"Nephew dog, eat and leave", the reason behind the child's resistance to grandma's house is very helpless.

In the family of the older generation, there are many children, but when they grow up, they have less contact. In addition to the weakness of family ties, it is more important that the hub between brothers and sisters is gone. When the old man was alive, his favorite scene was "full house of children and grandchildren". When the children and grandchildren are all around their knees, there is a whisper: "nephew dog, eat and leave."

Lingling's mother gave birth to four children. When she was a child, her family was poor, and her brothers and sisters always hid their eyes to grab food. But when I grow up, I have a good relationship, but I don't keep in touch much after I get married.

Lingling is the third child, with a second brother above and an elder sister and a younger brother below. Needless to say, my brother is in this family. Before my brother was born, Lingling was the most favored.

Every Spring Festival and Mid-Autumn Festival, this big family will get together. No, Lingling has lived with her 8-year-old son in her parents' home for one month this year.

My sister-in-law who lives with my parents quit, and her words are always full of guns. And my son is always clamoring to go back to grandma's house.

Before coming to his grandparents' house, my son happily told his mother that he would go to his grandmother's house to find his neighbor's little brother to play with. Lingling asked her son, "Didn't you say you would play here for three months? Why are you going back to grandma's house?

My son curled his lips and said, "My aunt always calls me a dog, and so does my nephew!"!

Lingling paused when her son said this, and then calmed the child and said, this is just a joke with you! But the son doesn't understand.

At noon, at the dinner table, my sister-in-law said, "Third Sister, when are you leaving? All the neighbors asked me if you were divorced. " ?

Lingling asked, "This is my mother's house. I can stay as long as I want. It's none of your business. " .

Sister-in-law didn't ask Lingling's question, but said to Lingling's mother, "Mom, people say nephew dog, nephew dog, and then leave." You should be careful, don't be fooled by children, he is here to cheat food and drink! "

Before Lingling's mother could speak, Lingling was anxious and said, "Your son is the dog. Can you talk? You are really an adult. "

At some point, Lingling and her sister-in-law quarreled. Lingling's son was frightened. Lingling, who watched her son cry, grabbed her son and went out.

After arriving outside the door, the son wiped his tears and said to Lingling, "Mom, I will never come to my grandmother's house again." Hearing her son say this, Lingling felt bad, but she didn't take her son seriously. She just casually replied and left her family with her son.

A year later, during the Spring Festival, Lingling took her children back to her grandmother's house, but her son refused. The son said, "They don't like me, so I don't want to go?"

I believe many people have heard of the word "nephew dog", especially children. Children who know something think this sentence is not a good word. Therefore, when elders say this to children, children always think that elders don't like children, so they don't want to go to grandma's house.

But in addition to the child's incomprehension, these three reasons are also the reasons why the child resists going to grandma's house, which is really helpless.

1, grandma is strict

Compared with grandma's spoil, grandma is actually very strict with her baby, especially when educating her children, she always says "Be considerate of her mother", "Look at how hard her mother is, you should be obedient" and so on.

This kind of education can easily disgust children. Therefore, children stay at grandma's house for a long time, and when they hear grandma say so, they will be reluctant to go to grandma's house.

2. Not much contact

Because many women are married away from home, grandma has little contact with her children. It is also for this reason that many children are not so close to their grandmothers. At grandma's house, she is as uncomfortable as a guest.

3, can't let go

In grandma's house, children have a natural sense of bondage, especially when grandma's own grandson is around, and the grandson can't get grandma's love.

This makes it unbearable for children who have been spoiled since childhood, so they will also resist going to grandma's house.

Sure! This is the status quo of the older generation of children. They all have a natural aversion and resistance to going to grandma's house.

This data is enough to prove that in today's family, grandma is the main force to take care of the baby. But sadly, because of the concept of "my nephew's dog, eat it and leave", families with brothers and sisters label their nephews and nieces as "dogs"

So when grandma's elders say "nephew dog", most children resist going to grandma's house, and two-thirds of the children who are willing to go are brought up by grandma. 1/3 is caused by no grandma.

There may be a lot to learn from the old saying, but whether the old saying is applicable in today's life still needs to be measured by the family themselves.

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