Why do some people say that children are dragons and women are phoenixes?

This is related to the history of our country, our culture and our inheritance. I hope that my son will become a dragon and my daughter a phoenix, which has a historical origin.

Parents of ordinary families, because of the environment, class, personal ability or cognitive ability, are unwilling to live a hard life, work hard, let their children go back to the old road, and let their children have a better future. They would rather be a little bit bitter and tired, support their children to study, pin their hopes on their children, and hope that their children can get ahead and change their own or their family's destiny.

Especially now, the standard to measure a person or a family is not judged by ability, level, accomplishment, education and quality, but more by who has more wealth, who can get more resources and who can speak boldly and confidently on the basis of wealth. The weak at the bottom are also eager to change their destiny

Most parents pin their expectations on their children. One of the main reasons is that parents themselves are not very successful in their careers, including economic situation, social status, educational level and so on.

So many parents don't want their children to make the same mistake and lose at the starting line.

Often they are very stingy with themselves and put the main human, material and financial resources of the family on their children. Of course, if you invest too much, you certainly want to have a better return on output. So naturally, parents have high expectations for their children.

It is understandable that parents want their children to succeed. They all want their children to succeed when they grow up.

You can even honor your ancestors, such as finding a part-time job in the local area or achieving good results in wealth. But everything in the world has its own laws, and so does the growth of children. Parents must not encourage their children by pulling out seedlings and imposing expectations on their children. After all, parents and children are completely different generations. How do parents measure their children's development track according to the previous social evaluation system?

In this huge era, parents may not know more than their children. Or parents' experience may not work in the next few decades. Maybe parents should learn from their children. After all, the future belongs to the younger generation, and young people need constant innovation to promote the continuous development of society.

Finally, I think that as parents, we should tolerate and understand children's thoughts and behaviors with an open mind. Respect their choices. After all, they have grown up and their lives need them to explore, grow and experience. Maybe children and grandchildren have their own children and grandchildren.