What do men do when they want a divorce? A change of heart.

Divorce is a way to deal with the end of a relationship. It is said that women are afraid of divorce. In fact, many times, men are more afraid of divorce than women. When a man wants to divorce you, he will have the following behaviors.

What do men do when they want a divorce?

1. Men come home later and later, and there are more and more cases of staying out at night, just wanting a divorce.

Most men who don't go home often have lovers outside, and they will use various excuses to buy time for dating their lovers. Once a man falls into the "gentle country" of a third party, he will have thoughts and behaviors that he doesn't want to think about over time. Another woman will gradually erode a man's mind, forcing him to make a divorce decision and turn him into his own husband step by step (maybe a third party will retaliate against him). If a husband doesn't want to spend time with his wife and children, then the place where he spends time is the life he wants. At this time, even if a man has no lover, he is hinting at his wife's real divorce request in a "cold war" way.

The man wants to control all the property in the family, not giving his wife too much money and expensive gifts, and wants a divorce.

When a man's consumption habits suddenly become frugal, he doesn't buy expensive gifts for his wife or new things for his family, then his sudden change is that he has an idea about his current marriage. If a man's money is not consumed by his wife and children, his infidelity to his wife and family will be obvious. Money has a great weight in the eyes of most men, especially those men who need to "raise" other women outside, and their desire to control money will be more obvious. He will try his best to transfer his disposable property to another person, perhaps his friend or relative, in short, a trustworthy person who has nothing to do with his wife (to prepare for divorce and property division in the future).

A person's change of heart

First, sexual life is reduced.

You are seldom enthusiastic, but he is more indifferent to you. It is said that marriage is the life of two people, the love of fish and water, and the sweet time for you and me. The man you love is full of tenderness for you everywhere and will rub your head after kissing. When a man doesn't love you, he doesn't even care about you If you ask him, he will "hmm" and "oh", and try to give you a brief perfunctory, not to mention seeing your daily changes. Even if you have a new hairstyle, put on the most beautiful underwear and become a beautiful girl, he will only look down on you. Husband and wife life will not be as hot as it was at first, so eager for your body that you can't move a few times a night. Not only love less, but also quarrel more, and even start sleeping in separate rooms. Even because you have been married for many years, the old couple are not as close as the young couple, but the cheating man's attitude towards sex is really different.

Second, I don't like going home.

Home is a man's harbor. As the saying goes, "a nest of gold and silver is not as good as one's own." For a man, family is not only a shelter from the wind and rain, but also a small world of spiritual life. If a man is tired from working outside, but still doesn't want to go home to face his wife and children, it means that home has lost the meaning of "harbor" for him, and he is not so attached. Which husband doesn't want to go home early after a hard day to eat a hot meal cooked by his wife and chat with his family harmoniously to relax? Now, when you call him, he is always on the phone. There are always people on his WeChat who chat with him for a long time. He often makes appointments, but then he changes his mind temporarily, giving you the runaround with his work and becoming a workaholic. Going home late at night and sleeping without saying a word, such a man has actually changed. There are many excuses for not loving. A word "busy" can break the original promise. When a man loses his sense of responsibility and care for his family, it is often the beginning of his change of heart.

Third, I don't care about you.

Once upon a time, he remembered all your trifles: your period, your anniversary, interesting things about your childhood, your favorite tastes and so on. Even if you are ill now, he is busy in all kinds of ways. He simply said "go to see a doctor by himself" and then left under the pretext of busy work, without the thoughtfulness and gentleness of the past. Where a person kills time, his heart is there. If a man is no longer willing to devote his energy to you, take good care of you, or give you gentle care, and turn to neglect, indifference and even violence, it shows that he doesn't love you so much. A man who loves you, his car will always be on your way, and his time will always be left to you.

Fourth, be critical of you.

You've been together for so long that he naturally knows what your problem is. When we were first together, he would say, it's okay, I'm coming. Then on some small things, you did something wrong. He always touches your head intimately to comfort you. Please rest assured that I spoil you and have a gentle face. But now, I have given up my patience and tolerance. He didn't like the terrible food you cooked and the ugly clothes you wore at first. Even in the education of children, he said that you didn't do well enough, that you weren't a good wife and mother, and that you didn't manage your family well in economic consumption. Pick and choose again and again, and use polishing to amplify your small mistakes, which will eventually force you to become a bitch and have to quarrel with him. Your marriage will be in a negative attitude of men, and grievances will snowball. Finally, you will take the initiative to say "divorce" because you can't stand this life. This is exactly what men think. The world often says, "It's easy to fall in love, but it's the hardest to get along with." The relationship between husband and wife needs the cooperation of two people. Qi Xin works together and manages together with love, patience and a sense of responsibility for life. There has never been a reason why one person would be presumptuous to another. May your family be happy, and may the people at your bedside see this struggling silly woman, know your kindness, be considerate and understand you, and work together with you to make this small family better. Teacher Xue also hopes that everyone will not panic if something happens. The two sides can communicate calmly and find more small activities to enhance their feelings, so that the quality of life of husband and wife can be improved. Such a long relationship can't be put down by anyone who says he wants to give up, so you should have confidence in yourself and your other half. I believe that disharmony is only temporary. Under your careful management, everything will get better gradually.

Men who want to divorce often have these manifestations.

The first is the "violent" movement.

The so-called "violence" refers to a series of violent acts taken by some men in order to promote and speed up the realization of their divorce wishes and achieve their goals as soon as possible before divorce. There are two levels of violence here, one is "physical violence" and the other is "mental violence". After getting married and starting a family, some men are impulsive and irritable because of their personality and temper, and can't control their emotions. When they are angry and angry at home, they tend to physically attack their families and often "touch" their families. However, after the incident, "the sound of the waves is still the same" and he does whatever he wants. However, if this man wants a divorce, the number and frequency of "domestic violence" at home will increase significantly, and the interval will be shortened and irregular. At this time, the severity of violence will increase and the degree of harm will become heavier. And most of the reasons are caused by deliberately creating troubles, unlike the previous reasons. Another phenomenon is that domestic violence is never used after marriage, and it suddenly begins before divorce, which makes people feel incomprehensible and unreasonable. Then, let's talk about "mental violence", which is what we often call "cold violence". Such men never use domestic violence or force. But when there are differences and contradictions in the family, they either hurt each other with words or hurt each other psychologically or spiritually in the way of "Cold War". However, this kind of violence is the same as those "physical violence". Under normal circumstances, after the violence, everything is "calm" and life returns to normal. But if a man wants a divorce, the situation of "cold violence" and "physical violence" is the same, the frequency will increase obviously, the interval will be shortened, the language damage will be greater, and the cold war will last longer. And most of them are caused by the party who wants to divorce, and many of them are caused by "unwarranted" reasons. No matter what kind of violence, the ultimate goal is to "force" him to divorce.

Second, "eyes" are blind.

In ordinary families and ordinary days, the husband's performance of everything that happens in the family is often particularly "eye-catching" and he is very enthusiastic and active in handling it. There is also a situation where you don't blink, you are careless and careless, but no matter what happens, you can still get things done after being reminded and told by your family. This is passive. However, no matter what type they are, they all have a common feature, that is, they care and love their families, which is out of their responsibilities and obligations. But if a man wants a divorce, no matter whether he is active or passive at first, he will not blink, but will become blind and go blind. He turned a blind eye to people and things at home, as if he were in a feeling of not caring about anything. Even if you keep reminding him to get his attention and concern, he will show that he doesn't even want to lift his eyes. He seems to turn a blind eye to everything as if nothing had happened. Even if you are sick, he won't "see" it. Even if you tell him, he won't necessarily look up and get angry. As the saying goes, "the eyes are the windows to the soul". Why are you blind at home, can't see anything, and nobody cares? It's just that there is something wrong with your brain and you are already "absent-minded"

Third, "outside" busy

Every man will work hard for his career and family and take part in social activities. Because of their different occupations, fields and industries, although they all work in the unit, some work normally and have a regular schedule, while others do not. Their living conditions may be irregular, and there are often conflicts between working outside and family schedules. Commuting time is normal, so don't talk too much about regular work and rest. For men with busy work and irregular life, they will gradually form a universal law to follow in their long-term family life. No matter how busy you are, if you need to work overtime or go out, you will tell your family in advance, and it will be easy, frank and true to explain the situation, that is, "mouth to mouth" and "heart to heart". However, if a man wants a divorce, whether it is his work schedule, leisure work or those who are busy at work or go out to work overtime, no matter what type, the same feature is that he begins to be "busy", and all kinds of overtime, going out, studying, meetings and other things come one after another. At this time, there are more "surprise" arrangements for leaders and more "emergencies" for units. What's more, it seems that he has to do all the welcome, entertainment reception, public relations and outreach work. In the unit, he will suddenly become the "golden oil" and "pillar" of the unit. He is too busy outside to attend to his home. In a word, for various reasons, he spends far more time outside than at home. The most striking feature is that he never told his family. You can do whatever you want.

Men want signs of divorce.

When crossing the street, people who love you will hold your hand tightly and sometimes kiss your head gently. But once he doesn't love you, you will find it difficult to talk to each other. He will only show some impatience or disdain for you, and the dialogue between you will be less and less. If you ask him, he will reply, and sometimes he won't even bother to go. In the past, even small things about you would be in your mind, but now even if you are sick, he just holds a mobile phone, so if a man doesn't want to spend more time and energy, it means he doesn't want to continue this marriage. Many times, when you get married, everyone is full of confidence in the future. With the passage of time, marriage began to undergo various changes. You're not talking about our future, but in the process, he doesn't want to take you to activities. Every time he wants to take you away, there may be various reasons. In the process of doing things, he began to cultivate his interest, often participated in activities in his own circle, and gradually refused to take you. Moreover, you will find that if a man no longer loves you, he will isolate you from his circle and never mention you again. Men's love is sometimes obvious. You will find that when you are together at first, you often mention each other in front of your friends, but when your relationship is getting worse, he may also say in front of relatives and friends that the relationship between husband and wife has long broken down. In this case, you should be careful, because he has begun to let people around you know that there is no feeling between you, so divorce is only a matter of time. When he told the news to others, it was actually a hint to others. In this process, others may think that you are no longer a good wife, and men are also a bad way to divorce in the future, so you should be careful.