How to educate and guide timid children

1, starting from small things, no perseverance is another psychological root of children's timidity. A person with weak perseverance will flinch when he finds it difficult to overcome difficulties. But accumulating victories to overcome small difficulties can gradually cultivate people's perseverance to overcome big difficulties. Therefore, it is necessary to ask children to start from small things, especially the things that he ignores most and is most likely to expose the weakness of will, and cultivate perseverance. For example, get up on time every day, keep a diary and do morning exercises. Under no circumstances can you be sloppy, persistent and make no excuses. Over time, you can gradually cultivate tenacious perseverance.

2. Don't criticize irony. Timid children have high self-esteem. Parents must not criticize irony because of their children's shortcomings, which will deepen the influence of their children's bad emotions. Parents should give their children more words and eyes of encouragement and appreciation, enhance their self-confidence and reduce psychological stress.

3, let go of tempering children, dare to let go of letting children temper in the ocean of life. Some parents always treat their children as children, or they are afraid that their children can't stand being beaten, so they always say: No, you are still young. Parents' arranged substitution will cultivate children's timid character, lack independent spirit and adaptability, and once they leave their parents, they will appear flustered and at a loss. Moderate setbacks and hardships are indispensable wealth for children's growth. Parents should never deprive them easily, but should let their children play freely. Children especially like to play with sand and mud, so parents should try not to interfere with how he plays.

4. Don't blame and humiliate your child in public, which will only increase your child's pressure and frustration, and make him more timid and retreat. When a child refuses to call someone, don't force him to call in front of the guests, and don't say that no one can call, saying that he is dumb. On the contrary, he should patiently educate and encourage the children after the guests leave.

5, set a positive example, often tell children heroic stories, or guide children to watch some movies and TV dramas that reflect heroic figures, buy some books and periodicals for children, and let the heroic words and deeds of the characters in the story subtly influence children. Give the child positive psychological hints and list some brave behaviors, such as not crying after hitting someone, or just crying for a little while, being able to speak loudly and admit his mistakes, etc.

We should also pay attention to the influence of father on the boy's character. Fathers often joke and play with children, and pay more attention to talking about fathers with children, so that the image and behavior of fathers can be clearly left in children's minds.

No matter how your child is now, please try not to label him in front of him, whether it is good or bad, because every child deserves to be respected.

6. Chat quietly with your child, find a suitable time, chat quietly with your child in a gentle tone, and do everything possible to understand your child's inner thoughts and follow your child's wishes. The world of adults is completely different from that of children. Only by truly entering the child's heart and becoming intimate friends with the child can we completely change the child. In other words, parents should spend more time with introverted and shy children.

7. Constantly and patiently demonstrate to children over and over again. Usually, parents will consciously ask their children: "It is polite for friends to meet and say hello. People usually say, hello, uncle, aunt, etc. So how do you want to greet people? At this time, children may express their inner thoughts, which is a good start, and parents should express their support and approval.