What if children love to lose their temper and throw things?

Although children often throw things around and make the house messy, most of the time parents don't need to stop their children from throwing things to vent their anger or doing things that hurt others because of their temper.

Parents should focus on "what to let their children throw", such as providing children with toys to throw, which not only satisfies their curiosity and desire for experience, but also controls what to throw within the acceptable range of parents.

1, substitute for children

When parents want to stop their children from throwing inappropriate things, they can provide substitutes for their children to throw ball toys such as children's basketball and bowling.

For example, children are throwing books out of the picture book shelf one by one. At this time, parents should calmly take the book away from their children and tell them: "Books are not for throwing, but for reading, and balls are ok." Then give the child a ball to play with.

Parents can also play ball with their children and compete with him to see who throws the ball into the empty carton first.

What parents want to convey here is that as long as the right things are thrown in the right place at the right time, there is no problem in throwing things. And if you master enough skills, throwing things will become more interesting.

In this process, parents need to repeat and remind them over and over again, so that children can form a habit, and then they can finally remember the rules of throwing things.

2. Take appropriate preventive measures.

Parents can stop their children from throwing things by making it more difficult for them to do so.

For example, children like to throw nipples and buy them a nipple rope to buckle on their clothes; If you like to throw toys when you go out, fix the toys on the stroller or safety seat; If you like throwing tableware, buy them a sucker bowl with strong suction ... in short, find a solution in advance.

Even the problem of throwing food at children who are most troubled by their parents may be alleviated through appropriate prevention.

For example: let the child sit next to his parents to eat, so that he can quickly grab his hand when he wants to throw food; Give only a small amount of food at a time, and then give the next one after eating; No matter how much a child eats, throwing food should be regarded as a sign that he is full. Once he starts throwing food, he will be taken away from the table quickly, and even if he is hungry later, he will not be given food.

3. Stop children's aggressive throwing behavior.

When children throw things to vent their emotions and express their dissatisfaction, parents should stop them in time to prevent them from forming bad habits.

For example, when a child throws a toy at his child, parents should immediately stop it and tell him clearly: "This is not right, the child will be very painful, and you don't want to hurt it, right?" So you can't throw toys at others. "

When parents point out their children's mistakes, they should also understand and accept their emotions and help and encourage them to express their feelings.

"Mom knows that you are angry because you also want to play with that toy. Let's tell the children what you think and ask them if they can let you play for a while. You two take turns playing. "

If the child is angry and insists on aggressive behavior, parents should take the child away temporarily, let him out of the situation at that time, and let the child bear the natural consequences of throwing toys:

"You just threw the car on the child. You can't play with the car today."

4. Store and organize with children

We can give children some freedom to throw things, but we must remind them to pick them up and put them back after throwing.

However, it is often difficult for children aged 2 or 3 to put away toys. Parents can pick up discarded toys with their children. For example, we hold the child's hand to the toy and hold his hand to pick it up.

We can also help children develop the good habit of packing toys before going to bed by playing games, such as sending plush toys home together or competing with children to pack toys of one color.

Although children's littering behavior is a headache for parents, in fact, after understanding the reasons behind it, we can turn these "problem moments" into opportunities for children to grow up.

We don't have to be too obsessed with the phenomenon of "throwing things", but we should pay more attention to the psychological needs of children behind them and their desire for ability growth. Instead of blindly stopping children, it is better to give them more understanding and patience, and give them reasonable guidance on the basis of protecting their curiosity to help them get through this special period smoothly.