How to treat "people should reject redundant interpersonal relationships, especially old classmates and former colleagues"?

Relatives always walk around before kissing, let alone friends, classmates and colleagues. We live in this society, and emotions need to be communicated. You can also get a lot of useful information from relatives and friends. A hero has three gangs. Therefore, we should go when it is time to go and contact when it is time to contact.

With the increase of age and the time to enter the society, everyone will meet many people. Classmates, comrades-in-arms, old and new colleagues, people who come together because of a hobby ... Our parents should be filial and should visit them often and spend more time with the elderly; Brothers and sisters should contact more and take time to get together to contact feelings; Colleagues who are close to the unit get together occasionally to communicate and make the work more complete; A few friends who get along well together, get together once in a while and exchange emotions, can also make themselves happy and become better.

However, human energy and time are limited. We still have to spend most of our time taking care of our families, accompanying our partners and taking care of our children. Other social activities, it is better to go as little as possible.

The longer you graduate from school, the different occupations, environments and status of your classmates, and most of your classmates will have less and less common topics. My former colleagues don't have much in common because of the changes in the industry and the different nature of their work. So it's better to have fewer parties. Of course, communication is developed now, and greetings are exchanged in communication tools such as WeChat and QQ during the Chinese New Year holidays to maintain the past friendship. It is human nature for classmates and friends to lend a helping hand when they are in trouble.

I don't think it's a rejection of interpersonal relationships. But nobody likes socializing. For example, as an activity to maintain interpersonal relationships, at the beginning of the class reunion, everyone was still very willing to attend, because it had been a long time since we had seen each other, and we were very close to each other to catch up. But those things in the student period, just talk about it. You can't say the same thing several times. Besides, after graduation, we all work in various fields, and relatively few people speak the same language. In fact, students who used to have a good relationship have a good relationship after the party. Students who seldom communicate before still seldom communicate after the party.

All relationships are there. If my classmates or old colleagues beg me to do things, I also have that ability. I will try my best to help them whether they leave or not. So I don't think the relationship needs to be maintained. It's hard for me to find them. I'm sure they'll do their best. You can also say that. People who are willing to help you will help you if they don't walk around at ordinary times. People who don't want to help you will not help you if you associate with them again.

Glad to answer you.

Whether people refuse redundant interpersonal relationships, especially old classmates and former colleagues, I don't recommend refusing, but it can vary from person to person.

It varies from person to person. Some people are mean, evil-minded, and so on. They can refuse to socialize. Some people may be your nobles or people who can help you in the future. Think for yourself. I am Qian Hui in my dream, and I hope I can help you.

Seeing this problem, I roughly calculated my own small circle. There are 100 people, old classmates and colleagues, comrades-in-arms in the army together, and some friends I have made. Most people greet each other with a nod, and few people are worth making friends with. So I still agree with this statement. 1, classmates and colleagues

In my interpersonal circle, such people account for the most, and there is not much friendship. Meeting occasionally is just a few simple greetings. If it is use value, it is zero. Even if there are some parties, I hardly attend them. It always doesn't make sense. What I said was against my will, or it was a big talk. Personally speaking, I don't like people on such occasions.

2. Friends and comrades-in-arms

Some of these people are more important to me, and some have deep friendship. If something happens, they can really help you or give you some reasonable suggestions. They are close to each other and know each other well. This kind of people is also a topic in my circle.

After careful consideration, I feel that my classmates and colleagues can completely ignore this part, which is really unnecessary. It is better to simply live. I wonder if you have any good suggestions. Welcome everyone to leave a comment. Seriously, people should learn (reject) old classmates and colleagues. If they really have a good time and can keep in touch, they are afraid to get married and have children without contact for eight years. Don't be such friends.

As the saying goes, a fence has three piles, and a hero has three gangs. It can be seen that only by making more friends and developing more interpersonal relationships can we have more roads to go and go more smoothly.

In my opinion, there is no redundancy in interpersonal relationships, only how much. So I don't agree with this view that people, especially old classmates and former colleagues, should reject redundant interpersonal relationships.

Next, I'd better nag you again:

First, friends have many roads. It is better for one friend to take one road and many friends to take many roads. Comparing friends to roads is the most vivid.

Walking in the world, people will inevitably encounter all kinds of setbacks and difficulties. Some can solve it by themselves, while others have to ask their friends for help. Friends help you, just like providing and guiding you a new way, telling you to bypass the "jam", jump out of the "dilemma" and continue to move forward in twists and turns.

If you have no friends, you are likely to struggle, struggle and suffer in this unique way. Even if you rack your brains and do your best, it is difficult to climb out of the predicament and drill out the dark clouds.

If more than one friend helps you, it will provide you with many roads. If this doesn't fit, choose that one. There is always one that can suit you and help you get out of trouble as soon as possible.

Second, make new friends, don't forget the lyrics of old classmates and former colleagues: "Make new friends, don't forget old friends. How many new friends become old friends. The sky is thick, the mountains are high, and the water flows. May we have good friends everywhere. "

Old classmates, former colleagues, these are your old friends. These people, who have been with you for many years, will share joys and sorrows. I think you will know me very well. More importantly, the feelings with these people are not developed once or twice, but accumulated over the years, with a solid foundation, high credibility and thick feelings.

Therefore, the relationship with these old friends is not only unnecessary, but also very precious, rare and crucial. When they need you, they must be sincere, enthusiastic and generous, just like the lyrics say "May our good friends be everywhere".

Rejecting old friends is not only mutual affection, but also exposes your shortsightedness and ruthlessness, old classmates and former colleagues. Your relationship and feelings with these people are by no means comparable to others. They are all slowly cultivated over the years, solid and sincere.

If you think that these people are all from the past, they are all old and have lost the value of use, then you are all wet. You are short-sighted and only see the immediate interests, but forget the kindness and benefits of yesterday, exposing your ungrateful and heartless side.

Fourth, things are unpredictable. Some friends who don't often use it are not sure. The fundamental intention of making friends one day is to get generous and selfless help from friends at critical moments and crisis times. Simply put, it is "useful".

According to this, some people will secretly stipulate that making friends must depend on whether the other person can be useful to them, and pay for it, otherwise it will be ignored.

Is this a good guiding ideology? In the immediate and short term, it is good, but in the big and long term, it is not good.

Because things are unpredictable, we can't predict what will happen in the next second, what we will encounter, and which friends we will turn to for help. Therefore, what we can do is to make more friends, especially those sincere friends who share the same feelings and views.

Some friends seem useless, or haven't contacted for months or even years, but they may have to ask for help tomorrow.

Summary: There are many friends and many roads. Old friends, such as old classmates and former colleagues, seem to be "outdated" and useless, but they are not. Their relationship and feelings are not only the most solid and stable, but also the most sincere and reliable. They can stand the baptism of wind and rain and the test of time. We must cherish and attach importance to them.

Interpersonal relationship is to use each other, but don't overdo it, don't calculate others, don't force others, and don't cheat. Get along with a period of time can see the essence of a person, it is best to stay away from some garbage people, whether classmates or colleagues.

There is no choice but to quit the group! It's torture. Why do those half-dead women who have become Chinese aunts feel that male students are still paying attention to themselves? You can't even run! That's disgusting. Quit the group.

It is obviously wrong to reject redundant interpersonal relationships, and the author does not recognize it. As the saying goes, many friends, many people and many fortunes. This is true, it is a summary of real life and many past experiences.

So, why is there such an argument? There may be the following main reasons.

First, I may have many holidays with my old classmates and colleagues and get along badly. This is mainly because the thought of choking to death and being bitten by a snake for ten years is at work, and I think that getting along with them can only bring unhappiness, so I simply refuse this kind of interpersonal relationship. On the contrary, this relationship is a valuable human resource and a rare interpersonal wealth. Not only can we not refuse, but we must vigorously expand and consolidate it. In this case, we can communicate well several times, try to put aside the past, eliminate barriers and make up again.

Second, it is possible to have little contact with old classmates and colleagues, and even if there is contact, it is troublesome. In this case, it is mainly due to the long-term lack of communication, gradual alienation, and ignorance of each other's situation, which leads to mutual vigilance and even malice. Usually, I have a lot of close contact with other friends, which leads to my old classmates and colleagues not thinking as well as other friends.

Third, I may not have a good life myself, and I am far away from my old classmates and colleagues. This kind of thinking is mainly self-distrust and a reflection of inferiority, which is not desirable. Actually, there is no difference between high and low. It is the right way to keep a good attitude, learn from them and constantly enrich and improve yourself.

Therefore, people should keep an optimistic and open-minded attitude, make more friends and deal with people, especially with old classmates and colleagues who have many acquaintances in the past, and learn from them to help build a better life.

I like making friends and being closer to my former colleagues than relatives.