When people reach middle age, it is really meaningless to stop contacting these three kinds of people around them.

Once a person enters middle age, life seems to enter the second half.

When you are young, you can squander your youth. After all, youth is the most precious wealth, which not only gives people the motivation to forge ahead, but also gives people the courage to start all over again.

After middle age, the invisible pressure on people's shoulders is increasing day by day, followed by fame and fortune, family life, good health and personal connections.

The middle-aged crisis created by these things is squeezing the lack of time and energy of middle-aged people all the time, so middle-aged people should learn to choose.

After half a lifetime of ups and downs, a person will meet many people, some of whom may be your best friends and grow up with you; Some people will be the grindstone of your life, bring you pain and force you to sum up experience; Also, some people may just pass by your life briefly.

Life, meeting and parting are the norm.

When people reach middle age, they actually don't need to pursue too many friends, but should care more about the quality of communication.

Compared with a group of fair-weather friends, it is enough to get a bosom friend.

If a person spends too much time in unlimited social activities, he will not gain anything, but will increase his troubles and reduce his happiness in life.

As psychologist Adler once said, "all human troubles come from interpersonal relationships."

So everyone should know how to deal with interpersonal relationships, especially middle-aged people with limited time and energy. Simple and sincere interpersonal relationships can reduce the troubles of life.

When people reach middle age, they must understand that true friendship is "a friendship between gentlemen is as light as water" and learn to filter people around them.

If these three kinds of people appear in your life, you really don't need to contact again, because this is not only meaningless, but also affects yourself.

0 1: hypocrite.

The communication between people is based on sincerity, and only by sincerely investing in one's feelings can a good relationship be maintained.

However, no one can guarantee that the person he really treats is hypocritical or sincere. So everyone should learn to recognize people's hearts.

In this life, we will meet all kinds of people, including like-minded friends and hypocritical liars.

In real life, most people have been cheated. Obviously, they gave all their hearts to others, but what they got was deception and betrayal, which made people feel painful and even caused sequelae.

Some people have been cheated by friends once, and when they make new friends, they can't help but be timid and dare not give their sincerity again.

In fact, everyone sums up experience through constant failures and experiences, and then grows and changes.

If you are afraid of failure once, you are likely to miss success for a long time.

Zhang Ailing, a talented woman in the Republic of China, once said: "Looking at those treacherous good friends around you and their duplicity, you will sigh that time can really let you see some people clearly."

When you meet a fake friend, you must stop loss in time, don't be sad about losing friendship easily, and learn to love yourself better.

Time will heal the pain and let you meet real friends.

Therefore, people may wish to be more transparent and open-minded in middle age. Instead of letting yourself fall into the pain of betrayal, it is better to meet the future with a better attitude.

People still have to look forward.

02: Self-indulgent person

Have you ever met such a person in your life?

They have no hope for life, and like to transmit negative energy to the outside world endlessly. Even if someone tries to pull them out of the abyss, they are indifferent and even mess up other people's lives.

Xu Meng has such a best friend. They grew up together and had a very good relationship when they were young.

After getting married and having children, Xu Meng has been working as a full-time wife at home, doing sideline work in her spare time to enrich herself and increase her income.

My best friend is married and has children. People in their thirties always complain about the pain of life and are unwilling to change their lives.

At first, when Xu Meng heard her girl friends complaining about her husband's extravagance, poor economic conditions at home and naughty children, she always felt very distressed.

So, she taught her girlfriends how to do sideline business step by step and shared her experience without reservation.

At first, my girlfriend was still in high spirits, but she immediately gave up when she encountered a little problem, and then she began to deny herself and complain about the unfairness of her fate.

Over time, Xu Meng can't patiently listen to the troubles of his girlfriends every day.

After all, she also has her own life to run, so it is impossible to listen to her girlfriends' troubles at any time and make suggestions with heart. Besides, you will never wake a person who pretends to sleep.

Later, the relationship between the two gradually drifted away.

Xu Meng is still very self-disciplined, devoted to self-cultivation and properly arranged her life, but her life is more substantial and comfortable.

As the saying goes, "No common cause, no common goal."

Everyone has his own life track, and he is fortunate to meet like-minded friends and walk hand in hand. If their life pursuits are different, there is no need to force contact.

I especially appreciate a sentence by Yi Shu: "Why do we have to make friends with people who are different from each other? On a sunny road, on a wooden bridge, it is enough to be polite when you meet strangers. "

03: People who secretly slander you.

Since there are aboveboard people in this world, there are also people who secretly slander them. Only by knowing the difference can we effectively avoid letting our sincere efforts go to waste.

There is a saying on the Internet: "What people fear most is not betrayal, but being seriously injured by someone they trust."

An excellent person will inevitably be envied by others and even arrange right and wrong behind his back. They are not afraid of strangers' sour words.

The most unacceptable thing is that a person is close to you on the surface, but speaks ill of you behind your back.

This duplicity is not only shameful, but also unavoidable.

In the workplace, many people have had the experience of being unclear. It is precisely because of such little people that their work is not smooth.

Dale Carnegie once said: "As long as it is not too much, everyone can have a certain degree of jealousy and possessiveness. However, when jealousy and possession become aggressive and harmful, it is very dangerous. "

In real life, if you meet someone who slanders you behind your back, no matter how good the relationship between them was, stop loss in time and alienate each other. Don't let other people's scheming ruin your life.

The life of middle-aged people is actually very simple, and the plain and stable days are happiness. I hope everyone knows how to screen the right friends and keep their happiness.

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