I married a rich man, and what my sister-in-law said broke my heart. What should I do if I meet someone with low emotional intelligence?

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We often say that a person has low emotional intelligence, cannot speak, and always slanders others.

It depends on the situation. Some people are really straightforward, their mouths are faster than their brains, and they are not malicious, but they are kind. If you get along with this kind of person for a long time, you will find that there is no shrewdness.

There are some people with truly low emotional intelligence. They speak through their brains. They think about it in their heads for a long time before speaking out. They say it just to slander you and disgust you. This kind of person is not worthy of deep friendship or being a friend.

At first, you would think that what he said was unintentional, but as you get along with him for a long time, you will find that every time he seems to be unintentional, it is all deliberate.

My best friend Wang Wei once complained to me, saying that her sister-in-law was too difficult to get along with. She used to have such a good relationship with her that she always thought about her, but I never expected that her sister-in-law would be such a person. , I really know people, faces but not hearts.

When Wang Wei was young, her family conditions were not very good. In order to support the family, her parents worked early and late. She was strong and sensible since she was a child, and she was determined to change her destiny through hard work and get herself out of poverty. So, I studied very hard, and later got into college and found a decent job.

A person’s family of origin seems to be a person’s destiny.

No matter how hard Wang Wei works, she can't get rid of her family's poverty. If a family wants to become rich, it cannot rely on the efforts of one person alone, but must rely on the concerted efforts of the whole family.

But Wang Wei’s brother does not have this awareness. He has been idle since he was a child and is not a good student at all. When he reached junior high school, he no longer wanted to go to school. He gave up on his own initiative. It was not that his parents did not allow him to study. Therefore, we cannot blame parents for being partial.

02.

When I was young, the relationship between Wang Wei and her brother was not bad. My brother came out to society early and could make some money. When my sister went to college, my brother could still Help me, give me some pocket money sister.

Wang Wei remembers this brother-sister relationship.

After her brother got married, Wang Wei had already gone to work. When she earned money, she bought clothes, shoes, socks and toys for her nephew. Even the company gave her birthday gifts, but Wang Wei herself was reluctant to use them and gave them to her nephew. .

To my sister-in-law, I treat my sister-in-law like a biological sister. I buy clothes for myself, buy two pairs, and bring one piece for my sister-in-law. Once when I was buying down jackets, the store held an event where they offered buy one get one free. Without saying anything, Wang Wei bought two of them and gave one to her sister-in-law. Even her own mother was reluctant to buy it.

My sister-in-law used the skin care products she used without saying anything. She liked them and gave them to her.

In short, Wang Wei doesn't care much about her sister-in-law at all. She just feels that since we are a family, we should help each other. My brother was good to me in the past, and now I am good to my sister-in-law and nephew, so I should reciprocate.

But such a harmonious relationship was broken after not lasting long. We have to start talking about Wang Wei when she got married.

Wang Wei was very attentive when she was in school and did not fall in love. When she went out to work, she would rather be inexperienced than promiscuous when she had boyfriends. Knowing what she wanted was a hundred times better than having casual sex.

It was also because of Wang Wei’s firm personality and outstanding abilities that she met her future husband Li Long, and the two fell in love.

Li Long opened a small company and achieved some success. In his early years, he was a poor boy. He worked hard step by step to get to where he is today.

The two people have similar fates, so they cherish each other and have the same topic.

But in the eyes of outsiders, Li Long was just lucky enough to have a successful career in his early 30s.

03.

After Wang Wei and Li Long got married, her sister-in-law began to behave like a monster, and her words were full of jealousy. At first, Wang Wei didn't notice it and thought her sister-in-law was just joking.

It wasn’t until she became pregnant that she suddenly realized that her sister-in-law was obviously malicious and jealous of her.

While chatting, relatives asked Wang Wei who she planned to take care of during her confinement period. Wang Wei said that her mother-in-law would come to help.

The relative said casually: "You will be happy when your mother-in-law comes, and you don't have to do anything.

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Wang Wei didn’t think there was anything wrong with the words of relatives at the time, but it was just a casual remark. Who in confinement still does housework by themselves?

But Unexpectedly, my sister-in-law said sourly: "You have a good life and don't have to do anything. You married a rich man and have a good mother-in-law. How different is it from me. I have to do everything by myself." "

Wang Wei didn't say anything, but she didn't expect her sister-in-law to say that, as if she was complaining about being wronged by her husband's family.

Then, the relative asked again, you and Li Long How did we meet?

Wang Wei was relatively innocent at that time, and she would answer honestly when people asked her about gossip. She just said that she met by chance when she was shopping with her friends.

The relative said: "Then you are lucky to get married so quickly. "

The sister-in-law then spoke again: "So what. Rich people are unreliable, and they may get divorced in two years. By then, your children will have no father, and you will no longer have a husband. ”

These words completely broke Wang Wei’s heart. In addition, during pregnancy, people tend to be sensitive. When she heard that her own sister-in-law, not only did she not bless herself, but she cursed herself for divorce. The unborn child will have no father.

How much hatred and resentment is there?

It doesn’t look like it was said casually, it seems like it has been brewing in my heart for a long time. I'll hurt you when I get the chance.

04.

Since her sister-in-law's words hurt people's hearts, Wang Wei has deliberately paid attention to her every move and found that she was behind her back. She always slanders herself, saying that her parents-in-law are partial and don't read to her son, but to her daughter. As a result, her son is hopeless and incompetent, but her daughter is married to a rich man and enjoys happiness, but she suffers.

This is ridiculous. No one forced her to marry. She was pregnant before marriage. How could she blame her sister-in-law for the path she chose? She didn't make things difficult for her.

Or it could be said that Wang Wei has only been working for a few years and got married without contributing to her mother's family. She is really a blind wolf and a loser. People who don't know the truth really think that what she said is true and that Wang Wei is such an unfilial daughter. The reputation is ruined.

But is this really the case?

In the first year of working, Wang Wei lived frugally and paid her salary every month. , I had to pay rent, water and electricity, and support myself. I was reluctant to even buy expensive clothes. I saved 5,000 yuan and gave it to my parents. This amount is not small for a recent graduate.

The next year, Wang Wei’s salary increased, so she bought her parents this and that, and paid them back during the New Year and holidays. Not only her parents, but also her sister-in-law gave her a set of facial masks and bought them for her nephew. New clothes and shoes, don’t these count as contributions?

My sister-in-law doesn’t care about other people’s kindness and deliberately slanders my sister-in-law. Doesn’t her sister-in-law have no emotions and won’t resist?

If someone slanders you for the first time and you endure it, it is because you care about the family relationship; if someone slanders you for the second time deliberately and you tolerate it, it is because you have a good temper; if someone maliciously slanders you for the third time, You still endured it, which means you are cowardly.

05.

Since then, the relationship between Wang Wei and her sister-in-law has completely become rigid, and they have stopped giving. I will no longer buy this or that for my sister-in-law. For my nephew, I will buy it when I am in a good mood and ignore it when I am in a bad mood.

The maintenance of relationships between people depends on sincerity. People who are insincere will Don't waste time anymore.

To put it bluntly, if you feed a puppy a bun, it will wag its tail to express gratitude to you, but people with ill intentions will never understand. Be grateful.

For those who don’t know how to be grateful, just stop being kind.

People like Wang Wei’s sister-in-law do not really have low emotional intelligence, but they have it for a long time. Premeditated, ill-intentioned.

“The most dangerous thing in the world is the human heart. The evil of animals lies in the pursuit of survival; the evil of human hearts lies in greed and delusion. Those who seek survival can be cured, but those who are greedy and delusional have nothing to do. ”

For those who are greedy for your things and have malicious intentions towards you, please stay away from them.

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