How do you understand the sentence "It is a matter of affection to help you, but it is a duty not to help you"?

I think this sentence is very reasonable. It means that no matter what relationship a person has with you, he/she has no obligation to help you. If he/she helps you, That's his/her right and it's his/her intention. If he/she doesn't want to help you, there's nothing wrong with him/her. After all, a person, whether he/she helps another person or not, is a right that he/she can exercise himself/herself, and he/she also has the right to choose.

In today’s society, I don’t know if other people usually pay attention to it. Anyway, I have discovered that it is my right to help others. Even if I don’t want to help sometimes, there is nothing wrong with it. Although society advocates being willing to help others, whether to help or not is a matter of personal preference. Sometimes someone may go too far, so you can talk about it and express your opinion. But sometimes, under the instigation of some public opinions and groups of people, whether to help or not may become a kind of moral kidnapping.

Just like what you often see in the news, I saw such a news on the Internet. An old man fell on the road and couldn't get up, so he lay on the ground. , a young man passed by and saw the old man lying on the ground. He originally planned to step forward to help the old man up, but the moment he stretched out his hand, he took it back and called an ambulance instead. Later, a video was circulated on the Internet, with mixed reviews. Most of the derogatory comments were that young people were immoral and would not help the elderly up when they saw them falling to the ground.

In fact, in my opinion, there are certain reasons why young people are unwilling to directly help the elderly. Now in society, there have been many incidents of well-intentioned helping the elderly but being blackmailed. For a period of time This has also triggered a discussion on whether the elderly should be helped, so young people are also acting out of caution. Furthermore, in fact, young people calling for an ambulance are already helping, unlike some people who pretend to Didn't see it, so he left. Helping is a young man's decision based on his heart, and not helping is also his right.

I always feel that if a person is willing to help others, he/she may do it because of their friendship with you or their inner thoughts, but except for some true and excessive things, other things do not exist. There is a saying that if you don’t help, you are guilty. If a person is capable and he/she is willing to do his/her best to help others, that is affection and benevolence. If he/she is unwilling, we can only think about it in our hearts and cannot say Just really restrain others.

?In today’s society, there are always some people who try to blackmail people under various excuses. For some people, he/she may have gained their own wealth and become rich through their own hard work. , but he/she deserves everything, and they neither steal nor rob. At this time, if there are people in the family who want to help introduce jobs because of difficulties in life, yes, they have a heart and want to help the family, that is understandable, but if you think they are already rich, it doesn’t matter if they give some of it, just If they come to defraud people under the pretext of asking them to help their families, then they really don't even care about their feelings.

In my opinion, there are still many such phenomena, just like my classmate’s uncle. His family is very rich, but he worked hard bit by bit when he was young. The father of a classmate is the second eldest child in the family, and there is also a youngest in the family. He typically thinks that his brother's family has money, so he should use it to help his younger brother. Therefore, for this reason, he has destroyed very little of the relationship between the brothers. . It seems that he always feels that his brother should help him, and it seems that he is right not to work hard. Anyway, his brother has money. It seems that his brother's money just falls from the sky. If he can't get the money from his brother, he will curse.

In fact, no matter what it is, if someone is willing to help you, it is out of their kindness. When you accept someone’s help, you should feel grateful in your heart and don’t feel like It's the right thing to do when others help you. That way, no one will be willing to take the initiative in the future.