Boyfriend: "I can only rest assured if I undergo a premarital examination." Can this marriage still be concluded?

When it comes to "pre-marital examination" for marriage, different people may have different ideas.

But first we need to know what is a prenatal checkup?

Premarital examination, also known as premarital examination, refers to the routine physical examination and genital examination of both men and women before marriage in order to detect diseases and ensure a happy marriage. The content of premarital examination includes two parts: medical history and physical examination, such as premarital medical examination, premarital hygiene guidance, premarital hygiene consultation, etc.

Some people think that premarital examination is very important. It is one of the criteria for selecting a good spouse, and it is also an important prerequisite for eugenics and eugenics. After all, "the body is the capital of revolution."

However, some people think that prenatal check-up is unnecessary. This is a sign of distrust in themselves. Even if there is nothing wrong with their body, they are unwilling to do it, which brings about inner resistance.

In fact, I understand no matter which mood I feel. There is no doubt that premarital examination is of great significance to both men and women. However, once some problems are found, how should we deal with the relationship that we have been together for so many years? , I think this is also the worry of many people who are unwilling to do it. Even if your partner understands you and continues to get married, it will also damage the quality of your future marriage.

Especially for some young people today, even their parents advocate that their children have multiple partners before marriage. However, when it comes time to get married, they may naturally be unwilling to go for a premarital check-up.

In addition, there are some older single men and women who also resist premarital examination. For the relationship that they finally encountered, they want to cherish the relationship and continue on, but are also afraid of things going wrong.

Shao Huilin was born in a rural area with average family conditions and has a younger brother. Therefore, she has developed a habit of being thrifty since she was a child, and she is also used to relying on herself for everything.

After adulthood, Shao Huilin came to work in a private company. After several years of hard work, she finally achieved some success and her income gradually increased. Therefore, she saved a house and had a place of her own. Comfort zone.

But as she grows older, Shao Huilin also begins to consider personal issues, but her appearance and circle of friends are relatively narrow, and the men she comes into contact with are always dissatisfied. The 300,000 yuan gift was immediately scared away. She felt that Shao Huilin was too young and didn't understand why she wanted so much.

Shao Huilin just feels that she owns a house, which will be used by husband and wife in the future, so the man must have a worthy bride price.

After turning thirty, Shao Huilin finally met a man named Xu Bin who felt good about him but was unwilling to accept the gift. He was two years younger than Shao Huilin, and the two of them could talk. Yes, the relationship was established within one visit.

However, when it came to marriage, Xu Bin asked Shao Huilin to go for a premarital examination.

I have never heard of anyone doing it in Shao Huilin’s hometown, so I am still very confused. Xu Bin said: "We didn’t know each other before, and I don’t know who you have been with." , Besides, you are so old, I need to know whether you can give birth, and I have to do a prenatal check-up before I can rest assured."

This was too much, and it made Shao Huilin feel like there was a stone in her heart, but It didn't happen directly, so she said: "It's okay to have a prenatal check-up, but we both have to do it."

However, what Shao Huilin didn't expect was that Xu Bin refused: "I'm a grown man. What to do, besides I’m younger than you, in my family all the women do it, the men don’t have to do it.”

Shao Huilin never dreamed that Xu Bin was such a double standard and unreasonable person. In the end, she was so angry that she broke up with her, but was humiliated by Xu Bin again. Shao Huilin was dumbfounded at Xu Bin, feeling that she was blind to know such a "scumbag".

Let’s not talk about Xu Bin’s character. Let’s just talk about whether we should have a marriage check-up?

In fact, I think it should be done, even when the relationship has just been established. After all, the relationship is not too deep at that time, so it is best if there are no problems. Even if there are problems and you mind separation, it will not matter. So sad.

Because premarital examination has three major benefits:

First, it benefits both men and women. There is no doubt about this. No one wants to marry or marry a sick person. Such a marriage is just looking for trouble in the future.

Second, it is beneficial to eugenics.

I saw the news not long ago that due to genetic problems, the remaining children of both sexes only have the intelligence of a 1-year-old when they are 4 years old, and may become vegetative in the future. avoid.

Third, it is helpful to grasp the timing of conception and contraceptive methods. Because you understand your own body, you can better adopt strategies, communicate with each other, and make your relationship develop more smoothly.

Although there are many benefits, if the timing and method of premarital examination are wrong, it will still become the cause of conflicts between men and women. For example, Xu Bin, his idea is right, but it is serious discrimination and unfairness. Trust, double standards and serious machismo are the main reasons why Shao Huilin finally broke up.

Since you are going to get married, in addition to clarifying your income and family background, your physical condition must also be made clear. This is responsible for the other party, yourself, and the next generation. , and even the two families are responsible.

Marriage is not a child’s play, and premarital examination is not just talk. Only by using it properly can it protect the marriage. Otherwise, no matter how good the relationship is, it will get stuck in the quagmire and end up breaking up, which would be extremely regrettable. .