cooks. When she is hungry, she will eat at her mother-in-law's house. She cooks late, she will smash the stove, smash pots and pans, lift her feet and kick my mother, and spill hot water on the floor. If you don't agree, lift the table. She also told me that she went back to her mother's house to serve her brother and daughter-in-law, and now she says that her brother and daughter-in-law are not things in front of me. Far from showing off. I once broke my grandmother's jar. My grandmother didn't die before she died, and my sister-in-law was anxious. She thought my grandmother died quickly, which delayed my brother's earning money, quarreled with my father, lifted the table, kicked the kettle, and threw the teapot and teacup at the mourning hall, almost hitting my poor grandmother. Fragments cut my father's eyelids. In this way, my mother has been forbearing and cooking every day. And eat with a long face. I don't like going back to my mother's house. Go back to my sister-in-law, always complaining in front of me about who is not a thing. I had to walk away and avoid this topic. I'm afraid going on will annoy my parents. I especially envy my sister-in-law for having a good in-laws. But she is really a discontented person. Everyone is a human being, and everyone's heart is fleshy, which is taught by parents. How can she go so far? I am willing to love my nephew and buy him clothes. She just said I should. When I got married, she gave me a quilt. Give it to me. I said you can keep it if you want.

My sister-in-law doesn't like cooking. More than 60 mothers cook three meals a day. What should my daughter do if she is distressed by her mother? The solution is possible. The distressed mother can take her to live in the past, so that she can take care of her by herself, but after discussing with her husband, see if he agrees to come to your home. Besides, talk to your brother and ask him to pay more attention to his mother. As a sister-in-law, you can't directly comment on whether she is diligent or lazy. Let's leave some words to your brother. If your sister-in-law says that your family runs on her, it will be difficult for an honest official to handle housework, which will directly affect the relationship between husband and wife and the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Let my brother do more and help my mother do more housework. If his daughter-in-law loves her husband, it will happen naturally.