It's not your job that kills you, but your unhappy job.

Work occupies at least one-third of everyone's day, and most of the golden age of life has been given work. Whether you can work happily is more or less equal to whether you can live happily.

If you feel depressed at work, no matter how high your salary is, it is hard to buy your smile.

I summed up the following ten items, which I have been practicing or determined to strengthen in the new year. You might as well try it with me.

1. Clean up long-term unfinished business.

There are many unfinished things there, such as dark clouds, which naturally make you unhappy. You are afraid of being asked by your boss all day, and over time, your confidence in your execution is greatly reduced. What shall we do? There is no other way. For happiness, don't delay. It's better to pay off the debt sooner or later.

How to clean it up? Why don't you sort out these unfinished projects as a whole first Find out which ones are easy to clean up, which ones are expected to take more time, which ones require multi-sectoral cooperation, and which ones are actually overdue or completely unnecessary.

Then group them reasonably, arrange their priorities, and gnash their teeth and try to ask themselves to concentrate on one or several days to eliminate them. It's hard to have a surprise these days, but you can enjoy it. No debt? La! You will feel less psychological pressure and less self-esteem when you get up every day.

Besides, many times, we spend all our time? Thinking about things? Is it? What worries me is that I have so many things to do, but I haven't done them. I don't have enough time. I'm robbing Peter to pay Paul, and I'm tired of dealing with it every day, so I can't lift the spirit of doing things. Instead, why not cut the gordian knot? Focus on energy and time? Doing things? Going? Soon after it was finished, it was neat. Come to work with a sense of relief, as if on vacation.

But it was finally cleaned up? Old debt? Be especially careful to avoid it afterwards? New debt? Over time, it is also unhappy to make surprises regularly. Let's talk about how to manage time, tasks and efficiency immediately.

2. Rational use of time resources

As many people know, time management includes? Does it matter? And then what? Urgent? Two measures, which constitute the abscissa and ordinate of task sequencing, thus dividing four seats in priority order? Both? Does it matter? Again? Urgent? Things, natural priority; Neither? Does it matter? No Urgent? Things, silently at the bottom, just waiting for opportunities; Or? Does it matter? Or? Urgent? In the middle of things.

But many times, because I didn't do a good job of analysis and overall planning, I was led by people all day. Urgent? Things to catch up on, and these? Urgent? But there are a lot of things from? No hurry? Drag it in? Urgent? Yes; Really? Does it matter? Things, never? No time? Fuck.

? No time? All along, the boss hates to hear that his subordinates are? No time? Make excuses, because everyone is given a fair 24 hours every day (no doubt, right? )。

The boss never expects you to give him all these 24 hours, but he has the right to interfere with the eight-hour working hours. In the eight hours that everyone had, he didn't do what he told him. In his view, obviously, what do you think his business is? Not important? Or? No hurry? what's up The boss is right to be angry.

This incident conveyed two other messages: First, what did the boss order? Does it matter? Yes; Second, the boss should also tell his subordinates about the task when arranging it? Urgent? Degree (if the urgency of the task is self-evident), that is, the expected deadline, is this part of the task requirements? Standard. If this standard is missing in the task, subordinates have the right and obligation to ask clearly so as to arrange their own time conveniently.

Have you arranged your time reasonably so that you won't be laid off every day? An ultimatum? Or give the most precious time to an unimportant and urgent thing, but live? No time? Do something important or urgent that should be done.

3. Leave you alone? An imaginary enemy?

Apart from the time spent alone (going to the toilet, dreaming, etc.), I spend more time with my colleagues than with my family every day. ), and I believe most people do the same. Meeting a harmonious and progressive team will naturally add points to the work mood, which is what everyone in the workplace wants, right? I hope they are all enthusiastic, capable, tolerant and humorous, and it is best to look good? It's perfect

Helpless, there is no perfect person in reality, and the interests of the working relationship are entangled, which makes it easier for colleagues to have bad feelings or estrangement. How can there be such a nuisance? I don't want to get up and go to work at the thought of meeting him and talking to him today. Have you ever had one? I have!

It has been observed that in any team with more than three people, everyone will feel disgusted with at least one person in the team; So is a hundred teams. Maybe the types, numbers and emotional reactions of people you hate have changed, but you just can't fall in love with everyone in the team, even if there are only three people plus your own small team.

Why? Because there is competition in the workplace, and in the competitive environment, people's psychological defense mechanism will spontaneously produce a kind of? An imaginary enemy? Coming? In other words, no matter what, no matter where, as long as there is competition, you will find someone to add to your block. Knowing this, you will be more tolerant if you meet someone who is not pleasing to the eye again. Thinking that others may be lying with guns, you have no choice.

There is another one in psychology? Projection effect? Simply put, the more I miss this person? Annoying? Is this person many? Annoying? , thus entering a vicious circle. So, in order to be happy, you should also stop properly? To let others go is to let yourself go. Try it, won't you? An imaginary enemy? Life is really much easier.

Find a like-minded friend for everything you say.

Someone said? There is no real friendship in the office? There are also many people who agree. The main reason is the indisputable fact of competition in the workplace and the psychological defense line that people can't unload in the competitive living environment.

We don't talk about detachment. In fact, as long as there is no conflict of interest and direct competition with you, colleagues can also develop several good friends.

? Make an appointment for a meal, get a courier, and always be a companion; If you encounter unhappy things, find him at the first time and detoxify him in time; It's best to find a car friend, go to work together, save energy and reduce emissions, solve problems such as parking and traffic restrictions, speak ill of others and gossip about the company along the way, and traffic jams will not be annoying and stressful.

5. Club benefits not to be missed

Most companies have associations. Join a club! Do more activities at ordinary times, exercise your organization and coordination ability, and make more friends? It's easier to do things with more friends, especially in a company! Reimbursement can arrive two days earlier than others.

You can also eat and drink without spending money, cultivate your specialties and develop your talents, and the benefits are not too much. Maybe I accidentally solved my personal problems together. It's fun to think about it.

Some people say that our company is not so generous and has no budget to engage in associations with us. But there are trade unions (otherwise it is illegal), trade unions and trade union activities.

? What football match, photo contest, KTV contest, cooking contest, tearing famous brand contest and so on. Stop hiding and get involved! Did everyone find out? There are always some activists taking part in company activities. Why? Have they tasted the sweetness? The reward of participation is the joy of giving, the joy of communication, and the material reward (how can you not mention it? More importantly, the establishment and strengthening of a sense of belonging is very important for the improvement of the workplace happiness index.

6. beautify your office environment

No one can deny it? Environment affects mood. This is beyond my ability. Why don't you start decorating your desk? Come to a few succulents, look at their cute little appearance when you are upset and stretch your eyebrows.

Raising two small fish can improve the dry environment in the office, and staring at it can also alleviate visual fatigue; Booking weekly flowers for yourself is also a favorite choice for office beauties, such as arranging flowers, pruning and changing water? It is elegant and comfortable to think about it. Even if you don't have time to take care of it carefully, Yu Guangli can adjust your mood with their charming posture. I can't wait to pat myself on the shoulder and say that you are really a delicate woman who knows life, haha! ?

If the property allows nailing on the wall, can you still think of the office wall? Drying paintings and photos, and hanging paintings that can make you feel calm in an instant are all good choices.

In short, it is very simple to create a favorite atmosphere and a comfortable atmosphere in the office.

7. Don't waste lunch time

Have you ever had such an experience: the wake-up mode starts slowly, and I don't want to get up when I think that today is not a weekend, I have to go to work and have a chore waiting for you! Time has stood still!

Suddenly, the thought of having lunch with friends, or today is the day of Fan Fan, the business manager you have been wanting to talk about, has it given you more motivation and courage to go to work (although going to work for lunch sounds unprofessional)?

Lunch break is a particularly good social and rest time. Although it is only a short time of 1-2 hours, it is worth making good use of. Sometimes I'm busy at work, I don't rest during my lunch break, I continue to work in front of the computer and grab some snacks casually. At this time, not to mention the harm to the body, I feel particularly tired at the end of the day. At the thought of being too busy to even eat lunch, I suddenly feel so hard and pitiful.

In fact, unless there is an emergency, no matter how tense the work pace is, you should stop at lunch break, go out of the office, wake up and get some air. When you come back, the state and quality of your work will be different from that of continuous work.

I also know that it is tiring to invite people to dinner and chat with others when energy is insufficient. At this time, it is a kind of relaxation to go out for a walk alone, even if it is to go straight to the destination to buy takeout.

8. identify with your value

This is very important, it determines our ability to digest the suffering in the workplace, and also affects the flexibility of our workplace happiness index. Is it okay? Pain and happiness? 、? Busy and happy? It is because my value is recognized in my work that I feel that I am not afraid of hardship and fatigue.

No matter what your occupation or level, if you see the value of the same job, or if you see your own value in this job, you will be more motivated? Have the motivation to do better and find more happiness.

Take the compliance work I am doing now as an example. For a while, I felt bored. I am busy every day and can't see the output. I also offend people everywhere and feel very tired. At a meeting, I chatted with a friend, who is the compliance officer of another company. During the conversation, I found that she had too many high-end explanations for almost the same job content, but she didn't exaggerate, just looked at the problem in different ways and from different angles.

I suddenly found myself underestimating the value of my work and my own value. It turns out that my work is so noble and I am so important to the company! This change in understanding makes me feel that I have beaten chicken blood. Full of energy at work, the working state is naturally better.

Because I'm afraid there's nothing like feeling. I am very important! ? More exciting. Realize your own value. The company hires you because it needs you, but you can't underestimate your work.

9. Face the challenge: cheer up your child.

If you are like me, most of the reasons for being unhappy at work are because of being wronged or facing great pressure. At this time, it is helpful to talk, but the more effective way is to talk to yourself and talk to the fragile child who lives in your heart.

When I first took office, the CEO in charge of compliance affairs in one of my companies was very difficult to deal with. He didn't pay attention to compliance and told me directly to my face.

This conversation with him is a typical bad start, and I am very depressed. The embarrassment and sadness in the conversation haunted me, especially in the morning when I had to get up for work, and it always called on time.

Later, I decided to talk to myself, not just to myself, but to imagine that you are having a real conversation with another child who needs help. I asked myself, seriously, with the title?

? Honey, I want to know why you are sad.

? Because I felt that I was knocked out of my head in the conversation that day, I didn't expect him to say so. ?

? Why did he say that? Is it because you did something wrong?

? I don't think so. I just got to this position and haven't had a chance to make mistakes yet. ?

? Then why did he say that?

? Probably just complaining. ?

At this point, the knot in my heart has been untied? He is complaining. This is none of my business, okay? ! From then on, this matter never bothered me again, and the burden was simply unloaded. I will also meet him regularly to report on his work. He has always been cynical, but he is quite awesome in practice.

I don't want to get up in the morning because there may be a challenging meeting that day. At this time, I will cheer for myself. Dear (I am really gentle with myself), have you made all-round preparations? What should be faced must be faced. Get up early, get dressed and cheer up! ? Sure enough, I came to the spirit, skid up and do a good job.

You will say, hey, aren't these truths and words already in your mind? Yes, but strangely, in your mind? Think? I just didn't talk to myself like this, okay? Say? Come out, it works!

10. The more you exercise, the happier you will be.

I have a good friend at work, who is very serious and motivated in that kind of work and has been under great pressure. Every time I see her, I feel that she is not relaxed, and the space with her is always shrouded in low-pressure clouds.

Recently, she started swimming. No matter how busy or tired she is, she insists on going. She said that she was really exhausted after swimming several times, and she couldn't wait to faint immediately, but the relaxation and involuntary happiness after exercise made her crazy and enjoy it. She also lost a few pounds by lifting her hips and stovepipe, and the whole person's state was different.

The scientific community explained that exercise can cause a series of chemical reactions in the brain and secrete happy hormones, even if you want to be unhappy. There is no need to delve into the mystery inside, but? The more exercise, the happier? It's true!

Some people, like me, want to go home after work. But when I got home, I couldn't say that I had done anything serious. I was busy in the east and west, and several hours passed. Focus on one and a half hours of fitness, running, swimming and even taking a bath (it's super important to find a gym near home or company! ), but really for yourself? QualityTime？ .

Or say? No time to exercise? ! ? If you agreed that it was important, you wouldn't say so. I suggest looking back at the second one.