How bad are older women?

In today's society, there are more and more older women. Why, especially the post-90s generation, now people are talking about women's independence. Now that women are independent, rich and capable, it will be better for themselves at that time. Then we can create these independently. So, why should we be bound by marriage? By the way, how bad older women are today. This topic is also quite popular. Why are there more and more older women staying behind? 90% of women said that they actually missed this level. Some people say that marriage is the grave of love, and many beautiful memories are buried. Some people say that marriage is like a wall. People inside the wall desperately want to run out, while people outside the wall desperately want to squeeze in. So now we see many old women around us. They would rather be single than wronged themselves in marriage. So, how bad are older women? In my opinion, older women have one characteristic, that is, they are excellent! Don't make friends everywhere, don't stand out, don't stand out. Of course, the biggest woman I have ever met only loses her temper when others meddle. Far worse than any married man I have ever met. Married men can buy a house with a down payment before marriage, and there is no need to add a name after marriage. They forced their wives to pay the mortgage together and cheated. When they divorced, they didn't pay any mortgage. A woman wants to share her share of the money, but a man just won't. Forcing his wife to leave home with the children. I'm not a penny kid. Someone posted it to help me pay my mortgage. That's called meat does not spit bones. How to tell how bad older women are? 1, a good leftover woman knows how to pay, and a good leftover woman must know how to pay. She likes to do what she can for you. She reminds you to wear more clothes when the temperature is low in the morning. In order to knit scarves, she likes to cook for you and clean the room. She is willing to pay for you and always put you first. 2. Good leftover women know how to be grateful. Bad leftover women are like a bottomless pit. No matter how good you give, no matter how much you love her, no matter how hard she works, she will never be grateful. She thinks you are really good to her and should repay you with the same kindness. And the good leftover woman, because of your words, a warm thing, is twice as good for you. 3, good leftover women are affectionate, good leftover women are deeply focused, and their hearts will be filled with you. Even if it is shaken by others, good leftover women will clearly understand what to do. Once married, good leftover women will not allow themselves to make such mistakes. 4. Good leftover women are self-reliant. Some bad leftover women who worship money will not be particularly self-reliant. Even if they can't be financially independent, good leftover women will be reflected in having a good housekeeping way. Therefore, women who worship money are usually too ambitious, but they can't realize their ambitions and will become vampires who suck men. If a bad leftover woman leaves a good leftover woman, it may be a means to bind you, but this means must only make men itch and want to get close, but not make men feel pain. Most of the bad leftover women left because they never cared about you, used the ATM machine, and were nice to you when withdrawing money. How can older women quickly get rid of singles 1 and let go of themselves? Some women become leftover women, not because they are too demanding, but because they don't want to get out of their previous relationships. They may have suffered a lot in their previous relationship, so they can't let go of themselves for a long time. In fact, what I want to say is that the last emotional thing was quite sad, but we can't always immerse ourselves in the pain of that emotional thing, especially when the men have come out and you are still stuck in it. Such a thing is meaningless and won't change anything. Therefore, if such an older woman wants to take off the bill, she must first let herself out. 2, don't fantasize, to act, some leftover women actually want to take off their orders and find a man to fall in love, just think so, just won't be moved. They only talk about it verbally, but when it comes to action, they shrink back. Therefore, if a woman wants to take off the bill, she should not be ashamed to pursue a man actively. It's no use being shy. If she wants to find a good man, she should take the initiative, because the men who come to see you are probably love rat. 3. Self-improvement Some women think it is providence to turn themselves into leftover women, so they don't care about such things at all. They don't work hard on themselves and dress casually every day. Sometimes they go out when they are too lazy to wash their faces. In fact, I want to say that even if God meets you, you will scare others away in this way, so since you are not in a hurry, why not use this time to improve yourself? Make yourself better, and then God will give you a better man, won't he? The way for leftover women to find a partner is 1. Older women can choose their partners among their colleagues. It is also helpful to get rid of the bill as soon as possible to attend the parties between colleagues frequently and exchange feelings and life with colleagues more. 2, find friends and relatives to introduce. Because relatives and friends generally know the roots, the conditions of the people introduced are more reliable. Moreover, relatives and friends have a wide network of contacts, so you can have more opportunities to find a suitable good object without going out to find it yourself. This is the best way. 3. You can go to a matchmaking company and leave your resume. After paying the money, the matchmaking company will help screen men with similar conditions. Generally speaking, most matchmaking companies are interested in money. When money is satisfied, they are generally willing to enthusiastically introduce the right object to their customers. 4, you can go to a professional dating site to find it. Now there are many dating sites, which is also a bridge of contact. Although many dating websites are not very reliable now, and the people inside are very complicated, it is difficult to tell the truth from the false, but it can also increase your chances of meeting more outstanding men and thus marry yourself more effectively. You can find excellent men in your field. After all, many leftover women are excellent in all aspects. At a certain stage, with career and achievements, you can find talents similar to yourself. This is also a good way to increase the matching degree. It is always easier for similar people to talk together without having to talk to a husband who doesn't always talk about the same field. 6. Older women can find objects on QQ and WeChat. Basically, they are surrounded by people similar to themselves, and it is more likely to find the right opposite sex among them. You can find similar men without leaving home. Chatting and talking in groups often helps the opposite sex to know themselves and increase their popularity. Online dating itself is also a good way of life. Maybe you married yourself after talking? Extended reading: psychological problems that are easy to occur in older women. 1. What psychological problems are older women prone to? Many women have unconsciously entered the ranks of older women, especially at this time when they are urged by their parents and friends, and they are more likely to have some psychological obstacles. If this happens for a long time, it will also affect their lives and work. So, what psychological problems are older women prone to? 1, closed psychology This kind of women are naturally unsociable, unwilling to take the initiative on marriage issues, even unwilling to associate with married colleagues, and lock themselves in their own land in Xiaotian. They like to be alone and have a narrow range of contacts. This kind of psychology actually greatly reduces their chances of choosing a spouse. Their willingness to wait for the bait will only make them "lofty" and discourage a considerable number of men who are interested in them. Moreover, marriage is a two-way choice. If you don't move, two-way becomes one-way. Isn't there a half chance at once? 2, rebellious psychology Some older women, in the past, demanded too much of their spouses and lost many opportunities. They should learn from it and become realistic. However, they set a higher standard and thought, "I can't make people laugh now." This mentality makes them more "selective" and must meet the ideal requirements. They idealize love and lack realism. They always want their love to be as romantic as described in the novel: the moon is white and the wind is clear, and Prince Charming suddenly falls from the sky; Love at first sight, the flower of love suddenly miraculously bloomed. It should be noted that marriage is to live a real life and choose a spouse in a down-to-earth manner. Why waste youth in dreams? 3. Inferiority This kind of women think that it is disgraceful to be alone in the boudoir over the age of 30, so they are most afraid that others will talk about marriage, and they are most afraid that others will ask about their marriage in a caring tone, and they are pessimistic and disappointed with themselves, thinking that love will never come again, and they will never have love again. They either gradually close their hearts and stop pursuing, even if a real man comes, they will "knock on the door nine times"; Either go to the other extreme, succumb to the pressure and influence of society, parents and friends, follow the crowd and find someone to make do with it. These psychological barriers will directly affect a normal life of women, so the older you get, the more you need to pay attention to your mental health care, because maintaining a positive and optimistic attitude can make you face life more happily, and even older women can exude their own unique charm. Second, older women must know the skills of blind date. If you are still repelled by blind date, don't be old-fashioned! Related studies have found that this may be the most efficient and safest way to find a lifelong partner. Please put down your little pimple and embrace every blind date with joy. 1, the first step to a successful blind date is to take good care of the "facade". What can I wear on a date to make a good first impression? I have seen a girl in smoky makeup, with a low chest and bare back, eager to show her proud figure. Well, it definitely attracts men's attention. It is very effective if he is looking for someone, but he will definitely think twice about marrying you. Flowers that attract bees and butterflies are not the life partner he wants. Besides, never wear clothes that are too loose and fat, such as a hip-hop street dress twice your age. You think dating is very comfortable, but believe me, when a man can't figure out the difference between your waist and chest, he basically loses interest in you. On the first date, showing the household clothes after ten years of marriage will only make men want to run away screaming. What's appropriate to wear? My suggestion is to wear soft clothes, show your figure lines, and don't expose them. For example, a well-tailored shirt or a docile sweater can show your beautiful figure (to be honest, men still care about this). Clothing color can choose pink, goose yellow or white, gentle and generous, is a beautiful and safe first date color. Don't forget to put on a little makeup before you go out. A good complexion also means a good physique. From the evolutionary point of view, courtship is to breed a better next generation, and healthy body is the expression of good genes, which is very attractive to blind date. 2. After meeting, how can I get extra points? Here are a few super bonus points: smile. Look into each other's eyes and smile when talking. This is by no means to belittle yourself, but to enhance charm. Many women think that looking at him seems to give the other person the upper hand. Don't say that. You're going on a blind date, not a bargain. Blind date should show sincerity. Smiling not only conveys goodwill, but also shows your good family education. Who wants to marry a wife without a tutor? Prepare some topics in advance to resolve the embarrassment of blind date. For example, make a simple and wonderful self-introduction: "My name is Zhang Man, but I hope happiness will come soon." Or "I am a lawyer, but I am a poet at heart." Interesting self-introduction will bring us closer in an instant. In case of sudden silence in the middle of the conversation, take out the prepared topic. Remember, it must be fun to share with each other. Don't turn blind date into a complaint meeting. I once heard that someone said to others as soon as they came up, "My colleague has cancer ..." The other person might nod sympathetically, but he was muttering, "Oh, my God! If this is the state I will face after marriage, I'd better run away as early as possible! So, take out the idea of pouring bitter water, prepare some interesting things about yourself and show him your positive and optimistic attitude towards life. When communicating, one of the secrets is to show interest in each other. " What is the most interesting thing about your job? ""What do you play after work? "You can imagine yourself as a psychologist, and you won't stop until you thoroughly analyze the person in front of you today. We all like people who are interested in us, and nothing is more invincible than expressing sincere interest to each other. When the other person shows a lack of self-confidence, give encouragement quickly. If a man says, "I'm not very tall, it's more difficult to find someone." You must never say, "Yes, you are really short." "Or," No, no, no, you are quite tall. " Instead, it should be said: "In fact, everyone's charm is different, and the charm of men is not necessarily in height. When a woman says, "I really like shopping, but I'm too fat to buy suitable clothes." Men should never blurt out, "in my opinion, you weigh about 70 kilograms, right?" Instead, you should say, "Really, it's obvious that you care about this. "First of all, I understand, and then I said," Many women care more about being fat than men. Actually, not all men are looking for a supermodel. "Give affirmation and encouragement. I believe that everyone who can't find happiness and start dating has a lot of bitterness and grievances. Whoever can solve this kind of psychology can get a higher impression.