How cool is it to be a girl who is not easy to mess with?

"The Big Bang Theory" said: You are so kind that the world will gnaw you to the bone.

We always like to value peace, and we would rather be wronged when we have disputes, so as not to cause trouble. In real life, there are too many things that people are good at being bullied.

Follow others in everything, but ignore your own interests, which will only attract others' contempt.

When we treat the world fiercely, the world suddenly becomes gentle.

1, refusing to please personality

I am responsive, I don't know how to refuse others, I often get angry when I don't have my own time, but I can't do anything for fear of conflict. Dare not have conflicts with others. If there is a contradiction, always take the initiative to apologize and blindly lower your principle bottom line.

But the more you please others, the less they will take you seriously, and the more you feel worthless. And one day, others will accept your design. If you refuse or refuse a little later, you will be more dissatisfied and criticized than ordinary people.

Therefore, be sure to:

1, understand that being liked is not necessary.

2. Always pay attention to your feelings.

3, have their own unique ability to build self-confidence.

Step 2 control your friendliness

Have you ever tried that when you talk to her with a straight face, the same person can't help smiling at you?

And when you smile, her smile disappears unconsciously? Others are too friendly, so you must never look down on others.

You may not realize it yourself, and you may not have rude intentions in your heart, but the expression on your face can't fool people.

If you have this situation, you can practice in front of the mirror and smile politely but not enthusiastically.

Look directly into each other's eyes when you speak, smile slightly, keep your eyes firm, and don't feel timid.

Ignore those who talk about the labor system.

People always bully the weak and fear the hard, and talk to people with good temper. They always look like high jumpers.

In the face of such a person, you can either fight back and make the other person feel that you are not easy to mess with. Or simply ignore her, and she will slowly shut up if she has more times.

Show your attitude at an appropriate time and let the other person know that you are not a bully. With principles, bottom line, brand spirit and edge, life can be relaxed.

4. Be kind, but sharp.

The writer Liu Tong once shared a story. When I was a child, I met a beggar on the roadside and gave him his fifty cents pocket money. But the beggar pointed to the "five-yuan" bill in the other hand and said loudly, why don't you give me that one? The child didn't feel embarrassed, just reached out and took back the fifty cents he had just put in, and then waved away.

We should have a sense of moral responsibility, but in the face of unworthy people, we must put away these moral feelings and prevent them from "kidnapping". Kindness is your own business, not a requirement for others. Our goodness always has a sharp edge.

5. Learn to hide your emotions

If a person's emotions are displayed on his face, he will lose control too easily. Sometimes you should learn to hide your emotions so that people can't guess what you are thinking. If not, try to keep a straight face.

Speak directly when dealing with people, and don't talk without stuttering. Speak in a flat tone, neither too fast nor too slow.

Self-confidence is the premise of making yourself "annoying". Walk with your head held high, speak with a firm voice and a natural expression. Never underestimate yourself and tell yourself, "You are the most special".

Kindness is very precious, but kindness without teeth is weakness, which will only make others more unscrupulous, more forbearing and cowardly, and will only make others push their luck.

When you set your own bottom line and principles, you should lose your temper when you should, refuse when you should, and be tough when you are tough, others will respect and cherish you more.

Be a tough guy. If you give me a foot, I will give you a stick. Being a man for the first time, why do you always want to make others happy?

A person's real maturity is not living in the evaluation of others, but starting an angular life.