Nursing nurses can’t eat meat at their employer’s house, and they feel like they don’t have enough to eat every day. How can they continue to work?

It is a common problem for nannies to not have enough to eat at their employer’s house. I used to work as a nanny, let’s just talk about the family in Changchun the year before last.

For a job in a housekeeping company, the video interview was successful, so I took the car to her house to check out the situation. There were three people in the house, a baby girl of 20 months, and a 20-month-old girl in her belly. I have a baby in my arms. My job is to eat three meals a day. I take care of the baby girl. There are three people in the family. The dad works hard outside and needs to eat well. The mom is pregnant and needs nutrition even more. The baby girl is growing up. When I was a child, I usually got up early every day to cook for my father, and then cooked for my mother. These meals were all cooked according to what my mother told me the night before. I stayed at their house for twenty-one days. , on New Year’s Day, I didn’t have any dumplings, and I didn’t eat an egg, because the eggs in her house were all eggs brought by Grandpa Bao from his hometown. I found it in the refrigerator, put it on the stove, and then said the same sentence, "Auntie, I and the baby will eat this, you can make it yourself. So I ate potato stewed with cabbage for 21 days at their house. One day There were no potatoes at home, so I took a few vermicelli out of a bundle of vermicelli in the drawer and put them in. Bao’s mother said, those were rice noodles, one serving. I told her that there were no potatoes at home, so I just took out a few vermicelli. Later I I had a toothache, so I drank white rice porridge every day. The pickled mustard, red cubes, and spicy radishes were sitting there in the refrigerator, but I was not allowed to eat them. I couldn't eat any more, so I made some sauce with potatoes and soy sauce, and then I resigned.

I went home to catch up with the epidemic. After the New Year, Bao’s father called me. I was working in a restaurant. Even if I didn’t go to the restaurant, I would not go to her house. It was too mean.

This is the personal experience of my classmate. When she went to work as a nanny at her employer’s house, she really couldn’t eat enough and always felt like her stomach was empty.

My classmate Xiaoying is 47 years old and has found a job as a nanny. She has a baby for more than nine months. The salary is 5,500 yuan. She also has to do housework to take care of the child. The employer’s house is 150 square meters. , in addition to taking care of the baby every day, she also has to clean up 150 square meters for her employer.

She doesn’t care about cooking, Grandma Youbao does it.

Cleaning is all about taking the time to do it. When the child goes to bed, she hurriedly mops the floor, puts away toys, and disinfects the baby's tableware set.

This precious grandma is very good at cooking. Everyone has a bowl of rice for each meal, and she cooks so much every day. When she fills a bowl for the nursery, they themselves eat more than half of the bowl.

The male employer rarely eats at home, while the female employer occasionally goes out to eat specialties by herself. Sometimes the whole family goes out to eat. What they eat at home is simple meals, with very little meat, and only two small stir-fries for each meal. A plate of green vegetables, but before the nursery teacher had enough time, everyone had finished eating, and there were barely a few bites of the vegetables left!

Grandma Bao said: Just eat everything you can! I was embarrassed to make it for her. She seemed to be a good eater, but in fact she had just eaten a few bites.

Why does the employer eat so little? The reason why I'm not hungry is because I always eat all kinds of snacks. It's my own home. I can eat whatever I like and whatever I want.

The nanny is miserable! With her children unable to leave and no time to go shopping, all she can eat is the food. Can she be the same as her employer? People are eighty percent full after eating snacks, so it’s okay not to eat!

If people don’t cook meat dishes, they go out to have a big meal, so it’s not a shame, but a nanny can’t do that! Apart from the dinner at her employer's house, she didn't have any snacks, and she couldn't eat a big meal. How could she not be hungry? A vicious cycle, never reaching the bottom, always in a state of hunger...

She took the time to secretly tell us that we would not let her do it anymore, and asked her to resign as soon as possible and find a good home. , she said that she didn’t want to bother all the time, so she would go to the supermarket to buy some crispy sausage, bread, milk and so on when she had time. If she was hungry, she would eat something every day. Two or three hundred a month would be enough.

We classmates said, if you can still persist, just do it first! If it doesn't work, come back! There is plenty to live for.

She gritted her teeth and worked for a month and a half, but she still gave up! Lost twelve pounds.

Why don’t you do it anymore? The employer couldn't see that she was idle and had finished everything. Within half an hour of sitting down, Grandma Bao sent Dabao to ask her to work. If there was no work, she would find some work for her, for fear that she would be left alone.

It’s okay if she doesn’t have enough to eat every day! You always look like a criminal, so leave as soon as possible!

The family before her had already had more than a dozen nannies! She has been working for a long time, this is what the housekeeping company said.

When she finally quit, the company called her and asked her to go back, offering her a 500-yuan raise.

She said she would never go back! Without freedom, my heart is too tired! I was exhausted both physically and mentally, and lost more than ten pounds.

I have also been a service worker in the housekeeping industry for nearly ten years, and I mainly do housework 24 hours a day. I have also experienced this problem myself. I resigned decisively after working for my employer for 2 months! There is no reason to continue. The nanny is very tired taking care of the children every day. If she doesn't eat meat, she won't have the strength to take care of the children. I don’t know which city the questioner works as a nanny. But the salary of 5,500 in Beijing is too low! The salary of junior nanny also reaches the level of 6,500 for 26 days. If you don't eat well or sleep well at your employer's house, the quality of your work will definitely not be good. Working from home is actually not that easy. Especially when taking care of a baby, you have to watch them all the time. When the baby is asleep, the aunt has to wash and rinse the baby, and sometimes she also does some housework. How can you have the strength to do anything if you don’t eat enough? What is there to miss about such a stingy family? Many of the employer's faults are caused by the aunt's habit. Learn to fight for the benefits you deserve. How can you be in the mood to take care of your baby when you are hungry every day?

Let’s talk about the client I once served. They are twin siblings who are almost one year old. There was a nanny at home when I went. I went there to do housework and help take care of the children. The child’s grandma is in charge, and she also decides on the video interview. When she first went there, she had meat to eat. After she returned to Shenzhen and left her daughter's house. The house has changed! The Northeastern uncle is so stubborn that he eats a large plate of meat and a plate of salad every meal without eating any staple food. Another aunt and I had a plate of fried vegetables and a bowl of rice each. When they took us out for lunch, their family of four ordered nearly two-thirds of the dishes on the table. The aunt and I each had a small bowl of rice, two cabbage heads each, and four pieces of chicken. After lunch, it feels like I haven’t eaten at all. None of us were embarrassed to say we were not full. As aunties, we don’t need to eat well. At least we should have enough food so that we have the strength to work! Therefore, I decided to resign decisively after comprehensive consideration. He resigned from her house and went to work at another client's house. His salary was increased by 1,000, and he was a full-time cook.

As an aunt, don’t just look at the immediate benefits, and change if you don’t like it. Sooner or later you will meet the right one. People move living trees and dead trees. Changing houses is not necessarily a bad thing. Finally, I hope that all the sisters who are engaged in the housekeeping industry will go smoothly and make a lot of money. [Struggle][Struggle][Struggle][Struggle][Struggle]

It’s better not to stay in a family that is too mean. One summer vacation when I was in junior high school, my cousin from the city went back to the village to visit my parents' house. She saw me helping my parents with cooking, washing, feeding pigs, chickens and other household chores. She thought that I was diligent and quick at work, so she proposed to take me with her. I went to her house to help her babysit a child during the summer vacation. Her child was six years old and there were no elderly people to help her. Her cousins ??were at work and she was worried about the child being alone at home. My parents thought it was not a big deal for me to accompany their children and do housework. They happened to go to the city to see the world, so they asked me if I wanted to go. I happily agreed with my longing for a big city, and then followed my instructions. I went to her house.

At my cousin’s house, I get up at six o’clock every morning to make breakfast. I usually boil eggs to make porridge, or noodles and eggs. One morning, I boiled four eggs as usual, and my cousin asked me what do you cook? Why so many eggs? I heard what he meant immediately and felt very embarrassed. My face was so hot that I lowered my head and didn’t dare to look up the whole meal. I didn’t even go to get the egg. Over the next month or so, I would We only boiled three eggs, and each of them took one naturally, while I drank porridge and ate pickles.

Another time, in the morning, my cousin brought out three boxes of milk and asked me to heat it up. After setting out the three bowls of milk, I heated up the leftover milk from the morning before and poured myself a bowl. I went to the kitchen to get it. When I got the things back, I saw my cousin pouring my bowl of soy milk into my cousin's bowl. I said stupidly, "That's soy milk. How can I mix it with milk?" My cousin smiled awkwardly.

Through these two things, I didn’t dare to eat anything during the summer vacation at my cousin’s house. Before school started, my cousin sent me home and bought me a set of clothes and a bag of her old clothes. My parents asked me where I had been to play and I said I hadn’t gone anywhere. When they went out to play, they always asked me to clean up at home and then cook for them to eat when they got home. Because about going to my cousin’s house, my parents directly told her about it. Cutting off contact with each other also left me with the root problem of not liking to visit relatives in other people's homes

I was really touched by this question. In fact, most people who work as nannies don't have enough to eat. It's not that others don't let them eat, but that they don't dare to eat. People are doing mental work, so they will be full after eating a little, but we nannies have to work, so eating two bowls may not be enough. I don’t dare to eat too much food because I don’t know how much is appropriate.

Speak for myself.

I used to babysit for someone. The hostess was very nice, but I was a little afraid of her mother-in-law. Because their family doesn't eat breakfast in the morning. The hostess's husband comes home once a week. The hostess's breakfast is an apple, three dates, and three walnuts. She takes it and leaves. Her mother-in-law and I were the only two people left at home. Her mother-in-law didn't eat breakfast either. She only had a cup of honey, some bread, and some milk in the morning. I am alone. When I get up in the morning, I have to clean the two floors. I also have to cook and bathe the children. I have to take the children out before ten o'clock. I feel very busy, so I make a small steamed bun and drink some warm water in the morning.

I look forward to the hostess coming back at noon every day, so that I can have a full meal when she comes home. He is from Xinjiang and his food is particularly delicious. When she comes back, she will have three dishes and a soup for lunch. When we were eating, the hostess saw that I didn't dare to eat, so she picked up the plate and poured half of the food into my bowl. She told me that I could eat everything in her house and let me eat whatever I wanted. But the hostess is always away from home. She is a leader and very busy! Travel frequently. If the heroine is not at home, I will be miserable. I took the kids out, and her mother-in-law cooked. She also had lunch, some steamed buns and some shredded cucumbers. Their family has a lot of fruits, including loquats and cherries. Others gave away four boxes of them, as well as apples. The bagger didn’t like it, so they threw the whole bag into the trash can. She ate 80 to 90 fruits, all red. It's like being picked fresh from the tree, so fresh. His husband always picks up several boxes when he comes home. I emptied the trash can even when I couldn't eat, and the old lady never gave me even a polite word. The hostess, on the other hand, said that you can eat all the fruits in my house. If you don’t eat them, they will be thrown away. There are also vegetables. Their family doesn’t eat overnight vegetables, and if they don’t eat or play, they will be thrown away. Do you don’t want to eat it or don’t dare to eat it? Tell me the truth! Whenever the hostess said this to me, her mother-in-law would say nothing, and I didn't know how to reply, so I didn't speak.

To be honest, when I was at her house, I really wanted to eat a bowl of tomato and egg noodles or a large plate of chicken. I wanted to go out to buy some, but there was no chance. The child had to work when he was asleep. Take her out. Therefore, I always feel terribly dull in my stomach, and I always feel that there is something missing. Every time I get home, I buy a big bag of what I can’t usually eat, and eat a lot of it, but one meal won’t fill me for a week! I couldn't eat enough every day and I got angry. Eventually, I had nosebleeds, dry lips and cracks. I couldn't go to the toilet for several days. It was so painful that I felt like I couldn't hold on any longer. But every time I faced the hostess's sincere eyes, I swallowed the words "I quit." What's terrible is that every time she comes back from a business trip, she buys me clothes, and I feel more and more like I owe her a favor.

One day, my classmate came to see me and bought me a twenty-dollar banana. I put it on the kitchen table. Her daughter happened to be here that day, and the old lady sat there with her daughter. I ate bananas and took away all the rest when I left. I was very angry. When the hostess came back, I told her that I had something to do at home and quit.

The hostess was very surprised and asked me why. Was it because the work was too tiring, the salary was too low, or because her mother-in-law said everything was negotiable. I didn't say anything, and she bought me new clothes and a She put her makeup bag on the bed and left her home.

Half a year later, she called me twice and said that the child’s grandma had returned to her hometown and that the child and I were the only ones at home. She handed over the house to me and gave me an extra five hundred yuan. Didn’t go. Because I met a better employer.

I have worked as a nanny a lot, and I have gained experience. When you go to work at an employer’s house, you must have a separate place to sleep. If you can’t eat well, you can buy some fruit or bread to sweeten your stomach. Otherwise, it will continue like this. The body really cannot bear it.

I also started working in this industry because the wages in small cities were higher. Until I met a strange rural family who hired a confinement nanny, I never had the courage to enter this industry again!

At first I was a confinement nanny, and I took on two jobs that only took care of the confinement during the day, which cost 3,500 for 26 days. Later, a sister suggested that I take a 24-hour job, which was almost 7,000. I thought to myself why I couldn't do it for a month, so I took the job.

A few days after I started working, I received a call from my employer, saying that she had given birth to a baby and asked me to come over and take care of the baby. Then I went quickly.

After arriving, let’s talk about the specific situation first. The male owner was about 35 years old, divorced, and had a son, who was also in the hospital at the time and was seven or eight years old.

The male host’s mother is also there. She is about 60 years old. She looks quite old. At first glance, she looks like a rural aunt. He has a bad mouth and always talks endlessly.

The hostess is probably in her early 20s, 10 years or more younger than the male host. The man's family would not dare to offend the girl, so when he lost his temper, he would endure it.

As soon as I arrived, the old lady said to me: "Auntie is here." When I heard that, I felt a little uncomfortable. You are over 60, so you call me auntie. I just smiled and said, just call me Xiao Wang.

The aunt handed the child to me and said, "Now that you are here, you can hold it." I muttered something casually, asking a confinement nanny for seven or eight thousand a month. I really don’t know why I hired her.

I didn’t answer her words. He quickly went to hold the child. After holding the baby for a while, he cried, and then he carried it to feed the baby. The newborn baby fell asleep after eating.

So, I picked up the diaper and washed it. After washing the diapers and returning home, the child still hadn't woken up. After drying the diapers, I hadn't sat down yet.

The baby’s mother said, Ouch, why do I feel a little sore in my waist? Can you rub it for me? I went over and helped her rub it. Sometimes she said it hurt here, and sometimes she said it was sore there. I helped her rub it for more than half an hour.

Later, when the baby woke up and peed, I started changing the diaper again, holding the baby in my arms, and then put the baby in my mother's arms. After eating, I burped the baby and put her to sleep again.

I originally thought I could sit down and take a rest this time. I have been busy all morning and noon, and I haven’t even touched the edge of the stool.

What I didn’t expect was that the child’s grandma spoke again and asked me to play with the older child for a while. The little one just happened to be asleep, the diapers were washed, and I had nothing to do.

At this time, I felt a little disgusted. Although you hired me, you can't boss people around like this. Even if you go to work, don’t you have to take a lunch break?

But this was only the first day, so I didn’t care and just played with the big one for a while. When the little one wakes up, he starts to hold the little one again. The day passed like this.

At night, there was no resting place in the hospital, so I had no choice but to lie down on a stool. Here’s the key point. When the child grunts twice in the night, the aunt immediately calls me, “Go and see what’s wrong with the child.” If not, just pick her up and coax her.

Occasionally, my mother would say that her waist was uncomfortable, and she would ask me to squeeze it twice. In this way, I couldn't get much rest all night long. I feel like my legs are a little weak.

The second day was the same as the first day. They basically didn’t let me sit down. They were afraid that if I sat down, they would suffer a loss if they hired me. However, I feel sorry for you, but I am also a human being, and I also need proper rest.

After persisting for a whole morning, I tried to relieve my headache. I decided not to do it, so I called the sister who introduced me to the job and asked her to find someone else.

I picked up my things and left without looking back. I really don't want to stay any longer. It is said that the sister who came later had a quarrel with the aunt. Because she was the senior one, she made it clear that she was also a human being and needed to rest.

The aunt said, if you want to have a good rest, why do you come out to wait on others? Wouldn't it be nice if you had a good rest at home?

After working for half a month, this sister couldn’t do it anymore. Alas, when meeting such a person, one is really speechless. I feel that I have paid for it, and it is not enough for you to be a cow and a horse.

And I also felt that this job was not easy to do, and I have never done this again.

When I saw this topic, I felt the need to speak out.

I am a live-in nanny. I am very busy at my employer’s home 24 hours a day, doing laundry, cooking and cleaning for them. This year, I am working as a nanny for a family named Liu in Ningbo. Their home is a villa. The owner’s family of five does not eat meat, but they like to eat seafood and vegetables. I could not eat at their house for ten and a half days. Pork, and I like eating meat very much, whether it’s four-legged animal meat or two-legged poultry, but I don’t like seafood. At my employer’s house, I can’t eat meat dishes, even I couldn't even eat lard, so I had to think of ways to improve my food: when I went home on my days off, I would order a few meat dishes, braised pork, fried chicken, stewed duck, etc. at a fast food restaurant, and they were all eaten by me. Everything is gone like a storm. On the eve of going back to work: I will cook the meat, put it in a box, and take it to my employer’s house to eat slowly. However, I have never been restricted from eating at my employer's house.

In view of your situation, you can try to communicate with your employer, or you can change the food conditions like me. If you still can't stand it, I suggest you leave your job directly.

This reminds me of a former colleague of my best friend. She hired a nanny to take care of her baby. The nanny had two meals at her house every day and went home to eat at night. This colleague was so stingy that when the nanny was there during the day, she would only eat porridge or noodles, and only two vegetarian dishes. After the nanny went back, she asked her husband to come back from get off work and buy some fruit snacks and meat dishes. When taking out the trash, I found peels and bones in the trash can. As time went by, the nanny became unhappy. The key point was that they seemed to be related. The nanny resigned angrily. When she resigned, she said that the nanny did not go to work one day (actually she was at home that day and did not ask the nanny to come) and deducted one day's salary from the nanny. It is said that when they were hired, they said they would be paid monthly. At that time, everyone hired nannies on a monthly basis. If the nanny did not come to work due to the employer's own reasons, the salary would not be deducted. As a result, the nanny was angered and not only talked about it everywhere in the workplace, but also spread it among relatives. There was an uproar. The impact is extremely bad.

Actually, I think nannies don’t need to care too much. If the employer’s lifestyle is vegetarian, then they can buy whatever they want. If the employer does not have food restrictions but is unwilling to feed the nanny, then you can consider resigning. But I still believe that most employers will not be so picky.

When my mother-in-law was working as a nanny, she met an old lady who was stingy. He was delayed in working and no longer hungry.

Around 2012, my mother-in-law was working as a nanny in Beijing.

At that time, I was serving an old lady who was about 70 years old. Her monthly salary was 3,000 yuan, including food and accommodation.

My mother-in-law was already in her 50s at that time, and the salary was quite attractive to her.

Therefore, she worked extra hard and did not want to lose her job.

The old lady I took care of had no physical problems, but she had some signs of Alzheimer's disease and she was very nagging.

I heard from my mother-in-law that whenever she saw the old lady, she never stopped talking.

When the old lady was young, she was a very powerful manager and a strong woman. She never bowed her head to anyone.

She has raised 5 daughters and has no sons. When she was young, she received a lot of looks from her husband’s family.

Fortunately, her five daughters are very successful and all have a promising future. Two of them have taken root in the United States and one has settled in Canada.

Only the eldest daughter and the younger daughter are in the country, but the younger daughter’s marriage was not going well and she was divorced several times. In her last marriage, she met a domestic violence man who beat her until she became disabled. My daughter was worried that she would have no hope after divorce, so she stayed in the marriage and waited for her children to grow up.

In order to give her younger daughter a status in her husband's family, the old lady gave her hundreds of thousands of savings intermittently to her younger daughter to use for living expenses.

After the other daughters found out, they all felt that the old lady was partial, and their relationship with her became increasingly bad.

Only the old lady’s eldest daughter doesn’t care about this, and since the eldest daughter is also in Beijing, she often goes back to the old lady’s house to stay with her.

Originally, the old lady’s eldest daughter wanted the old lady to live in her own home, but the old lady was unwilling. She was worried that after going to the eldest daughter’s home, the eldest son-in-law would ask her to transfer the property in her name. Transfer the old house to my eldest daughter.

Moreover, the old lady is unwilling to go to a nursing home and insists on living alone.

The eldest daughter had no choice but to visit her at home after work.

Ever since the old lady fell down at home and forgot to turn off the gas, the eldest daughter no longer trusts the old lady living alone.

So the eldest daughter began to look for a nanny everywhere.

The old lady had too many things to do. Before my mother-in-law went there, six nannies had left her house.

My mother-in-law is the 7th.

At that time, my mother-in-law was interested in the salary offered by the old lady’s eldest daughter. She had never received a monthly salary of 3,000 including food and accommodation.

When taking my mother-in-law to her home, the old lady’s eldest daughter told my mother-in-law about the old lady’s situation.

She repeatedly told my mother-in-law that the old lady had a lot of things to do and her words were difficult to hear, so she should be mentally prepared.

She also said that if she feels unbearable, she can call her and she will communicate with the old lady and try not to resign.

My mother-in-law has been a nanny for many years and has met various employers. She is very confident that she can take good care of the old lady.

As a result, on the first day I arrived at her house, the old lady threatened my mother-in-law.

My mother-in-law followed her eldest daughter’s request and entered the room wearing a pair of slippers.

When the old lady saw it, she exclaimed: Yeah! Aren't those my new slippers? Why are you wearing it?

My mother-in-law was startled, and the old lady’s eldest daughter quickly said to her: Mom, didn’t I tell you? I bought this specially for my aunt!

The old lady rolled her eyes and looked sideways at my mother-in-law.

After the old lady’s eldest daughter settled my mother-in-law, she left.

Then after the old lady saw her daughter leaving, she immediately took out a plastic bag from the cabinet and took out a pair of disposable slippers and asked my mother-in-law to put them on, saying that the nanny at her house could only wear them once. Sex slippers.

My mother-in-law doesn’t care either. Rural people don’t care about this and it doesn’t matter what they wear.

When cooking, the old lady asked my mother-in-law to count the noodles when she ordered them. Each of them had 20 noodles, no more, no less.

My mother-in-law said at that time: Sister, we have a large appetite in rural areas. I eat a large porcelain bowl at one time, which is probably about 100 sticks.

The old lady rolled her eyes and said nothing. Seeing this scene, my mother-in-law had no choice but to do as she asked.

Later I discovered that no matter what kind of food she cooked, the old lady always made such weird requests.

When cutting meat, you need to count the number of slices and meet the thickness she requires.

There is a bathroom in her house, but she is not allowed to use it. Every time in the evening, she asks my mother-in-law to bring her a small urine bucket in the house.

Then the next morning, she had to pour it out specifically for her, and she couldn’t pour it into the bathroom. She had to go to a public toilet outside to pour it out.

My mother-in-law is a little dissatisfied and wants to tell the old lady’s eldest daughter, but she feels that it will not be easy for her eldest daughter, and the salary is not bad. What if after telling her, she will be asked to find another job? Woolen cloth?

Therefore, my mother-in-law endured this silently.

Everything else is bearable. The only thing I can’t stand is not having enough to eat. I often feel hungry in the middle of the night and have stomachaches.

After a few days, my mother-in-law felt she couldn't bear it anymore and was unwilling to give up the job.

So, she thought of a way to go to the supermarket and buy a lot of snacks at her own expense and put them in the room.

After the old lady went to bed at night, she would eat some snacks in the room.

She knew that the old lady could hear the sound of her eating, and she could even feel that the old lady would come outside her room and eavesdrop from time to time.

One night, she felt that the old lady was tiptoeing out of the room again, so she deliberately called my father-in-law.

She also deliberately suppressed her voice, but at a loud volume, and told my father-in-law: The eldest daughter of this family said that if I still don’t have enough to eat every day, then I will be given a subsidy to buy snacks. Money, snacks here are much more expensive than meals!

The old lady must have heard this, so she asked my mother-in-law to cook more food the next day, and even let her eat as much as she wanted.

In this way, the two people lived in peace and harmony for several months.

Although the old lady still has a bad face every day, my mother-in-law will smile at her when she sees her.

Every time when the old lady’s eldest daughter goes there, my mother-in-law likes to praise the old lady in front of her eldest daughter, but never complains about the old lady’s behavior in front of her eldest daughter.

After doing this for about half a year, the old lady’s attitude towards my mother-in-law became better and better.

However, the old lady’s symptoms of Alzheimer’s disease gradually became apparent, and she began to like to run downstairs. Even my mother-in-law couldn’t catch up.

There was no way. My mother-in-law was afraid that if she continued to take care of her, if something unexpected happened like getting lost, she told her eldest daughter her worries.

The old lady’s eldest daughter coaxed and tricked the old lady into moving to her own home.

She originally wanted my mother-in-law to follow her and continue to take care of the old lady, because the old lady only recognized my mother-in-law.

But my father-in-law wanted to go back to his hometown to deal with things in his hometown. He was worried about my mother-in-law being alone in Beijing, so he asked her to go back to her hometown with her.

The day I left the old lady’s house, the old lady seemed to know that my mother-in-law would no longer be with her. She kept crying like a child.

My mother-in-law is still very emotional when I mention that old lady. She said that everyone who speaks and behaves differently from ordinary people must have certain reasons, but no one is willing to delve into these reasons, nor People are willing to approach them patiently, which causes those abnormal situations to continue.

It has been almost 10 years now. I wonder if that old lady is still alive? Back to the topic, if the nanny is not willing to pay enough to eat at the employer's house, you can use the following methods:

First, communicate directly with the employer. Employers who are willing to pay a decent salary should I don’t care too much about the small matter of eating. It may be that my employer has a small appetite and mistakenly thinks that other people have the same appetite as him.

Second, if you don’t want to tell your employer about this directly, you can also learn from my mother-in-law’s approach and just buy some things to put in your room, and eat to fill your stomach after work.

Third, mention this matter to someone in the employer’s family who is relatively easy to talk to, because the employer may be in a sensitive period after childbirth and is not emotionally stable, so it will be easier to communicate with other people in the family. Much more convenient.

Fourth, if there is really no other way, you can also propose to the employer the idea of ??eating more and deducting wages appropriately. This is also an indirect way of raising your own needs. Generally speaking, no employer will pay attention to a nanny. If you eat too much, your salary will be deducted.

In short, when you encounter a problem, you must find a way to solve it, and try not to resign. If every method doesn't work, and you really can't stand this hunger, it's not too late to leave. .

Do you think my suggestion is appropriate? Is there a better way?

This is a bit too much. Eating only vegetables every day, this family is either an extreme vegetarian or poor. I really don’t understand why we hired a nanny. If she feels that the salary of 5,500 yuan is not low, she can bring a steamed bun to eat, and she will be full.