What should I do in the low tide of my life? My heart is empty, and there is always a feeling of sadness when the weather turns cold.

Do what you are most interested in. If your career is unsuccessful, try to improve your skills and start with what you are most interested in; Or look for other opportunities for success. Avoid taking certain drugs. Barbiturates, cortisone, sulfonamides and reserpine can cause depression and should be avoided as much as possible.

In addition, eating more foods rich in vitamin B and amino acids, such as cereals, fish, green vegetables and eggs, is also conducive to getting rid of depression.

1, set a practical goal.

This goal should be feasible, that is to say, both external conditions and their own conditions should be met. The initial plan is easier to implement and requires less time and effort. If this process takes too much time and energy, if you are not interested in anything, you are more likely to give up halfway. If you are ready to act enthusiastically as soon as you think of a certain goal, you don't have to look down. You are not the object that this article hopes to help. If you live in an inland province, don't plan to enter DaHai You yet: If you have only swam in the swimming pool, don't plan to cross the Qiongzhou Strait. These goals are too ambitious for you at present.

Now, let's assume that your goal is to learn to swim this summer. Is this goal feasible? Yes, because several of my friends learned to swim in one summer, and they are not sports geniuses; I know there is a swimming pool not far from home, which provides swimming lessons; I have money to go to swimming lessons; I have time this summer.

2. Define your goal accurately.

Only when the goal is clear can we judge whether we have achieved it. Otherwise, you can always say to yourself, "I failed." To regain your confidence in life, you need a successful experience. Therefore, in the process of implementing this kind of behavioral therapy, you should make sure that you will succeed again and again and convince yourself that you can do what you want. So, please define your success criteria accurately.

Learn to swim this summer. When does this summer mean? What kind of swimming? What is learning in breaststroke? You can swim 100 meters without any auxiliary tools. Well, you can check whether your goal has been achieved according to these standards.

3. Divide your action plan into small enough steps to ensure that your plan can be completed.

Make a detailed plan for your goals, and the goals to be achieved in each step of the plan are small enough to ensure that you can achieve them. For example, your first goal may be to determine the time of swimming class. You may scoff at this goal and think it is too easy. But for some people with depression, it is not easy to think of it and do it. Remember, when determining each sub-goal, make sure that you can accomplish it. Every time you accomplish a goal, you win, and every success will gradually increase your confidence. If you set too big a sub-goal, you are bound to fail. Failure again and again will hurt your confidence. Perhaps, after several failures, you will completely lose interest and confidence in this plan, give up halfway and return to the state of doing nothing before. So for friends with severe depression, try to ensure the feasibility of one thing, and then do it in small stages. When completing each small stage, try not to think about the next steps. Devote yourself wholeheartedly to the small goal in front of you, cheer for yourself after completion, and believe that you will be able to complete the overall goal!

4. Define success by your own behavior.

In other words, don't involve other people's behavior in the goal. If your goal is to associate with people, be careful not to make such a goal: to have coffee with Xiao Li after work. The mistake of this goal is that whether this goal can be achieved depends on whether Xiao Li accepts your invitation. You can control your own behavior, but you can't control the behavior of others. So your goal violates the previous principle, and you are not sure whether this goal can be achieved. According to the principle of ensuring success, you can modify your goal like this: invite Xiao Li to have coffee with you after work. You will succeed as long as you make an invitation. As for Xiao Li's reaction, it doesn't matter. Invitation skills are another problem.

Don't add emotional factors to your goals.

In this plan, what matters is doing, not how you feel in the process of doing it. You can control your behavior, but you can't directly control your emotions. In a depressed state, it is difficult for you to get a happy feeling from any activity. Emotion will be affected by behavior, but this effect is not immediate and takes some time. Therefore, if you must be happy for success, then you are likely to fail. Don't set such a goal: "I want to swim happily twice", just "I want to swim twice" is enough. This may backfire, so let it be, because you know that the victory you want lies in the completion of the ultimate goal, so you don't have to feel sorry for the failure in the process, and you don't have to be harsh on your emotions, because if your emotions don't reach your expected goal, it may hinder your next plan! So what you need to do is to strive to achieve every small goal, because every time you achieve a small goal, you are one step closer to the final goal!